Being too friendly

[anonymous12345]

I have a problem of revoking response in girls and I suspect it is this: I’m too friendly.

On one hand, the casanovas I know in real life are very empathic and kind men, but I still suspect that I on one level approach women in a too friendly manner. The openers, talking, all that.

Not in chatting/texting though, and not in fantasy. It seems I have the problem of bridging a remote/secluded version of me and real life. The more common phrasing of this is: “How do I bring my sexual fantasies to reality?”

Anyone had the same problem? Being too friendly?

There's an absence of sexual "gist"/aura/attitude.

 

[member160761]

Being too friendly stems from two things: you don't feel you are worth getting what a woman provides or suppressed anger and you overcompensate by being too nice. Ask yourself why you are too friendly and address the root of the problem. Once you have it fixed you become ****y/borderline-arrogant which is a turn-on for any woman.

 

[Gamisch]

I have a problem of revoking response in girls and I suspect it is this: I’m too friendly.

On one hand, the casanovas I know in real life are very empathic and kind men, but I still suspect that I on one level approach women in a too friendly manner. The openers, talking, all that.

Not in chatting/texting though, and not in fantasy. It seems I have the problem of bridging a remote/secluded version of me and real life. The more common phrasing of this is: “How do I bring my sexual fantasies to reality?”

Anyone had the same problem? Being too friendly?

There's an absence of sexual "gist"/aura/attitude.

Being friendly isnt the problem. Being a a hole doesnt necessarily mean you are a bad person. Like you say, casanova's are nothing but friendly. The a hole part for women has more to do with the fact these dudes are unwilling to do what and when she wants it ( e.g a LTR, clearity, honesty , exclusivity ect).

It's a matter of taking the right actions at the right time. From first till last meeting you gotta escalate when needed; take number, set date , kiss, have sex and release her when needed. Being unfriendly to a woman is only necessary when se starts ish testing you. And there's the catch;a casanova simply releases her whenever she start acting up, thus he doesnt even has to be "unfriendly ". Also wanna say, being friendly and being blown away by a woman are different things. I am always friendly, even if it's a 60 y.o fat woman who I would never hit.

Dont be fooled into believing that a frustrated, angry man is sexy to women. It's not. It might work temporarily to keep a certain type of women in check, but on the long run it always fails. You treat everyone kind, until they give you a reason not to. And that's when you walk, instead of making drama.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Being friendly is one thing, but being "too friendly" is another.

At some point in our lives, we've all encountered someone that wanted something and was a bit "too nice." We then store that memory and remember it. And we are now suspicious when something similar occurs. It's the same way with women.

I think that all forum members here (self included) have at some point been "too nice" to some random girl. This rarely works to our advantage. Truth is (if we are honest with ourselves) we really were being devious. Although we may not see it this way (at the time) the woman does and is (rightfully) suspicious turned off.