How often do you regret?

[PlatoPacks23]

For some reason I've lately been regretting a lot of things recently.

Last Thursday had a couple situations I was kicking myself over not saying hi to people,
Then that Sunday had a more life situation where things didn't work out how I wanted and was going over how I could've made the result different

And now this Tuesday I wanted to say hi to someone, but logistics (which in retrospect I could have changed) prevented it from happening and never got the chance to.

So for the last 6 hours or so I've been kicking myself about today, just like on Sunday (until today) I was kicking myself about regret over something else. I feel like it just keeps feeding itself.

Now this is as someone who normally goes through my routine doing things, but for whatever reason every time I "miss" an opportunity (1 out of 7 or 8 let's say) it just continues to eat at me.


Does anyone have advice?

 

[BPH]

I'd been giving guys on dating subreddits advice on stuff like this, and I think that applies here, so I'll tell you what I tell them:

Make bold mistakes, not conservative ones.

The potential upside to any interaction with a woman you're interested in is monumental compared to the potential downside. You may get rejected, sure. But you may also NOT get rejected, which could lead to a kiss, sex, a girlfriend, marriage, kids, and a happy life with a wonderful partner.

Nobody cares about your life as much as you, so do the things YOU want to do.

 

[Barrister]

It’s natural to wonder “what if.” What if I had bought that property ten years ago? What if I had asked that gorgeous girl out in biology back in college? What if I ended my miserable marriage sooner?

It is the human condition to reminisce, lament, and wonder what could be. We have all done it. Probably more often than some of us care to admit. The truth is most of the wondering gains you nothing. You did what you did at the time for a reason. Maybe it was the wrong choice or maybe it wasn’t. The key is to always be looking forward. If you don’t like something you’re doing over and over, then recognize it and change it. Whether that’s with women or anything in life. Regret serves no purpose. Ask yourself how to improve, make a list, and do it. You build momentum and start ticking off the list and you’ll find your mindset is way better.

 

[ValiantMale]

Regret is a wasteful emotion and feeling unless it drives you to start acting different. People who spend time regretting don't spend enough time progressing.

 

[PlatoPacks23]

still today feeling pissed about yesterday but hopefully this rest of week goes better

if I can leave every day not having "regrets" like I did, then thats a win in my book.

I could feel the hesitation in me as I was leaving, but juts leads to really overwhelming regret and "what I should've done " after which feels super bad

 

[The Duke]

I never have regrets. I view mistakes and wrong choices as opportunities to do better next time. I'm not wasting space in my head for things in the past I can't change.

 

[SW15]

Make bold mistakes, not conservative ones.

Bold mistakes are always better to make than conservative ones.

 

[Chow Mein]

Bold mistakes are always better to make than conservative ones.

That’s what BPH just said, I swear, you’re like a sounding board for him/them.

Bold mistakes calibrate what you should do next time

 

[BaronOfHair]

Does anyone have advice?

Remind yourself that, unless Doc Brown loans you The DeLorean, there's no altering sh-t that already happened. Then re-focus on creating a rich, vibrant life today

 

[darksprezzatura]

Practicing mindfulness is a great habit