I had my first date in ages. Here's the good and the bad.

[corrector]

On the topic of escorts, I just started cruising an escort website, looking for my weekend escort. I came across a first: An escort's ad that says she ONLY sees black men (I point this out because we've discussed before how a lot of escorts refuse to see black men)

It is a white escort that probably has that too. Yes, on very rare occassions I do find such ads and also fap on them.

 

[GoodMan32]

It is a white escort that probably has that too. Yes, on very rare occassions I do find such ads and also fap on them.

It's a black escort. Her ad has a screenshot of a racist text she got (which is her explanation of why she's decided to only see black men from now on)

 

[corrector]

It's a black escort. Her ad has a screenshot of a racist text she got (which is her explanation of why she's decided to only see black men from now on)

Many guys who use escorts are racist but you still dont get reactions like that. It is still very rare to see an one code ad like that. Usually an ad will say blacks are welcome, or all nationalities are welcome or have a pic of her next to a black on the ad. Those will usually keep the racist whites out without a blatant negative ad (ie they dont like sharing their hors with other races).

 

[corrector]

I wouldn't say there's a whole lot of carryover bliss.

Carryover bliss isn't why I utilize escorts. I utilize escorts to prevent myself from getting overly thirsty.

That is why your hobby has sustained itself. You are not getting the full yield out of the session. If it were to blissful then it would make it too jarring when you get back to earth and you may find you are not the same and everything is different. The higher the high the deeper the crash back to reality.

 

[GoodMan32]

That is why your hobby has sustained itself. You are not getting the full yield out of the session. If it were to blissful then it would make it too jarring when you get back to earth and you may find you are not the same and everything is different. The higher the high the deeper the crash back to reality.

I contacted an escort. We have an appointment this evening.

 

[corrector]

I contacted an escort. We have an appointment this evening.

They hate no shows. That is one thing I know. I have an open appointment myself. She gave me the hours she is working and sent a photo. But I just like looking at the photo. Just knowing I could if I wanted to is good enough for me for now.

 

[GoodMan32]

They hate no shows. That is one thing I know. I have an open appointment myself. She gave me the hours she is working and sent a photo. But I just like looking at the photo. Just knowing I could if I wanted to is good enough for me for now.

If I understand correctly, are you saying you have an appointment you don't intend to show up to?

 

[corrector]

If I understand correctly, are you saying you have an appointment you don't intend to show up to?

No I did not say that. Some incall locations are walk ins so you do not need an appointment. You may know who could be working there at a given time.

 

[GoodMan32]

No I did not say that. Some incall locations are walk ins so you do not need an appointment. You may know who could be working there at a given time.

I see. I've always utilized outcall. I don't know much about incalls.

 

[corrector]

I contacted an escort. We have an appointment this evening.

Is everything alright?

 

[GoodMan32]

Is everything alright?

The appointment never happened (She had a good reason; we rescheduled for this afternoon)

 

[GoodMan32]

Is everything alright?

Another comment on the general topic of escorts.

You and I were discussing on a previous post how the escort option has largely made me lose the will to pursue free sex.

It just dawned on me that, in addition to losing the will, I also have another problem: I was 23 when I first started using escorts. This means at age 23, I pretty much lost the will to perfect my game. My cooch-hunting skills, which were never great to begin with, are stuck in a 23 year old mentality.

Which is a problem. What works for a 23 year old isn't necessarily going to work for a guy in his 30s (my current age)

 

[Bingo-Player]

This past Saturday, I had my first date in ages.

Everything was going well. We chatted quite a bit on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday (She reached out to me first on all 3 of those days). On Monday, she even asked me about getting dinner again this coming weekend (I said yeah). Then on Tuesday, she mentioned the topic again (she was wondering where exactly I wanted to go for dinner).

Yesterday, everything changed. She acted more and more annoyed as the day I went on. So around 6:30 pm, I finally told her "Maybe getting to know each other was a bad idea. I say this because it feels like we're not getting along as well today."

Why is she asking you where you want to go for dinner ?

You should be TELLING her where you are both going

Also you never ever ever ever become emotional with a woman it buys into her frame and it causes bedlam

Learn and move to the next don't mope about

 

[GoodMan32]

Why is she asking you where you want to go for dinner ?

