Weird day game experience

[ManlyMan]

Completely normal in daygame. Girls are flaky.

 

[Jor-El]

You could have run with the cheese puns,and a had a,well,cheesy conversation..such as "Please brie mine. Let the gouda times roll! Are we gouda have a good time -you cheddar believe it! Absence makes the heart grow fondue...Ricotta get through this"! She would have been yours for sure!

 

[Sega Genesis]

What is your intention with this date?"

I'm like, um, to hang out and get to know each other better.

Then she's like "Oh, I have a boyfriend".

^^This actually reads (to me as a female) like she didn't like your response so used the "I have a boyfriend" as an excuse, soft rejection.

Had you responded "I want to take you out to the finest restaurant, order expensive food and wine, and basically have a great time," she might have had a different response.

My guess is she doesn't have a boyfriend at all, otherwise you're right, why text you? Only to soft reject you after you responded "to 'hang out"?

Translation (in female speak): To have sex with you.

Um oh, in that case "I have a boyfriend."

Consider it a bullet dodged!

Just my take.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Consider it a bullet dodged!

I strongly disagree, this is a catchable throw dropped by OP.

 

[BadBoy89]

Why bother even texting me if she has a boyfriend?

- ego
- see how desperate you are

 

[Sega Genesis]

I strongly disagree, this is a catchable throw dropped by OP.

I dunno to tell a guy she has a boyfriend after SHE initiated a text and asked him his intention with this date, again reads like she may have gone, but simply didn't like his response and wanted to be "wined and dined." OR something of the like.

There are many women (especially those with LOW interest) who do not respond well to date invites to "hang out."

That's why I said bullet dodged. LOW interest.

But we can agree to disagree.

 

[Sega Genesis]

Then she's like "Oh, I have a boyfriend".

By the way @Apone how did you respond after she told you that?

Did you ask "then why did you text me IF you have a boyfriend"?

Call her on it, be bold, be direct. Take no nonsense!

Which that was, definitely.

You might have even increased her interest by being bold and direct. Created some tension. Which is never a bad thing IMO.

 

[Clockwerk50]

OP, you’re going to run into this more often than not. A woman’s interest usually depends on her emotional and physical needs at the time and whether you seem like someone who can meet them. Since you can’t know those factors upfront, most people will just say it’s a numbers game mixed with luck.

Still, take some solace in the fact that you were attractive and bold enough for her to entertain the conversation, even briefly. Sometimes the door opens and closes just as fast; it’s just part of the game. Maybe she’ll text you again in a week, maybe not. Just keep moving forward.

For what it’s worth, I had a situation like this about 13 years ago. I saw this girl at the mall years ago who later became a C-list R&B singer. We shared the same nationality, so we probably had mutual friends. She friended me on Facebook, creeped my profile, and sent the first message. But my weak game at the time killed any momentum. She hit me with the “I have a boyfriend” line, even though she was just there with her dad and no boyfriend in sight. My friends asked the same rhetorical question: why even initiate contact?

The answer was simple: she was looking for something that she thought I could provide, but I didn’t show I could provide it during that short convo. My game was weak.

Same principle applies here.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I dunno to tell a guy she has a boyfriend after SHE initiated a text and asked him his intention with this date, again reads like she may have gone, but simply didn't like his response and wanted to be "wined and dined." OR something of the like.

Yes, she gave OP a chance and he fumbled it with that low effort obvious fvck boy response. The whole point here is to not have any fingers pointing at you and op failed.

There are many women (especially those with LOW interest) who do not respond well to date invites to "hang out."

Why would any girl not desperate for some dvck respond well to that?

 

[ValiantMale]

So I saw this 9 at the grocery store giving out samples of cheese. She gave me a big smile. I was in a hurry so figured I would try a hail mary and give her my number before I left. I thought nothing would come from it.

She winds up texting me a few days later. We make some small talk and I ask her out. Her response:

"What is your intention with this date?"

I'm like, um, to hang out and get to know each other better.

Then she's like "Oh, I have a boyfriend".

Welp.

Why bother even texting me if she has a boyfriend?

What this tells me is that she's just looking for some NSA fun and you eliminated yoursel fback into the pool of many guys who also want to "get to know her" how boring doe sthat sound for a woman whos sexually experienced and just wants to have fun

 

[BaronOfHair]

She sounded like she was down for a hot sex session but OP instead wanted to play it safe...

Hell, provided he's worked on his voice, he could've sealed the deal with her in person, by uttering words along these lines