Borknagar
Master Don Juan
What happened? Is it like that everywhere? All the hot spots these day's are almost completely dead. What used to be packed now has 20 people and just in their groups and lame as ****. Guess for us it's all day game now?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's bad where I'm at too. Sausage fest outside of campusWhat happened? Is it like that everywhere? All the hot spots these day's are almost completely dead. What used to be packed now has 20 people and just in their groups and lame as ****. Guess for us it's all day game now?
Yeah all the bars that used to be ****ing packed are all looking like population 500 rural bars now. Like 2-5 women even attractive and mostly just hanging around their groups. Tonight's my last night going out. Staying pretty much single and sexless now.It's bad where I'm at too. Sausage fest outside of campus
Good luck getting laid. I'm sexless too. I don't crave sex like I used toYeah all the bars that used to be ****ing packed are all looking like population 500 rural bars now. Like 2-5 women even attractive and mostly just hanging around their groups. Tonight's my last night going out. Staying pretty much single and sexless now.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
stay positive in the processKinda getting to that point myself
I try. I rarely even talk to women.stay positive in the process
Me too but I live my own lifeI try. I rarely even talk to women.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Swipe apps and Instagram/Twitter are more efficient for the top tier man than the nightlife venues.I honestly don't see the point in going out over just using OLD which is much easier and more efficient.
Part of the reason I moved more of my game from nightlife approaching to non-bar approaching is because I am more relationship oriented. You're correct that any man that is relationship oriented is better off focusing on non-bar approaching.If you want to meet a marriagable/LTR girl you're not going to find her in bars or nightclubs anyway. Your best bet for LTRS is talking to girls in every ordinary places during the day. Some of the hottest women I've ever seen in my life are routinely found in health food stores like Trader Joe's, Whole Foods, etc.
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Halloween is overhyped and overrated in terms of getting laid. More attention whorring, not actual whorring. Roosh wrote in 2011 how Halloween is overrrated below.I also noticed there are far less hot women except on halloween night which is still a great night to meet women.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is kind of a different angle. I've always believed that it's way more 'cliquey' here and people go out in their groups and actuvely avoid talking to random people lol. That's why I used to love going over to the US to game! The girls were noticeably more friendly and approachable. (yes my accent helped, but I noticed it with American guys approaching girls too).just in their groups
So. Nightlife isn’t dead. Even on a cold Wednesday night in The Mission SF.we went out. Wednesday. pretty dead. However. we discovered a bew club. He bailed but O went in. I wax thevonly White person. otherwise Latino & Black. A cute Black girl gave me the stare & smile right away. I got a drink at the bar. She came up. gave me a fist bump. held my hand and gave me a smile. I tipped my drink acknowledging her. She went back to her table with her girlfriend. I swear. If I weren’t in a relationship…
After she sat down.a 5/10 latino dude approached her. she was pleasant. But rejected him.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.