You should be TELLING her where you are both going

Also you never ever ever ever become emotional with a woman it buys into her frame and it causes bedlam

Learn and move to the next don't mope about

Why was she asking me where I wanted to go for dinner? Umm, I have no control over what a woman asks me.

Here's how it went down: She told me on Monday she wanted to grab dinner the coming weekend (the weekend we're in right now). I told her I'd be down. Then Tuesday, she asked me where. On Tuesday, I have no idea what type of food I'm going to be in the mood for on Saturday/Sunday. That's why I didn't tell her where we were going. I was planning on picking a venue the day of.

Supposedly my generation doesn't place as much importance on gender roles as past generations.

 

[corrector]

Why was she asking me where I wanted to go for dinner? Umm, I have no control over what a woman asks me.

Here's how it went down: She told me on Monday she wanted to grab dinner the coming weekend (the weekend we're in right now). I told her I'd be down. Then Tuesday, she asked me where. On Tuesday, I have no idea what type of food I'm going to be in the mood for on Saturday/Sunday. That's why I didn't tell her where we were going. I was planning on picking a venue the day of.

Supposedly my generation doesn't place as much importance on gender roles as past generations.

That is in the past now. How is your paid option coming along?

 

[GoodMan32]

That is in the past now. How is your paid option coming along?

Yeah, I'm putting the woman I had the date with last weekend in the past (where she belongs). I was simply answering the guy's question about why I didn't act more assertive about dinner.

My paid option is planning on heading here later this afternoon (for the rescheduled appointment). We just had some back-and-forth to confirm. She knows about my fetish (and is ok with it). I'm excited.

 

[corrector]

Yeah, I'm putting the woman I had the date with last weekend in the past (where she belongs). I was simply answering the guy's question about why I didn't act more assertive about dinner.

My paid option is planning on heading here later this afternoon (for the rescheduled appointment). We just had some back-and-forth to confirm. She knows about my fetish (and is ok with it). I'm excited.

Exactly! Why worry about anyone if you have lots of paid options?

 

[GoodMan32]

Exactly! Why worry about anyone if you have lots of paid options?

Well-said. An unpaid woman can only give you one thing an escort can't: The feeling of knowing she genuinely desires you.

 

[corrector]

Well-said. An unpaid woman can only give you one thing an escort can't: The feeling of knowing she genuinely desires you.

True. There are different aspects of the mind, you have the logical part and the other part including subconcious and unconcious parts (something like that). It's only one logical part of the mind where that's going to matter (ie whether she genuinely desires you or not), the rest of the mind can't tell the difference. Also, you are still filling the basic sexual need in the pyramid of needs (ie better quality than fapping) and getting female touch and attention. So, I think there is allot of processing both mentally and biological that is not going to tell the difference or care about genuine desire, and only a fractional logical component would (in relation to everything else)

For example, when I dealt with the second escort in 2014, the issue at least that bothered me was I was dealing with an absolute stranger in a sketchy type of location and set-up. If I dealt with an ONS I feel it would be the same thing (ie you are dealing with a stranger, you get post-nut clarity and then realize she probably deals with allot of guys and you regret what you did (if you are not used to it)).

 

[GoodMan32]

True. There are different aspects of the mind, you have the logical part and the other part including subconcious and unconcious parts (something like that). It's only one logical part of the mind where that's going to matter (ie whether she genuinely desires you or not), the rest of the mind can't tell the difference. Also, you are still filling the basic sexual need in the pyramid of needs (ie better quality than fapping) and getting female touch and attention. So, I think there is allot of processing both mentally and biological that is not going to tell the difference or care about genuine desire, and only a fractional logical component would (in relation to everything else)

For example, when I dealt with the second escort in 2014, the issue at least that bothered me was I was dealing with an absolute stranger in a sketchy type of location and set-up. If I dealt with an ONS I feel it would be the same thing (ie you are dealing with a stranger, you get post-nut clarity and then realize she probably deals with allot of guys and you regret what you did (if you are not used to it)).

Yeah. An emotional connection isn't as important to a guy as it is to a woman. All we care about is getting our rocks off.