Men of Sosuave who are divorced, separated, with children: what would you have done differently that now keeps you feeling "imprisoned"?

[jhonny9546]

A friend of mine bought a house with a mortgage and moved in with his partner. They had two beautiful children. After five years, she asked for a separation. Now she lives in the house he's paying for, while he has to rent another place. So, he pays the mortgage on the house she lives in, plus child support, his own rent and living expenses in another house. He has little money left from his salary. He often tells me he's happy to provide a safe place for his children, but this situation makes him feel trapped, like he's in prison.

I have other friends who live in houses owned by their female partners. In those cases, if they separate after having children, the man would leave the home, but wouldn't have to pay the mortgage since the woman already owns the house, only child support. However You can imagine, that almost all of these relationships involve women who set the tone and take charge. She has the frame. The men are generally frustrated.


How would you protect yourself in such a situation? (Imagine you want kids)
Putting aside feminism, the manosphere, and related ideologies, let's discuss how you would protect yourself before having children to avoid having your real estate and financial assets taken or threatened. How can you ensure you can live comfortably without feeling trapped, like my friend?



ps: this is the situation in Italy. Your country Law may vary.

 

[Travel memoir21]

A friend of mine bought a house with a mortgage and moved in with his partner. They had two beautiful children. After five years, she asked for a separation. Now she lives in the house he's paying for, while he has to rent another place. So, he pays the mortgage on the house she lives in, plus child support, his own rent and living expenses in another house. He has little money left from his salary. He often tells me he's happy to provide a safe place for his children, but this situation makes him feel trapped, like he's in prison.

I have other friends who live in houses owned by their female partners. In those cases, if they separate after having children, the man would leave the home, but wouldn't have to pay the mortgage since the woman already owns the house, only child support. However You can imagine, that almost all of these relationships involve women who set the tone and take charge. She has the frame. The men are generally frustrated.


How would you protect yourself in such a situation? (Imagine you want kids)
Putting aside feminism, the manosphere, and related ideologies, let's discuss how you would protect yourself before having children to avoid having your real estate and financial assets taken or threatened. How can you ensure you can live comfortably without feeling trapped, like my friend?



ps: this is the situation in Italy. Your country Law may vary.

There’s a great quote by Pook that the dudes struggling to get laid and can’t find a date….there problems are minor compared to someone who had his life taken away.


It’s just a freakin High School frustration compared to a real world problem of someone who had just been suckered and trapped.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Jhonnie,
Just as bad in Australia but I believe in Some US States a Man can protect his assetts with a pre-nuptial agreement...I have been skun twice,it is a humiliating experience...Back in the Day Rollo's Mantra was,never marry unless you want Children.

 

[jhonny9546]

@Scaramouche @New_Journey
I haven't mentioned marriage, but making a child, and if you're lucky, a family, with a woman.
No marriage