Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
None of it was remotely original to begin with https://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000555.html Note the date this was written. Life was much simpler and saner, when we weren't emulating The Woke Left, by eschewing Plain Language and in favor of communicating exclusively in jargon
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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I'm fortunate to not be regularly interacting with single moms near my own age. I tend to spend time in parts of my city with mainly unmarried childless women.
I think what you're saying is realistic for men in general. I have been fortunate that I've mainly avoided single moms but perhaps I'm living on borrowed time with that strategy.
Single moms are ok for casual sex. Some guys can tolerate a single mom as a plate spinning alongside other plates.
I have had some interactions with this age bracket. Agree that there are typically complications.
Yeah , the really interesting thing is to investigate how modern technology can change the dating landscape significantly.
It's an interesting thought experiment to try to figure out how a person would react if entering the dating market in 2024 after a 10 year relationship.
Unpopular take but women over 40 are mostly bitter, jaded, vapid, insufferable, masculine or delusional who don't have any kids. Obviosuly this isn't true for all of them but this applies for 80% IME.
The RP has been infiltrated by "Goobers" who were never "him" to begin with most of these guys you can tell were and still are dorks.
In the last few years, the growth in the black pill ideology has exceeded the growth in the red pill ideology.
The black pill has turned into nothing but coping and pseudo-homosexuality in regards to obsession with looks maxxing. With the rise of transexuals, it would not shock me if within a decade blackpill ideology embraces "Post-op" trans as they will justify that they are no longer men but women.
Even though Millennials have a reputation of being childless, it's more a matter of Millennials having children later than previous generations.
When a married 45 year old had an affair with me, she'd sometimes come bang me when her kids were at school. She'd also sometimes get with me on a weekend or an evening (when the husband was at home with the kids, ages 6 and 8)
One plus of being into older broads in my preferred age range (45-60s) is there's a high chance that even if they have kids, their kids are already grown.
I got some dates from POF and OkCupid in the 2012-13 range.
What a shame I wasn't able to get sex when I used the kinkster site known as FetLife this past summer.
Using POF and OkCupid in the 2010-2013 time frame was Game on harder mode.
This description is close to what I'm seeing with the elder Millennials near my own age.
Bumble's format (where the woman has to make the first move) has its pluses. One downside, however, is (as you pointed out) men aren't able to spam broads on Bumble.
That's common. With both dating websites and dating apps over time, a lot of first dates happen that were a waste and probably shouldn't have happened. I think men have had a scarcity mentality over time (going back to the 2000s) on these platforms and scheduled many ill advised dates. That's part of why the "1-2 dates, no sex, no extended relationship" is a common outcome.
That was a common outcome for men in the early 2010s on those platforms.
I have read that Bumble has abandoned their women makes the first move format recently.
On 2nd thought, I suppose one benefit of the swipe format (from a man's perspective) is that we don't waste our time messaging a woman we have zero chance with anyway. At least if we're a swipe-match, we have an above zero chance with her (even if still low)
Sending messages behind an electronic screen to a woman you've never met in person before is a low return on effort activity. That was true in the dating website era and has been true in the swipe app era.
You're right, sending messages to broads you've never met behind an electronic screen is a low return on investment.
Yeah: Ten years ago, our entire civilization wasn't ensnared in analysis paralysis to the degree we are today
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
