How do yall feel about your friends meeting your gf/plates

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I'm personally against it and it has backfired on me and I've seen it backfire on other people a lot of times. You should probably have 1-2 friends that you have vouched beforehand to show them, so she knows you're not a hermit lol.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

If Alcohol is involved, no

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Huh? I can’t fathom this being any sort of issue unless your friends mog you to Jupiter and back. FWIW, my girls have met my friends. Has been fine.

 

[Georgepithyou]

I honestly have no real friends, just aquatainces that I'm not close enough with to ever show my GF to them. There's a long chain of events that led me to having no friends.

I usually try to avoid it as much as possible when my Girlfriend would ask to meet my friends after i met hers.

This clip from I love You Man is pretty much me

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Huh? I can’t fathom this being any sort of issue unless your friends mog you to Jupiter and back. FWIW, my girls have met my friends. Has been fine.

dang you are lucky man

 

[SargeMaximus]

Yeah my family mogged me out of a few girls over the years. What can you do?

 

[B80]

Yeah my family mogged me out of a few girls over the years. What can you do?

family? gosh thats brutal mate.

 

[B80]

I honestly have no real friends, just aquatainces that I'm not close enough with to ever show my GF to them. There's a long chain of events that led me to having no friends.

I usually try to avoid it as much as possible when my Girlfriend would ask to meet my friends after i met hers.

This clip from I love You Man is pretty much me

Yep, tbh outside of back in my 20's when going out to bars, clubs most weekends with large network of some friends, acquaintances etc, I don't really meet up or hang around with friends anymore. Not a priority if honest, don;t have time to hang out often like back in teens, 20's as once in 30's, 40's you or they tend to have kids, careers, business etc that take priority. May look a bit odder if you're in your teens, 20's and don't appear to have social circle to go out for meals, drinks with at the weekends, at least once or twice a month. Particularly with attractive women, who tend to be socialites and more extrovert in general.

Stay in touch loosely with a few over whatsapp, but one I consider close friend for years, apparently got a bit too friendly with my now ex wife on a night out at one point. He has a rep for cheating on all his g/f's when drunk, I've seen him action. Shame as its broke my trust and would avoid introducing him to anyone now where possible. He's naturally charismatic, smooth. One of those guys that men and women gravitate towards. Really thin (never worked out), but above average looks and solid personality - seemingly natural charisma, makes people laugh without being a clown etc

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I would think being worried about your friends meeting your plates is a sign of scarcity mindset. If you have abundance, who cares if she monkey branches you with a friend. You may get a girl that monkey branched your friend at some point.

Dang I guess my girl is a closet lesbian since my friends are females

 

[RangerMIke]

All the time. I usually bring women along to things I already have planned so I can not avoid women I date meeting my friends. However, I draw the line with them meeting my kids... none of the women I date can meet my kids or immediate family. I also avoid meeting her kids and immediate family.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Come on man... every reply in this thread is based on the idea of you talking about guy friends. How could a female amog you? Which is what @Hamurabimbi replied. Or why would alcohol be an issue as @CAPSLOCK BANDIT suggested. It's almost as if you created this thread because you knew someone would post what I did, and you could get your snarky reply in. Time to grow up dude.

You’re the one with the snarky low energy doom/gloom black pill response. Nothing in my OP told you that I have desperate guy friends. I get along with females better because most guys can be idiots lol

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

All the time. I usually bring women along to things I already have planned so I can not avoid women I date meeting my friends. However, I draw the line with them meeting my kids... none of the women I date can meet my kids or immediate family. I also avoid meeting her kids and immediate family.

you are very fortunate to have some trustworthy and valuable friends dude.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Come on man... every reply in this thread is based on the idea of you talking about guy friends. How could a female amog you? Which is what @Hamurabimbi replied. Or why would alcohol be an issue as @CAPSLOCK BANDIT suggested. It's almost as if you created this thread because you knew someone would post what I did, and you could get your snarky reply in. Time to grow up dude.

The alcohol has nothing to do with her, but my buddies, when we all get together and drink, feelings are gonna get hurt, the roasting begins the second your throat starts burning from the shots and I can't control what my friends do or say. Would never invite a chick out drinking with my friends lmao.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

with the increased supply of emotionally fvcked up narcist women, she will use your friends against you. Vouch these girls before you lower your defenses to let her in your kingdom.

 

[RangerMIke]

you are very fortunate to have some trustworthy and valuable friends dude.

If they weren't trustworthy and valuable, they wouldn't be my friends.

 

[Hal9000]

Plates are for sex so no need for them to be involved in any part of your life beyond that. Girlfriends are a bit different. Its usually a good idea for your gf to know you've got friends and that you have a somewhat normal social life. How much you want to get her involved in that is a case by case decision. I usually prefer not to cross those two streams but there are times where it's appropriate.

 

[HaleyBaron]

So, essentially, a lot of my plates right now are basically in a couple of social circles, with two that aren't even involved in said circles. The way it works is that everyone knows to keep what happens in the bedroom in the bedroom. The girls like to bang thats in my circles, they know guys like me like to bang, they will ask for a hookup, and then it happens. No drama. There is probably going to become a time when eventually one or two of them are going to try to start something serious, and I'll have to decline, and then drama could occur. But if your game remains tight and your care very low, drama can never take off.

 

[SW15]

Yep, tbh outside of back in my 20's when going out to bars, clubs most weekends with large network of some friends, acquaintances etc, I don't really meet up or hang around with friends anymore. Not a priority if honest, don;t have time to hang out often like back in teens, 20's as once in 30's, 40's you or they tend to have kids, careers, business etc that take priority.

If you are a single and unattached guy or a single guy with transient relationships (relationships of 2 years or less mostly), you will be a bit of an outlier in most social circles by your early to mid 30s. Most men in their 30s and 40s are in serious LTRs. Many have kids and pets. Their lives run around their kids and pets in their free time. If they are college graduate, white collar men, they are often working a lot and career is important. Single guys don't fit that mold and tend to be semi independent.

Plates are for sex so no need for them to be involved in any part of your life beyond that. Girlfriends are a bit different. Its usually a good idea for your gf to know you've got friends and that you have a somewhat normal social life. How much you want to get her involved in that is a case by case decision. I usually prefer not to cross those two streams but there are times where it's appropriate.

Girlfriends will find it odd if they never meet your friends, even if you don't have too many friends.

 

[2Rocky]

I've had industry colleagues meet women on the first night I met them and most have been respectful, and in many cases were great wingmen. I am always very cautious who the first people in my social circle are who meet my potential LTR's (not that there have been a lot of them) . The people I am closest to are always the last to know it seems. At least those are the ones that were successful...

I'll admit; watching how she is received and how she reacts to my friend circle. is me vetting her just as much as it is me getting social proof with her.

 

[Hal9000]

If you are a single and unattached guy or a single guy with transient relationships (relationships of 2 years or less mostly), you will be a bit of an outlier in most social circles by your early to mid 30s. Most men in their 30s and 40s are in serious LTRs. Many have kids and pets. Their lives run around their kids and pets in their free time. If they are college graduate, white collar men, they are often working a lot and career is important. Single guys don't fit that mold and tend to be semi independent.



Girlfriends will find it odd if they never meet your friends, even if you don't have too many friends.

I agree with that, especially if you're younger. However as you get older it becomes much less of an issue. Even acknowledging that, however meeting them for a concert or something like that every once in a while is a lot different than hanging out with them on a consistent basis. Once again, age plays a factor in this as older people tend to not "hang out with friends" nearly as much as do younger people.