Got a job and most of my co-workers are hot girls. How would I go about gaming?

[Bokanovsky]

2nd day and instead of focusing on the job, being the best you can be there and learn it very well, you are flirting already? Desperate much?

Becoming the best he can be at what? Restocking bottles and clearing tables?

 

[BPH]

A busser/barback is not a customer-facing job.

Barbacks are. At the college bars I'd been to they were often just as popular as the bartenders and often rose into those positions.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Give us an example of what happened. She initiated, and you asked her out, or did she invite you somewhere

When it became knowledge that I was now single, a number of the girls at work (and client sites) got a lot more friendly and expressed interest. A lot of sexual comments.

For example, a girl whom I was acquainted with at a client site, came up to me while I was working at the site & said: ‘I know you probably don’t care what people think about you, but you’re really good looking.’
Another example, a coworker said to me; ‘I want to sit on daddy’s lap.’ She then realized she said it in front of other coworkers & got embarrassed.

One more; a coworker & I were discussing whiskey, at one point I jokingly told her: ‘I scratch, but I don’t bite.’ She replied: ‘We should go out and get a drink.’

Things like this

And similar events at multiple jobs when I was single.

 

[BadBoy89]

Frame? Lmao. What a lame thing to say

So instead of explaining why you didn’t lose frame, you get defensive and insult.

If you insult me, any hot girl could make your head spin within 21 seconds. I don’t think you are working with 20 hot girls. Your post is made up,

 

[CornbreadFed]

Op will probably get more boned messing up with a patron over a coworker. A couple of screwups with patrons can result in complaints, rumors, and etc. This can result in worse consequences than simply being rejected by a coworker. All OP needs to do is maintain high physical attractiveness and just be friendly with limited aggression and he should be solid. Even if his physically coworkers reject him, if he’s cool to be around they will offer him social opportunities.

 

[Oatmeal31]

So instead of explaining why you didn’t lose frame, you get defensive and insult.

If you insult me, any hot girl could make your head spin within 21 seconds. I don’t think you are working with 20 hot girls. Your post is made up,

Yep, sure I made it up because you didn't like what i said. Like I said, lame

 

[Oatmeal31]

All I'm saying is he could just sleep with the patrons rather than the staff, and have zero risk.

Bokanovsky is kinda right. I don't really get to interact with customers much. I just pre-bus tables, immediately clear a table with it's half, stock bottles, clean glassware, etc. I do face the customers but it would be frowned upon for me to talk with customers at the bar/table, since it's left up to the server or bartender. I get smiles from the patrons and what not, but not much else I can do unless they make it a point to talk to me. I just started though, so maybe I can get away with or try new things. Time will tell

When it became knowledge that I was now single, a number of the girls at work (and client sites) got a lot more friendly and expressed interest. A lot of sexual comments.

For example, a girl whom I was acquainted with at a client site, came up to me while I was working at the site & said: ‘I know you probably don’t care what people think about you, but you’re really good looking.’
Another example, a coworker said to me; ‘I want to sit on daddy’s lap.’ She then realized she said it in front of other coworkers & got embarrassed.

One more; a coworker & I were discussing whiskey, at one point I jokingly told her: ‘I scratch, but I don’t bite.’ She replied: ‘We should go out and get a drink.’

Things like this

And similar events at multiple jobs when I was single.

That's nutty. Never really had that happen to me with co-workers except maybe a couple times

You've been there 2 days and you know everything already? Sounds like you are a genius. Also, you need to demonstrate high value, flirting with them and giving them attention is what literally other men do, what is the rush? Are you desperate for sex?


This what I call a loser mentality. If that his job then fine. Be the best doing that, make connections with customers, find ways to save money to that company or bar, be a fvcking winner. Learn how what other above you do, so you can cover them when they're off. Ask the boss where is the help needed, accounting, financing, marketing, be a go getter. You might start as restocking bottles, but with a great attitude towards the job, towards customers, towards the business, can make you a shift leader, then manager, and later managing multiple restaurants. Then with that experience, you can even start your own restaurant. People today have no aspirations, pathetic.

That is the winner mentality, not doing the bare minimum for a job. That's why us immigrant kick any american born citizen's a$$, because we have the mentality of being winners. This guy and probably you don't take advantage of opportunities, and you see a hot girl and your whole world comes crashing down chasing puzzy.

