"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Defenitley found P0rn to have become a bit of an issue for me this year

Don't know how I got into it but in the last 2-3 years my use of it seems to have really increased to almost daily

Seems to be corrupting my mind and I am finding myself constantly looking at random women and thinking about them in lingerie and having sex with them

this is leading me to sexualise a lot of conversations with them very quickly which most of the time doesn't end well

whilst to some extent I accept this is normal for a red blooded male ...... I definitely feel I have lost some control over my sexual desires and need to get this under control

10 years ago I was a lot more mentally resilient to women and sex now I am like a schoolboy

I am also finding its demotivating me to get things done in my work life , I am conscious that this isn't healthy and its defenitley doing something to my mind

So Currently on day 4 of no FAP will try to update in this diary where possible

Anyone got any tips on leaving this weird addiction behind ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Keep doing no fap. Even if you fail, just aim to make your streak longer each time.

Unfollow models and any girls on social media that aren't following you back. If certain girls are triggering you that you still want to remain friends with, then mute them.

Be honest with yourself and your triggers. Social media is the biggest one. But it can also be music, TV shows etc..

View your semen as a special life force. It has the power to literally give life. Why would you want to waste it and give it away like it's nothing? Hold on to it. Tame that sexual energy. It's such a powerful motivator. You literally become stronger and sharper.

You will have a ton of energy now. so find something positive to focus on. Gym, work, hobbies, whatever it may be.
 

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Resilience. But what helped me the most in curbing out porn is doing PE workouts as in water pumping and using a c0ckring right after for an hour to trap that blood for growth. The more I abstain from nutting the the thicker it gets. The gains are real, erections are more solid and it steered me clear away from porn.
I just swapped a dopamine fix for another.
Do you have any pollitas/chicks in the stable right now ? I find it difficult to practice no fap when I have a famine of no good pvssy.
 
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Get a hot gf (who loves sex). No need to practice self control. You'll just not want to anymore.

Do you have any pollitas/chicks in the stable right now ?
I had 4 chicks I was seeing and still fapped almost daily. There used to be a chick i was banging a couple years ago, that after I left her place and soon as i came back to mine, I would open up the hub and fap one.
 

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Try to wean yourself off of porn. If you can't go cold turkey then ease into it and switch it up while progressively turning down the 'level'. You mention how you see women as more sexual... well a extremely common side effect of retaining is an large increase in libido and sexual thoughts from abstinence.

A lot of guys (myself included) limit hitting the spank bank to put that energy elsewhere and to actually engage with women. It will likely make you more driven to go out and pursue women, not the inverse. You will also get improved erectile function after a period of time often called the flatline, morning wood and spontaneous arousal can come back as well.

@Giovanni SouthSide is getting into PE exercises here and while they might sound silly there are many that genuinely work and proven to improve sexual function, food for thought.

I think @SW15 is the resident 'Nofap' Wizzard here
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think @SW15 is the resident 'Nofap' Wizzard here
Your Brain on Porn is a useful website.

I have been doing no porn and no masturbation for the better part of a decade now.

It's difficult to do. Your Brain on Porn will cite some meaningful statistics about how addictive porn is and how it messes up your dopamine receptors.

I went cold turkey with porn and masturbation. Every single day at first I made it a goal to go one day at a time without porn and masturbation. I started to see benefits with it after a few weeks. I seemed more aggressive and more masculine. My approaching was more on point.

At around Days 7-21 of no porn and no fap, you will get a big surge in horniness. Use that horniness to go out and run daygame or nightgame.

Longer term, it is best to get laid regularly to keep no porn and no masturbation streaks going.
 

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Knowing how bad porn seeing porn at a young age has been for many areas of my life (damaging relationships etc), i need to do no fap as well.
 

