"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Self-Help: double edge sword?

jhonny9546

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Consuming self-help content, whether it's books or simple videos, can really make a difference.
If you want to become a good painter, all you have to do is start consuming everything related to painting. In my case, it worked, and I became very good.
If you want to improve with women, do the same.


It's as if consuming information from that content makes us much better .For people like us who may go through tough times and are looking for ways to stay resilient, positive, and optimistic, self-help is a great aid. But there’s a big problem: I’ve realized that when I consume this content, I’m much more positive and charismatic, but I also fall more easily into the blue pill mindset.
It’s as if to feel worthy of having goals, the self-help narrative pushes me to adopt that point of view to be more "happy" and "positive."

Has this ever happened to you?
Also, how do you view these contents? Positive or Negative?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Travel memoir21

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Consuming self-help content, whether it's books or simple videos, can really make a difference.
If you want to become a good painter, all you have to do is start consuming everything related to painting. In my case, it worked, and I became very good.
If you want to improve with women, do the same.


It's as if consuming information from that content makes us much better .For people like us who may go through tough times and are looking for ways to stay resilient, positive, and optimistic, self-help is a great aid. But there’s a big problem: I’ve realized that when I consume this content, I’m much more positive and charismatic, but I also fall more easily into the blue pill mindset.
It’s as if to feel worthy of having goals, the self-help narrative pushes me to adopt that point of view to be more "happy" and "positive."

Has this ever happened to you?
Also, how do you view these contents? Positive or Negative?
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.” - Proverbs 17:22. A good and moderated optimistic attitude can never go wrong. Logic, when it comes to a certain subject, applied with emotional intelligence, social experience and life experience is what it's all about. That's when knowing to be happy or being calmly extra focus on something comes into play.
 
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