"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you think chicks that say on Tinder that they are interested in older men are legitimate?

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As expected, the younger the poster, the more offended he is by a young woman seeking out an older man.

I would never allow a woman OF ANY AGE access to me if it were only about my affluence. That said, I have had situationships and a relationship with a woman more than two decades younger than me. In all cases, more than me buying dinner or takeout never occurred, and neither was money exchanged nor asked for.

Don't hate the player. Hate the game.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I got this in my feed:

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Whats really funny is how womem will now make pictures with their phone in front of their faces.

A flat belly and some shape at hips is enough to get the infamous "99+" notification. While apparently men have to make a selfie while they make an bungee jump from the moon with Elon musk to make her at least check out the next picture..

I also think we overestimate the word "older". C'mon gents, we know that when woman tells you " in the past" she means 1,5 ,2 years max. So older will have a similar kinda of gap: 5 to ten years maximum IF you are handsome and stable.

Her father might be 44-48.
 

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The girls on Tinder I got with. were mostly much younger. They didn’t have anything in their bio that mentioned ‘older men’. I put my age in my bio. but subtracted 10 years (this got sketchy when I got 2 LTR GFs out of it).
 

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I have a banging 17 year old obsessed with me and I’m 27. Not sure how I feel about it lol
 

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Out of the most recent 10 girls I have talked to on Hinge, the average age gap is 11.4 years younger ranging from 22-48. I'm 47. It's never been easier for me to match with younger women. The average age gap for myself has increased as I've gotten older.
This can happen. A lot of talking behind electronic screens isn't all that meaningful so it'd be more meaningful if the average date you went on was 11.4 years younger.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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As expected, the younger the poster, the more offended he is by a young woman seeking out an older man.
Much criticism and pondering over women that men do comes from a place of resentment and a reminder that the criticized and mysterious women don’t want THEM.

Bitching about women that are false trads, actual trads, want bad boys, seek older rich men, “Chad Thundercock,” men of other races (eg, “BBC” or Nordic men), tall men, criminals, ordinary oofy-doofies, and yes, even beta men—in most cases it’s from resentment that they’re a womanless man.
 

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Much criticism and pondering over women that men do comes from a place of resentment and a reminder that the criticized and mysterious women don’t want THEM.

Bitching about women that are false trads, actual trads, want bad boys, seek older rich men, “Chad Thundercock,” men of other races (eg, “BBC” or Nordic men), tall men, criminals, ordinary oofy-doofies, and yes, even beta men—in most cases it’s from resentment that they’re a womanless man.
The average woman doesn't want the average man. That's a saying that Rollo Tomassi is known for saying. There are plenty of men being sent to the rejection pile by women. The typical man is a man that's a part of the rejection pile. There's even a regular poster on this board that's 6'4", 230 lbs, and far more muscular/fit than average. It's a man with a "Chad Thundercock" look and he's even sent to the rejection pile. That's likely an extreme example.

The typical man operates from a scarcity mentality with women because scarcity is all he's known. Most woman aren't that interested.
 

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This is for the youngsters here that hate on the idea of desirable younger women choosing older men, read, in the words of a couple of 20-something’s.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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That last paragraph she wrote said a lot. That's key. You younger guys need to take notice. It's all about how you make them feel and she said it all.
They won’t listen, they will find a way to explain it away.
 

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You guys aré preaching to the choir. Haters are losers. Its been on my signature for a while.

Im on the side of "older" men, always been, in case It wasnt clear (I'll be over 40 In the blink of an eye). Doesnt mean I wont crack a joke In good spirits here or there.

For all I know, most hot girls could indeed have some sort of daddy issue (or not. Im no psychologist, I dont know). And If they did, I wouldnt say its a bad thing, But an opportunity; a sweet sweet opportunity.
 
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