"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women signals before "settling"

jhonny9546

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This isn't the first time it's happened to me, and I know I'm not the only one. I'm not saying I'm reinventing the wheel here bu some women, just before moving in with their partner or becoming pregnant, basically at a point where they're comfortable enough to consider starting a family, begin exploring other options?!
They send out IOI signals to other men, and if the opportunity presents itself, they act on it.

But then, once pregnant or after the child is born, they often become deeply devoted mothers.
They throw themselves into family life, planning wedding, organizing trips, and hosting celebrations, validating their lifestyle.

This has happened to me twice, and now a male friend of mine is going through something very similar.


Does this mean all women do this? Of course not.
But I can't help but wonder what’s really going through their minds during that transition.
They look like dogs going "heat"
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I think it varies. I've actually observed quite a few women who seem to stray soon after the child is born, especially on returning to work. It's almost like they're seeking affirmation that they've still 'got it'.

In my experience, having a child doesn't necessarily change a woman into a caring mother. That's what we're meant to believe but it's often far from true. Many young mothers put their own needs and wishes before those of her children and partner.
 

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I've actually observed quite a few women who seem to stray soon after the child is born, especially on returning to work. It's almost like they're seeking affirmation that they've still 'got it'.
I don't think it's as common for women to stray soon after a child is born, especially if it is her first child. The early years of motherhood require a lot of effort.

Straying is more common after the oldest child gets a little bit more independent and the relationship has decayed with the passage of time. This typically happens at some point when the oldest child is school aged, between 5-17 years old.

Women are more built for serial monogamy, which is to be monogamous with a male for a period of time to cover pregnancy, childbirth, and raising a child to a somewhat independent state.

In my experience, having a child doesn't necessarily change a woman into a caring mother. That's what we're meant to believe but it's often far from true. Many young mothers put their own needs and wishes before those of her children and partner.
Many mothers try to act like they care but are often self-centered. Women can do a convincing job through their social media pictures and videos showing off like a caring mother.
 

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Women are more built for serial monogamy, which is to be monogamous with a male for a period of time to cover pregnancy, childbirth, and raising a child to a somewhat independent state.
Many mothers try to act like they care but are often self-centered. Women can do a convincing job through their social media pictures and videos showing off like a caring mother.
They create their own lifestyle and try to convince those around them to follow it.
Many women are incredibly skilled at what they do. The family is often their own creation. In fact, the social image a family projects is often thanks to the efforts of a capable woman.
How many times have you heard people talking about the "Mansons" or the "Mayers", families that seemed like the perfect picture, like something out of a commercial?
All thanks to the woman. Even though, as we know, for that woman, the period in question may have dragged on for many different reasons.

You've pretty much confirmed what I was saying. Especially the part I highlighted in bold reflects reality and explains many things that happen, starting with marriage and divorce, and cheating.
 
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