Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I watched it and it comes across as unrealistic and most probably staged ... it's common knowledge PUAs fake their video infields. He started the interaction with a lame joke about her hat (so no IOIs from her), the ensuing conversation was extremely superficial, they didn't seem to have anything in common so why would any attractive girl in this situation give out her number to a random guy?
It can be difficult to determine whether or not any infield is a fake infield.I watched it and it comes across as unrealistic and most probably staged ... it's common knowledge PUAs fake their video infields. He started the interaction with a lame joke about her hat (so no IOIs from her), the ensuing conversation was extremely superficial, they didn't seem to have anything in common so why would any attractive girl in this situation give out her number to a random guy?
A 40 year Ross Jeffries equivalent today would have worse outcomes using the same openers/gambits. Female overabundance + technological distractions would be the reason for it.
Just watched that video. I mean he isn't an ugly guy or anything, but looks very nerdy, even for late 90s, 2000 in that video. Women today would act totally creeped out if you did what he did and dressed like that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.