I was trying to remember why I had you already blocked, and now I see why. You're not the sharpest tool in the shed

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Bokanovsky is kinda right. I don't really get to interact with customers much. I just pre-bus tables, immediately clear a table with it's half, stock bottles, clean glassware, etc. I do face the customers but it would be frowned upon for me to talk with customers at the bar/table, since it's left up to the server or bartender. I get smiles from the patrons and what not, but not much else I can do unless they make it a point to talk to me. I just started though, so maybe I can get away with or try new things. Time will tell




That's nutty. Never really had that happen to me with co-workers except maybe a

That’s the tip of the iceberg. I’ve had some interesting experiences at work.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Funny story about barback. I was absolutely hammered one night, a few years ago. At a club I occasionally frequented. I was offered a barback job by the club. I still have the written offer.
I was considering working a club one night a week at the time. This was during my post-divorce crazy days just before Covid.

 

[Oatmeal31]

That’s the tip of the iceberg. I’ve had some interesting experiences at work.

Were you a manager? I briefly worked with a guy that used to be a restaurant manager at Twin Peaks and he said that the girls would always hit on him, some even sent him nudes. Short, fat, older, but very fun, charismatic guy in that position. Said he never took the dive since he had a couple flings outside of work. Hell, I don't think I'd be able to resist

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Were you a manager? I briefly worked with a guy that used to be a restaurant manager at Twin Peaks and he said that the girls would always hit on him, some even sent him nudes. Short, fat, older, but very fun, charismatic guy in that position. Said he never took the dive since he had a couple flings outside of work. Hell, I don't think I'd be able to resist

Sometimes I was.
mostly not.

 

[Oatmeal31]

Sometimes I was.
mostly not.

From what you told me, sounds like they made a move on you first, not the other way around. So you just tried to have a good time, tease, maybe flirt here and there and they'll come to you so you're not known as 'that guy'?

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Best thing to do OP is be the "cool guy". That way you do not seem starstruck. You act as though you are accustomed to being around hot women & you treat them normal. Just be chill.

As the girls acclimate to you not being another over eager leg humper you get to know them & build comfort/rapport. The service industry is a small world. Barbacks can become bartenders who become managers who become owners if you are cool, smart and ambitious.

My first husband owned the hottest live music venue in a nightlife city years ago. He worked his way up. I was a girl every guy wanted. Guess how I got to know my first husband? He was cool and acted normal. He was attractive but his relaxed vibe & lack of desperation built rapport. You play long game & enjoy the energy and experience.

After a while you'll be able to hang out after hours & chill with these gals. And the opportunities will happen.

Be chill & enjoy the ride.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Strategies are for beta males with no game
, no charm and nothing going on for them, therefore they resort to strategies to become someone they're not.

Ignoring a girl on purpose is for puzzies, to think that " Oh let me ignore her so she likes me more" Its a cover contract, it doesn't work. She can see how you look at her from far away from time to time, she can see your body ticks when she's around you, she knows you like her and you will appear you don't have the balls to approach. You are a beta male using tactics like a robot.

You should ignore her, not on purpose, but because you're doing better things than pay attention to her. That's the difference between a beta vs alpha. I can teach you a thing or two at a low modest price, DM so you can finally leave that loser mentality of yours.

 

[Bible_Belt]

you not being another over eager leg humper

I was going to say the same thing, but could never have phrased it so well.

 

[Solomon]

Advice from the old lady:

Best thing to do OP is be the "cool guy". That way you do not seem starstruck. You act as though you are accustomed to being around hot women & you treat them normal. Just be chill.

As the girls acclimate to you not being another over eager leg humper you get to know them & build comfort/rapport. The service industry is a small world. Barbacks can become bartenders who become managers who become owners if you are cool, smart and ambitious.

My first husband owned the hottest live music venue in a nightlife city years ago. He worked his way up. I was a girl every guy wanted. Guess how I got to know my first husband? He was cool and acted normal. He was attractive but his relaxed vibe & lack of desperation built rapport. You play long game & enjoy the energy and experience.

After a while you'll be able to hang out after hours & chill with these gals. And the opportunities will happen.

Be chill & enjoy the ride.

