How to convince your scared homies that women aint that scary and they should get out of the house more?

[Gamisch]

Trying to convince some incel homies that they're one of a kind, and that its the PERFECT era to be out there and chase women.

Despite this I keep sensing this feeling of being inferior and a defeatist mindset.

There's probably no one size fits all solution. Just me ranting.

 

[IKO69]

Lead by example

But then they'll probably say some bulll**** like oh that's because you are x, y, z

.... not realizing pretty much on the same boat. Most people are - only a tiny percentage have exceptional looks or whatever. You just have more cajones.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Your intentions are good but your approach is not. Nobody should be convinced of anything, they need to be shown and they need to believe.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

B1tchslap some sense into them and tell them to stop being a little b1tch. Give them some though love, tons and tons of though love.

 

[corrector]

What makes you think that its a perfect era to go out and chase women? Because you are saying it?

 

[Gamisch]

What makes you think that its a perfect era to go out and chase women? Because you are saying it?

Hey Cor how's your weekend been?

Because;
- many men gave up on women, so there's a demand for men who are willing to chase women
-its summer
-we are all in our prime now
-because women are more open to meeting new men than ever before
-because men in the west are big azz poosies.
-because there's tons of block parties amd festivals now(see summer argument)
- and ofcourse: because i say so (someone gotta take the initiative right?)

B1tchslap some sense into them and tell them to stop being a little b1tch. Give them some though love, tons and tons of though love.

Leaning towards this indeed.

Your intentions are good but your approach is not. Nobody should be convinced of anything, they need to be shown and they need to believe.

I feel that.

Lead by example

But then they'll probably say some bulll**** like oh that's because you are x, y, z

.... not realizing pretty much on the same boat. Most people are - only a tiny percentage have exceptional looks or whatever. You just have more cajones.

At this point I actually feel embarrassed, or I should say, uncomfortable talking about my victories, or asking them if ANYTHING is going on.

They've all been out with me and have seen women approaching me and me approaching women. I can close the gap for THEM.

Smart dudes, intellectually sound men..yet they can't fecking figure out how to behave around women, and now they dont even be in the proximity of women. They have a billion excuses readymade. Its sad really

 

[corrector]

Hey Cor how's your weekend been?

Because;
- many men gave up on women, so there's a demand for men who are willing to chase women
-its summer
-we are all in our prime now
-because women are more open to meeting new men than ever before
-because men in the west are big azz poosies.
-because there's tons of block parties amd festivals now(see summer argument)
- and ofcourse: because i say so (someone gotta take the initiative right?)


Leaning towards this indeed.

I feel that.

At this point I actually feel embarrassed, or I should say, uncomfortable talking about my victories, or asking them if ANYTHING is going on.

They've all been out with me and have seen women approaching me and me approaching women. I can close the gap for THEM.

Smart dudes, intellectually sound men..yet they can't fecking figure out how to behave around women, and now they dont even be in the proximity of women. They have a billion excuses readymade. Its sad really

Like I said I am home taking care of mom as she had a fall and knee replacement. Home most if not all the time. But passed a Spanish brothel on the way to run some errands. There is a local one in the neifhbourhood. Felt some good vibes. But not in a good life situation to meet anyone. Only women stop by a few times to take care of mom. Did not get any IOIs from anyone and the place is too messy. So that is out too.

 

[Gamisch]

Like I said I am home taking care of mom as she had a fall and knee replacement. Home most if not all the time. But passed a Spanish brothel on the way to run some errands. There is a local one in the neifhbourhood. Felt some good vibes. But not in a good life situation to meet anyone. Only women stop by a few times to take care of mom. Did not get any IOIs from anyone and the place is too messy. So that is out too.

Oke bro. Its always good to take care of your family , but never forget to take care of yourself too.

Brothel as in, hookers? Why didn't you hit one on your way out?

 

[CornbreadFed]

It is pointless, let them rot and move on away from them

 

[Gamisch]

It is pointless, let them rot and move on away from them

Least favorable option.

They're rotting away for YEARS already. One of them is at a point where simply nobody start about it anymore. The other one can smell 40 years league but still waits untill a holy virgin her dad will tell him to "ask her hand", so he can get played and cheated on AGAIN.

 

[corrector]

Oke bro. Its always good to take care of your family , but never forget to take care of yourself too.

Brothel as in, hookers? Why didn't you hit one on your way out?

Mom is very spiritual and will know something is up. But at least it feels good there is an option for female contact, at least on paper. Plus this spexific errand was depositing a small amount of money to the bank. How would that look? I lied about depositing money and spent it on a hooker instead?

 

[CornbreadFed]

Least favorable option.

They're rotting away for YEARS already. One of them is at a point where simply nobody start about it anymore. The other one can smell 40 years league but still waits untill a holy virgin her dad will tell him to "ask her hand", so he can get played and cheated on AGAIN.

There's winners and losers in this world. Soon you will realize that some people are okay with losing and rolling in filth.

 

[corrector]

There's winners and losers in this world. Soon you will realize that some people are okay with losing and rolling in filth.

You are real uppity. You are from the USA?

 

[CornbreadFed]

You are real uppity. You are from the USA?

Yeah lol

 

[corrector]

Yeah lol

Figures.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Figures.

aren't you British?

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Trying to convince some incel homies that they're one of a kind, and that its the PERFECT era to be out there and chase women.

Despite this I keep sensing this feeling of being inferior and a defeatist mindset.

There's probably no one size fits all solution. Just me ranting.

If you get them out before they have the value and the skills to succeed, you only expose them to pain and rejection basically leading them to drop such habits for good.

 

[corrector]

aren't you British?

No, Canadian. From Toronto.

 

[CornbreadFed]

No, Canadian. From Toronto.

You have it better than me lol

 

[Gamisch]

If you get them out before they have the value and the skills to succeed, you only expose them to pain and rejection basically leading them to drop such habits for good.

Absolutely .

E.g : we are hanging out at a secretive spot, smoking and bbq. Out of nowhere two fairly hot women enter our spot. They're smoking some as well..so I start a convo with them, even though they're somewhat reluctant to talk to us..that's oke.

Now suddenly he becomes he different person. Not a smart guy who can read the room, no he becomes a stuttering akward guy who asks strange questions and makes strange non attractive statements.

As if he's rather talking to them because of me than with the intention of getting her number or even making a connection for a later moment.

But it becomes a chicken /egg problem. Without practice your social skills can't evolve. I get what your saying though...