"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How women change their behavior in the presence of different men

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I work in an office of 20 people, and I am very curious about the behavior of women (but also men) around a particular man (A). I will compare him with another man (B), who does not get the same "reactions", but different. I'll give some examples:


Scenario A) A woman enters a room to talk to a man about a problem. A serious problem that should be resolved because of a work deadline. The woman explains the problem with precision, and the man listening makes clumsy noises, mocks her by making little voices, and does anything but solve the problem.
The woman reacts by laughing to every line and tease, and she ends her conversation having laughed, she even seems excited, but she hasn't solved the problem. Even the womens around start to laugh at every bull**** the men says, and seems to be excited when talking to him.


Scenario B) A woman enters a room to talk to a man about a problem. A serious problem that should be resolved because of a work deadline. The woman explains the problem with precision, and the listening man makes apprehensive noises, moves his head to nod, and listens deeply, and together they work on solving the problem. The woman reacts by thanking him and ends her conversation by smiling.
She solved the problem, but she doesn't seem to be excited. Woman around are prone to talk with the men, but not seems to be excited, but just conversanting





Looks, money and status are same, Man A is a 6 and Man B is a 5.5. So they are on the same value.
The only thing that I've noticed is that B is far more intelligent than A, but A wins on social intelligence. What conclusions could you draw from this story?
Why are people, and women more prone to men A, even if he's acting like a "child"?

What is the focal point of thoose social dynamics?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The only thing that I've noticed is that B is far more intelligent than A, but A wins on social intelligence. What conclusions could you draw from this story?
Immature/dumb women vibe with an immature/dumb guy all while being unprofessional in a work environment.
 

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Immature/dumb women vibe with an immature/dumb guy all while being unprofessional in a work environment.
Personally, what I've thought.
But I've also thought that some other social dynamic, it's underneath
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Looks, money and status are same, Man A is a 6 and Man B is a 5.5. So they are on the same value. The only thing that I've noticed is that B is far more intelligent than A, but A wins on social intelligence. What conclusions could you draw from this story? Why are people, and women more prone to men A, even if he's acting like a "child"?

What is the focal point of thoose social dynamics?
Most women are naturally unserious and child-like, which explains why they vibe with men who exhibit such qualities. No big mystery to unravel here.
 

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I think the “looks delta” is probably greater than 0.5 points. These women somehow find guy A significantly more attractive than guy B.

If guy B tried the same “game” as guy A, the jokes wouldn’t “land.”

Notwithstanding, I’m more of a guy B at work. If somebody needs help, I want to help them. Mocking someone who is having a bad day isn’t my thing.
 
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Women interpret the world based on how they feel, so for you to take your own perceptions and place them into the thought process of the woman is just the totally wrong way to go about this.

When men treat women badly, all this does is either raise or lower his social value, a lot of guys just treat women badly and don't learn to do anything else because it just works.

But here is the thing: it works, because she's assuming that he is valuable and it is now up to him to live up to that assumption... When the guy is exposed for the actual loser he is, THAT is when he is going to pay for treating her badly, because then she'll figure out her being treated badly is not a function of his value but his character.

So even though these guys might be able to close the deal, they'll still have to provide the implied value at some point down the line or lose social value.
 

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Women interpret and perceive their world (and people they interact with on a daily basis) based on their emotions.

"Hey so Chad grabbed my butt and made sexual jokes about how he wants to fvck me in the azzhole, so what? That's cute. I appreciate his sense of humour and charming voice, it's rare these days!"

"Eww so Beta Bob said good morning to me today, I felt sexually molested and if I ever catch he staring at me again, I'll go straight to HR to metoo that creep for raping me in my imagination."

You call it crazy, I call it wired.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lol wtf did I just read from fly on the wall sideline bench warming OP

OP,
This is your life and there’s no do over mulligan

man (a)
man (b)

lol you a NPC
 

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Women interpret the world based on how they feel, so for you to take your own perceptions and place them into the thought process of the woman is just the totally wrong way to go about this.

When men treat women badly, all this does is either raise or lower his social value, a lot of guys just treat women badly and don't learn to do anything else because it just works.

But here is the thing: it works, because she's assuming that he is valuable and it is now up to him to live up to that assumption... When the guy is exposed for the actual loser he is, THAT is when he is going to pay for treating her badly, because then she'll figure out her being treated badly is not a function of his value but his character.

So even though these guys might be able to close the deal, they'll still have to provide the implied value at some point down the line or lose social value.
Very interesting. It brings the question on how this work in an LTR..
Does this relate to keeping tension somehow, to make the woman emotional involved in a limbo of highs and lows?
 

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The more attractive a man was judged to be, the less likely women were to intend to use a condom during sex.

Another prime example is 50 Shades of Grey.
It's fun and sexy when the dude is a handsome billionaire, but if he were a broke Danny Devito lookin dude - it would be a horror story.

This dude in the comments made me laugh:

" The study was dumb as ****, lol. If you're asked "who would you rather have unprotected sex with; an ugly stranger or an attractive stranger", no **** you're going to say the attractive one. Is this really news? "
 
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