I was chuckling at "LEG HUMPER" you also bring up a good point. They use to have "Service Industry Nights" these were nights(usually Mondays or Tuesdays it depends on the area etc) were people at bars/returants got discounts at certain places who worked in the hospitiality industry. If I was OP and they have him in his city/state I would take advantage of that. It's easy to make connections with other barstaff i.e. bartenders, waitresses etc. If they know you're in the industry the benefits are huge. Because now you have access to other bars/clubs and don't have to "shyt" where you eat at your own spot if you catch my drfit. If I was OP I would look for "Service Industry *Input City Name* on facebook and Instagram or just google it.

I didn't work at bars but I made connections going out those nights. Service industry nights (espeically if they were on Monday) tend to be slower and less chaotic but it was a perfect time to network.I saved crap ton of money with free drinks over the years. Being able to skip long wait lines. While bringing girls in tow. VIP access etc.

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[Hamurabimbi]

From what you told me, sounds like they made a move on you first, not the other way around. So you just tried to have a good time, tease, maybe flirt here and there and they'll come to you so you're not known as 'that guy'?

What is ‘that guy’?

 

[BeExcellent]

I was chuckling at "LEG HUMPER" you also bring up a good point. They use to have "Service Industry Nights" these were nights(usually Mondays or Tuesdays it depends on the area etc) were people at bars/returants got discounts at certain places who worked in the hospitiality industry. If I was OP and they have him in his city/state I would take advantage of that. It's easy to make connections with other barstaff i.e. bartenders, waitresses etc. If they know you're in the industry the benefits are huge. Because now you have access to other bars/clubs and don't have to "shyt" where you eat at your own spot if you catch my drfit. If I was OP I would look for "Service Industry *Input City Name* on facebook and Instagram or just google it.

I didn't work at bars but I made connections going out those nights. Service industry nights (espeically if they were on Monday) tend to be slower and less chaotic but it was a perfect time to network.I saved crap ton of money with free drinks over the years. Being able to skip long wait lines. While bringing girls in tow. VIP access etc.

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Agree about the Service Industry Nights. A certain poster here who is local to me wanted to immerse himself into that world. We met a couple of times to chat. He is a very successful man in a prestigious field. He drives a high end car. He is good looking and fit.

But his style was WAY too uptight, like thick rimmed glasses and tailored suits when all the industry guys are in stylish jeans and a fitted t shirt or untucked dress shirt. I told him lose the suit & wear contacts, and show up hip places on industry nights.

He's getting the results he wants now.

OP would do well to chill at industry night venues. Network. Get to know people. That will get him results in various aspects, not just with women.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

From what you told me, sounds like they made a move on you first, not the other way around. So you just tried to have a good time, tease, maybe flirt here and there and they'll come to you so you're not known as 'that guy'?

Sometimes as you wrote. Sometimes just minding my own business. Sometimes I’d be the initiator.

 

[Prepostereax]

So your options have suddenly exploded, OP?
Make them work for it.

Alright.
Reminds me of this dude at work, in a similar invisible position.
I have no idea how long he was there before I even noticed him. At least six months.
But every so often, I'd hear lunchbreak conversations amongst the female staff about "Little Xxx".
Seems that half the girls want to fk him, and the other half don't know he exists..

So considering him with a critical eye, he is a quiet and pleasant fellow. Good looking, ripped.. if only he were taller, he'd be a Chad.
I casually mention that some girls are keen on him, and he laughs it off.
He's good looking and nice-natured enough to already have a steady gf, but it seems he's available on OLD, which is where the girls at work check him out.
(as a Chadlite, he'd do better on OLD than at work anyway)
I have no idea whether he's banging any of them, but he's not letting on.
This would be part of his appeal.
This is key - keep things mysterious
..and make use of OLD as an adjunct.

I've had my share of workplace relationships
{as a serial monogamist, they lasted anywhere from several months, to a year or more.
I've always been the one to end them, but timed the breakups when either she or I moved on to other employment}
There was never any problem banging someone from work (I haven't worked in any place that had a policy about it).
My focus was on averting awkwardness after.

..but I don't know how you'd go about juggling multiples of them at once.

Keep flirting as private as possible, ideally when no-one else is watching / listening.
It's possible that a woman you are seeing may "claim" you, by flirting more openly, especially in front of other staff.
You want to keep things low-key.
If you find yourself with multiple options simultaneously, you want to start with the most discreet woman, the one who knows the score.