"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Plate/GF Begins being argumentative in the presence of other men

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So I was at the Library, this guy exits Library with GF, they then come back and GF now wants to sit in front of this group of guys that are just staring her BF right down, so he walks away, leaves her standing there for about 20 seconds then she just goes HUFF and makes a bit of a scene.

I know it's not a great interaction to highlight, I mean it's basic, just a seating arrangement but regardless, how would you deal with the situation of her being combative or opinionated in front of other men?

Also, as he walked off leaving her behind one of the guys in the group caught her eye which prompted her to choose the seat there, do you think her intent is attention seeking? Was she even conscious of her actions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So I was at the Library, this guy exits Library with GF, they then come back and GF now wants to sit in front of this group of guys that are just staring her BF right down, so he walks away, leaves her standing there for about 20 seconds then she just goes HUFF and makes a bit of a scene.

I know it's not a great interaction to highlight, I mean it's basic, just a seating arrangement but regardless, how would you deal with the situation of her being combative or opinionated in front of other men?

Also, as he walked off leaving her behind one of the guys in the group caught her eye which prompted her to choose the seat there, do you think her intent is attention seeking? Was she even conscious of her actions?
Who knows if they were already arguing about something else. Maybe the guy just banged her sister.
 
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