17 year old waitress in a bar.

[BergischerLöwe]

Easier for me to read younger women. I wait for their expression of interest. Often a giddiness or an excited or joyful presentation. They’ll ask way more questions than necessary. Or give out more info than needed. As an example. I went to get a pair of glasses from Warby Parker. The girl who helped me was cute & friendly. We wound up talking so long, and about non-glasses stuff. Her manager pulled her aside She apologized and said her manager told her to help other customers. she told me she worked at a XYZ matcha tea shop in The Mission & she’d be there tomorrow. I came by.

Hmm doesn’t seem like anything I can count on, I never get those kinda signals from waitresses or cashiers. At least not any that are obvious enough for me to act on

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Hmm doesn’t seem like anything I can count on, I never get those kinda signals from waitresses or cashiers. At least not any that are obvious enough for me to act on

I’m probably more of an opportunist. When I get a ‘buy’ signal or even an interest’ signal. I move in. Also one of my jobs involves reading people and persuading them. This is a big advantage in any interpersonal interaction.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I’m probably more of an opportunist. When I get a ‘buy’ signal or even an interest’ signal. I move in. Also one of my jobs involves reading people and persuading them. This is a big advantage in any interpersonal interaction.

I myself am more cautious about pretty much everything, so with the concept of approaching in general it's something I'm far less likely to do I guess

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I myself am more cautious about pretty much everything, so with the concept of approaching in general it's something I'm far less likely to do I guess

Do it at clubs/bars. No shame if the approach fails there. And everyone is doing it.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Do it at clubs/bars. No shame if the approach fails there. And everyone is doing it.

That's not ideal either. It's very unlikely I'd find the sort of women I'm looking for there and I don't drink much anyway. I'm not able rn to just go and start approaching

 

[Hamurabimbi]

That's not ideal either. It's very unlikely I'd find the sort of women I'm looking for there and I don't drink much anyway. I'm not able rn to just go and start approaching

Alcohol is liquid courage.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Alcohol is liquid courage.

Trust me, even when drunk I can't do it

 

[Styr]

Alcohol is liquid courage.

It is more of an inhibitor.

 

[Knight of Roses]

Actually, the worst thing would be (false) sexual harassment accusations.

Usually those occur if you two share a place of work. I don’t see it happening if he’s a customer.

 

[member162951]

Dude, this is common among waitresses at any age. She was angling for a big tip plain and simple. Not at all surprised she turned you down.