Help me overanalyze something...

[member160761]

Dude...you made your account 3 days ago so I guess this kind of moronic response makes sense...

Been a long time lurker and on other sites. Swallow your pride and move on. Stop acting like a woman.

 

[BPH]

Been a long time lurker and on other sites. Swallows your pride and move on. Stop acting like a woman.

You're not contributing anything, feel free to leave.

 

[member160761]

You're not contributing anything, feel free to leave.

I contributed by telling you what you need to hear and not what you want. Quantity, in your case, does not make quality.

 

[BPH]

I contributed by telling you what you need to hear and not what you want. Quantity, in your case, does not make quality.

The point of the thread, and the novels you say I type are because I think details matter and I'd been trying to understand what might've gone wrong when I thought things had gone really well.

This isn't simping. This isn't being beta. This isn't being a lovesick puppy. This is me trying to understand what was in MY control that I could've done better, so I can do it better in the future.

Putting myself in her shoes as a woman, given she told you she has commitment issues (or however she phrased it) this ^ follow up text only a few hours later might have been what turned her off.

It sounds very "relationshippy" like something a man might text when he's seeking a relationship versus a FB.



Bolded. This is female Game. She didn't tell you this because she didn't want to be rude, she told you to garner a reaction, it was a bonafide shyt test. And quite intentional.

Your response could be interpreted in two different ways depending on how SHE views you.

Weak and desperate.

Or

Indifferent IDGAF.

You claim it was indifferent IDGAF, but she may have viewed it differently, it's impossible to know.

In any event, leave her alone. As you guys say, let the hamster wheels spin lol, and maybe she'll hit you up later.

If not, best to just let it go.

Should you run into her again, be pleasant, but cool, indifferent. Act like a man with lots of options and abundance.

WIth girls like her (commitment issues and abundance), you have to play it that way if you have any chance of fvcking her again.

JMO. Good luck mate.

I didn't really take it as a s*** test but you might be right.

She might've viewed it differently, but yeah I just felt like it was a low-investment, unemotional response, and then I continued on with my night talking to the other girl with my friends.

I did actually see her out at the same bar last night when I came to hang out with my buddy who manages there. I'm sure she saw me, I saw her, but we didn't make eye contact, talk, any of that. I just drank with my buddy and hung around with some of the staff getting free drinks all night.

As to what will happen in the future, you're right, who knows, and maybe the follow-up text was a bad idea. Considering how many times she said "you're gonna hit me up after this right? like I want to see you more" the night I stayed over, I thought the text just opens the door to her to reach out and invite me again.

Maybe that was a mistake. But yeah like I said to the other guy, the point of all this is not to worry about what was out of my control, but to improve on handling what IS in my control. That way I can avoid losing a hot FWB in the future.