"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The reason that makes a serious relationship unbearable to me are the continuous tasks

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LTG71

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Do you have a life insurance policy? I think a lot of women get this way since their men are probably worth more to them deal than alive. :eek: :eek: :eek:
My experience is more that she has ADHD and worries about household tasks that maybe I gloss over or don’t consider since she handles them. Like thinking about ingredients to make meals as soon as she wakes up. I’m trying to have my coffee and wake up, she’ll already thinking of what she’s going to make the kids for dinner.

I do have an insurance policy, lol. But that is because she is a full-time stay at home mom that raised the kids rather than go to work and pay someone else to do it. Policy is there for the entire family.

I think since I work full time, when I get home I want to relax. But running a household is like a second job. This is where I wouldn’t mind a little more “strong and independent” behavior from women rather than expecting their man to do everything since he is the “leader.” A lot of women are inherently lazy and just nag to get those tasks done. Have one female acquaintance that reaches out for advice and fixes her own issues at home. Her “man” is too lazy or incompetent to use a screwdriver. I wouldn’t mind a little bit more of that behavior to be honest. All depends how they were raised.
 

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I have been living with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We have good times but I have to agree with OP, they can neither be still or shut the fvck up.

I love my girlfriend but the nagging and or sometimes stupid little (unnecessary) arguments are taking a toll on me in that I'm starting to think about life without her.
Let me take a wild guess, you're not the first guy she's lived with.
Before her, I was a big playboy and ladies man, so while she's nagging at me or acting out, I'm immediately start thinking in my mind, I could easily replace this Woman.
100%. If there isn't something special about a woman (such as being a virgin and actually in love with you) it doesn't make sense to curtail your freedoms and live with her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Thanks for being a good sport. Criticism rescinded...cause of Jesus and stuff.
Yes, I didn't like the way that the Superman moderator had always deducted reaction score points. :mad: 007 is a much better mod.
 

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I have been living with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We have good times but I have to agree with OP, they can neither be still or shut the fvck up.

I love my girlfriend but the nagging and or sometimes stupid little (unnecessary) arguments are taking a toll on me in that I'm starting to think about life without her.

It may sound extreme but to give an example, I brought an amazon package up to our apartment and put it on the kitchen counter. She freaks out and says the entire counter is dirty now and that I'm not the one that cleans anything, etc.

I literally saw it as no big deal, just spray down and wipe the counter. Simple as that.

Another thing that's started to get my blood pressure up is that she asks me a question that I have to think about (it's just how I process things) and she'll continue to pressure an answer out of me, saying "Why Aren't You saying anything!!??"

If I was in my 20's, maybe even early 30's, I would have snapped by now but since I'm 40, I'm a lot more laid back and just want peace and relaxation. However, I feel like I'm getting to the point of being pushed to the end of my line and lash out and break up with her.

Before her, I was a big playboy and ladies man, so while she's nagging at me or acting out, I'm immediately start thinking in my mind, I could easily replace this Woman.

Like I said, I do love her and its the ONLY reason why I still try to make things work out and be understanding and supportive etc. if it weren't for that, I would of kicked her to the curb harder than Messi can kick a soccer ball.
It must be nice to be able to easily replace a woman. Like most Normies, I have to hold on for dear life. :mad:
 
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