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Be honest with yourself and your triggers. Social media is the biggest one. But it can also be music, TV shows etc..
Yea the soft porn on instagram is definitely a problem

I feel like even most normal women these days single or not seem to dress very seductively , even walking around my city in the afternoon I will see women wearing outrageous outfits and it will make me think about fvcking them senseless
 

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Do you have any pollitas/chicks in the stable right now ? I find it difficult to practice no fap when I have a famine of no good pvssy.
Ive had a fair bit of sex this year with different girls so I can't really complain but haven't been able too cement any permanent fixtures

Last year I did have a hot GF who enjoyed being fvcked 2/3 times a day that was very useful and I wasn't using porn as much

But she was toxic so I had to remove her from my life
 

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Nothing is wrong with porn and masturbation. I can have sex three times in a day and I could still have the urge to do the knuckle shuffle once or twice; even just using my memory. As long as it's not interfering with your daily life; it's perfectly healthy to do.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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So when I've posted about wanting sex 3x a day and actually doing it - where where you horndogs while other posters chided me and told me it was impossiburu?
 

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I haven't watched any porn in around 8 weeks now.

And I haven't faped in around 8 weeks..

No kidding, I feel pretty awesome.

I even turned down two dates this Saturday, because I felt like spending some time with the family instead.. In the past I would have likely made puzzy the priority.

It didn't bother me much, even though one of them was very likely a lay.

I have zero temptation to watch porn right now, my brain feels like it's rewired itself & I no longer have this desperation for sex.

I mean I still like sex, just not thirsty as hell for it.
 

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Knowing how bad porn seeing porn at a young age has been for many areas of my life (damaging relationships etc), i need to do no fap as well.
I can only tell you by my own experience.

No porn, no fapping, semen retention coming upto around 8 weeks now and I feel really good.

Much more confident, relaxed around females, much more motivated to talk and approach girls.. skin looking better, hair looking good.

And getting more looks off females, and in some cases getting full on stares from Chicks.

Best part is, gym sessions are on another level, feels like testerone levels have had a boost, power up!!
 

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Its definitely worth a try.
 

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I haven't fapped to porn in 15 years. That's what your girlfriend is for.

If you have pickup skills, you shouldn't need porn. Porn is for losers.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I had to give up the ganja because everytime I smoke I get a raging hard on and just want to watch some porn. 5 days in with the retention and I feel rested with clean energy if you know what I mean. Also taking ashwgandha ksm-66, magnesium complex , boron , and d3/k2 with brutal cold showers. This combo “numbs” my anxiety. I was flirting with my female dermatologist today in her office and I didn’t give a fvck.
 

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I'm 8 weeks semen retention & absolutely zero porn.

I actually passed over the opportunity to bang two chicks last weekend.

One was a 6.5.. The other one was annoying as hell and had a bunch of red flags.. Prior to no fap, I would have likely smashed both of them.. However in my current state of mind, I have loads more self control and discipline, on who I put my peepee inside.

My sense of confidence is huge right now.. When I walk, I honestly walk like a fvking king, who doesn't give shyte lol

Approaching girls is way easier... And no cap.. The amount of girls giving me eye contact right now and even long hard stares is crazy.

My skin is good, I look younger.. Gym sessions are excellent.

So far I can only say positive things about no fap... But the BEST FEELING is, breaking the Porn Addiction.
 

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Yea the soft porn on instagram is definitely a problem
It definitely is, most Instagram models make so many provocative posts and several of them have a OF link in their bio too.

Another alarming trend I’ve noticed is that it seems that cuckold relationships have become more popular and I think there’s a correlation between easy access to porn and the rise in popularity of that. A lot of men have become so used to and conditioned into achieving arousal and orgasm by being in third person and watching other people have sex to where they like the idea of watching their girlfriends with other men.
 

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Totally agree here. It's not just about the porn on porn sites. All the excessively provactive posts and content on IG, YT, TikTok and elsewhere is just more dopamine for the brain that is trying to heal from the addiction.

If you're still struggling with NoFap despite quitting porn then you might still be ingesting a lot of sexualized content through other sources.
 

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For you guys that struggle with p0rn becoming too addictive, does it keep you from doing things you should get done? Do you put off your tasks/duties to watch p0rn?

I'll view p0rn from time to time, but it doesn't get in the way of other things.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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