Dealing with OLD hook up after the bang

[Bingo-Player]

Just banged a chick from OLD , not really interested in pursuing anything further think she definitely is because in her words " she hasn't met many guys like me before"

I had the usual spiel about " i don't normally do this " ," cant believe i have done this on first date"

I Don't think she is crazy but obviously you never know

Thoughts on how to fizzle this out quickly and quietly ?

 

[2Rocky]

What contact info does she have for you? Phone #? Work? Home address?

Don't initiate contact, If she proposes another meet up, "thanks, it was fun but I'm not feeling a connection"

Not every ONS is gonna want to marry you. She may not even text you.

 

[Tilex]

Was the sex lousy?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Was the sex lousy?

Nah was ok we smashed for an hour

She's just not really my type ,not really hot enough or interesting enough for me to want too keep her on constant rotation

We did text a little last night she sent me a picture said she was going out clubbing , convo seemed light hearted thankfully

Hopefully will just fizzle out by itself

 

[Black Widow Void]

Despite the forum's overall consensus attitude, if a woman offers me the 'goods' then I prefer to leave her with a sense of dignity.

Going by memory : my go to is (which is a white lie) "my ex just called. I thought that I was over her, but she apologized and wants to work things out. I'm sure that my friends would see you as much better than her, but I can't deny that some old feelings have come back. I respect you too much to lead you on. I'm very sorry. I hope that you understand."

edit ---of course, there will be forum members that will froth at the mouth and say that you're never supposed to say that you're "sorry."
This is the type of chick that you never plan to see again. You're not invested in any type of future outcome with her. Your goal is to break off as smooth as possible (for your benefit) and leave her the least damaged (for her benefit).

 

[rjc149]

A sure fire way to get a chick immediately disinterested in you, while also preserving her dignity, is to ask her to be her boyfriend.

“Can I be your boyfriend? I can be your everything ”

Another way is to ask her to do more and more extreme sex acts, accompanied by porn gifs. If she’s down, maybe she’s worth keeping around for a bit.

 

[Juanto]

Just stop initiating contact with her

 

[jimwho]

Going by memory : my go to is (which is a white lie) "my ex just called. I thought that I was over her, but she apologized and wants to work things out. I'm sure that my friends would see you as much better than her, but I can't deny that some old feelings have come back. I respect you too much to lead you on. I'm very sorry. I hope that you understand."

A sure fire way to get a chick immediately disinterested in you, while also preserving her dignity, is to ask her to be her boyfriend.

“Can I be your boyfriend? I can be your everything ”

Another way is to ask her to do more and more extreme sex acts, accompanied by porn gifs. If she’s down, maybe she’s worth keeping around for a bit.

One more.. Hi Julie, I just lost my job. Would like to see you more, can you pay for our dates for a while. Hugs & kisses.

 

[bat soup]

Just banged a chick from OLD , not really interested in pursuing anything further think she definitely is because in her words " she hasn't met many guys like me before"

I had the usual spiel about " i don't normally do this " ," cant believe i have done this on first date"

I Don't think she is crazy but obviously you never know

Thoughts on how to fizzle this out quickly and quietly ?

Tell her that you're busy and schedule a date once every 3 weeks.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Despite the forum's overall consensus attitude, if a woman offers me the 'goods' then I prefer to leave her with a sense of dignity.

Going by memory : my go to is (which is a white lie) "my ex just called. I thought that I was over her, but she apologized and wants to work things out. I'm sure that my friends would see you as much better than her, but I can't deny that some old feelings have come back. I respect you too much to lead you on. I'm very sorry. I hope that you understand."

edit ---of course, there will be forum members that will froth at the mouth and say that you're never supposed to say that you're "sorry."
This is the type of chick that you never plan to see again. You're not invested in any type of future outcome with her. Your goal is to break off as smooth as possible (for your benefit) and leave her the least damaged (for her benefit).

Yea same these chicks can literally ruin your life at the snap of fingers so its good to keep it civil

i think I can work the ex girlfriend angle , she knows i'm not long out of a LTR anyway so it makes sense

She's not text me today anyway so maybe she's had what she wanted

good girl

 

[SW15]

Just stop initiating contact with her

That works well.

 

[Stoic]

Tell her that you're busy and schedule a date once every 3 weeks.

Being completely serious. This is what I have done.

 

[typical]

Yea same these chicks can literally ruin your life at the snap of fingers so its good to keep it civil

i think I can work the ex girlfriend angle , she knows i'm not long out of a LTR anyway so it makes sense

She's not text me today anyway so maybe she's had what she wanted

good girl

Was the sex that bad ? I mean no harm in making her a back burner plate ya know. Food for when the pickings get slim. You will have to entertain her at least a few times a month to keep the hook set.

In my late twenties I had a cutish 23 yo as a back burner plate. I didn’t treat her like crap but kept her around for 3 years she knew I was super busy with my career and stayed on the team thinking eventually she would snap me up. Didn’t happen and eventually she found a nice bloke to settle down with. I still get birthday and Christmas cards from her.