"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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why women fall in love with me? (In specific scenarios)

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Whenever I am in indirect presence with some woman, they end up falling in love with me.

It happened to me at a driving license course, a drawing course, a refresher school course, a book club, the church club, the sea club, etc.

One thing I noticed was that women didn't fall at my feet at school, in parks, in nightclubs, or other places of flow or where mass of people were present. (I'm short, so may this played a role)


Instead, the winning characteristics for me have always been, place of recurring frequency, small size of 10, maximum 20 people, a group working on a project or doing something together. In the small circle.


How did I find out?
Some of my friends told me how girls were infatuated with me and that I was stupid for not making the first move. Infact, I was completely unaware of IOI's and now I can connect the things.

There were about fifteen in total, and I only tried with 3 of them. But they were all 15 of the possible relationships, as the initial interest was on their part. In all 15 of these girls, I had no interest in them myself, even though some were objectively good looking.
Also, I don't know if women can feel oneitis, but if they do, I'm pretty sure 2 of em are still feeling it.


The discussion therefore is on what are the factors that make it possible for us to be attractive in one context and less so in another?


PS: my friends were so curious about what made me special about it, and asked the girls why they were in "love" with me, and most of them seemed to answer "because of his eyes". To give you an idea they are very similar to those of sean or pry. (eyes only).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Eyes seems like an odd answer to me. Most people have nice eyes.
 

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It happened to me at a driving license course, a drawing course, a refresher school course, a book club, the church club, the sea club, etc.

One thing I noticed was that women didn't fall at my feet at school, in parks, in nightclubs, or other places of flow or where mass of people were present. (I'm short, so may this played a role)

The first set of examples involved propinquity and ongoing interaction with the same people over and over. The second does not. Ordinary men can do alright in the first, while in the second, no one knows them from a hole in the wall, and they lack the looks and other traits (criminality, presenting as rich, having a posse/crew/gang, anti-social behavior, size, intimidation, liberal tattooing, adornments, low inhibition) that give women immediate tingles.

Which kind of guy are you?
 

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The first set of examples involved propinquity and ongoing interaction with the same people over and over. The second does not. Ordinary men can do alright in the first, while in the second, no one knows them from a hole in the wall, and they lack the looks and other traits (criminality, presenting as rich, having a posse/crew/gang, anti-social behavior, size, intimidation, liberal tattooing, adornments, low inhibition) that give women immediate tingles.

Which kind of guy are you?
Short, Fit, Well Dress, Face above normal.
Humble, Hard-Working.
Painter, Cyclist and Motorcycle owner.

I don't have a gang or anti-social behaviour.
I don't have tattos.
 

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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