Practical strategies for the loner male

[Xenom0rph]

Boyos, let us segue into a new topic in the Loner Male genre....

As I mentioned in my Loner Male thread HERE, there is absolutely no shame for a man to become a loner once he enters adulthood - it's the natural course of life as friends and family go their separate ways.

But we have to address the question: what strategies can a loner male employ to increase his probably of sparking up conversation with other people - specifically females.

On this subject, I'm gonna have to give credit to the PUA goons because they absolutely were right that Peac0cking does have its usefulness.

It's useful because:

1) It catches people's attention
2) It creates a topic of discussion
3) It can attract the attention of people with similar tastes, life experiences, hobbies etc.

EX: In my 20s, I used to ride sportbikes. My favorite motorcycle gear brand was Alpinestar. If I walked around with an Alpinestar t-shirt I would occasionally have random guys come up and ask me what kind of bike I ride. And occasionally, some females would be aware of the brand and ask me what kind of bike I ride as well.

These days, I don't ride anymore. But I still use clothing to send a particular message about my lifestyle. And the way I dress also opens up opportunities for people to spark up conversation with me if they get curious about my attire.

When I'm going about town, I dress similar to this: I wear basketball shorts over brightly colored compression pants, basketball shoes, and a t-shirt.
It gives women to the opportunity to ask me about my clothes, or ask me what gym I go to, or ask me where I buy my clothing.

If they find my facial aesthetics attractive, then my clothing gives them an excuse to spark up conversation.




I'm also contemplating putting aside my dislike of Apple and buying an iPhone because iPhones are great conversational accessories.

Also, if you've got the disposable income, then a Tesla is always a great accessory when it comes to attracting attention for conversation.

You can attract women who find Tesla classy, or you can attract women who are leftist Climate Change activist types, or you can attract women who are gold diggers, etc....

Tesla is another one of those brands that are great conversational pieces.

And of course, there's always dog game. If you have a dog, it's a great way to attract female attention.

 

[ubercat]

I m a semi loner. Handful of close friends, live in gf for years and participate in some sports meetups. I was curious about this as it wouldn't take too many people to move away and I d be Johnny nomates. @Mike32ct had some tips on soloing at bars he might be willing to share

 

[Murk]

Wearing certain clothes in the hope a woman will start talking to you about them? Forgive me, but I think you're doing it wrong.

Being a loner is fine, I am more reclusive in my 30s now due to starting a business, covid lockdowns, and refusing to OLD (can recycle just fine for now).

However, if I wanted to find women I know I'd have to be proactive in that pursuit. Otherwise, you're just in the wilderness laying traps hoping to catch something, that seems off to me.

 

[Xenom0rph]

Wearing certain clothes in the hope a woman will start talking to you about them? Forgive me, but I think you're doing it wrong.

Being a loner is fine, I am more reclusive in my 30s now due to starting a business, covid lockdowns, and refusing to OLD (can recycle just fine for now).

However, if I wanted to find women I know I'd have to be proactive in that pursuit. Otherwise, you're just in the wilderness laying traps hoping to catch something, that seems off to me.

I just ordered this combo compression shirt and pants so I can look like a Marvel superhero when I'm running errands around town.... ded freakin' serious, I'm not joking, I really did buy these...

 

[metalwater]

I just ordered this combo compression shirt and pants so I can look like a Marvel superhero when I'm running errands around town.... ded freakin' serious, I'm not joking, I really did buy these...



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That's nice for running sprints in.

 

[Georgepithyou]

EX: In my 20s, I used to ride sportbikes. My favorite motorcycle gear brand was Alpinestar. If I walked around with an Alpinestar t-shirt I would occasionally have random guys come up and ask me what kind of bike I ride. And occasionally, some females would be aware of the brand and ask me what kind of bike I ride as well.

This is a very good point, i did notice random people approach me and talk to me whenever i had my Slayer T shirt on. I'm not that into heavy metal but it did get the attention of a lot of unique people.

And of course, there's always dog game. If you have a dog, it's a great way to attract female attention.

I have heard from a few guys that going to the dog park with a big dog is one of the best way to meet women

 

[Poonstra]

I have heard from a few guys that going to the dog park with a big dog is one of the best way to meet women

It really is. Once the dogs start sniffing each others buts it gives you time to chat with the other owner.

 

[Mike32ct]

I m a semi loner. Handful of close friends, live in gf for years and participate in some sports meetups. I was curious about this as it wouldn't take too many people to move away and I d be Johnny nomates. @Mike32ct had some tips on soloing at bars he might be willing to share

I think soloing is a must for introverts because they easily get “drowned out” by extroverted wingmen. And most importantly, they can focus on one on one conversations with people which is their natural strength.

But soloing is good in general for any guy who sees himself as a bit of a lone wolf.

(This is all pre-Cove stuff but should return close to normal soon.)

1. Seat or stand at bar area. Chat with bar staff. Being a regular is huge.

2. Watch tv screens (if any) during lulls in conversation. (Better than playing with your phone.)

3. Turn your head and talk to either lone wolf chicks or groups of two that are in your proximity.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Find reasons to take your guitar case out with you. I've been playing guitar on and off
for 30 years. This works on the bus, in a shop, outdoors, at college, restaurant, pretty
much anywhere. Perfect conversation starter, I usually joke that it's a machine gun and
I'm a hitman stalking my next kill. Does help if you can play a little at least.

 

[Lookatu]

I'm also contemplating putting aside my dislike of Apple and buying an iPhone because iPhones are great conversational accessories.

Also, if you've got the disposable income, then a Tesla is always a great accessory when it comes to attracting attention for conversation.

And of course, there's always dog game. If you have a dog, it's a great way to attract female attention.

I have all three of these and around where I live, everyone and their grandma's have them so it's nothing special.\

Be careful if you get an iPhone though and turn off iMessaging and use SMS for text instead. Or else the girls you're messaging will be able to do the read receipt games with you.

Most electric cars will yield lower operating costs other than conversation. That's the big benefit. I pay around $1 to travel 40 miles roughly. Compare that with the avg $3.50-$4.20/gal used to travel anywhere from 21-30mpg depending on the car. Plus lower operating costs(no oil change, tune ups, less frequent brake replacement, etc)

If you're truly not a dog enthusiast, I would recommend dog sitting instead as it's a big commitment and you will be tied down. Great way to dog sit, get paid, and flash it as an accessory to meet women, and give it back after a period of time.

My $.02

 

[2Rocky]

I'm frequently solo when I am out and about. While I don't necessary Peacock, I do try to be individual in my style. I accentuate my broad shoulders in my shirt fits and look to more fitted shirts that don't blouse around my midsection. Ithink about what is attractive in my archetype, and focus on those aspects. The loner can be the "stranger in town", the drifter, the new guy in town, the new sheriff in town, etc. depending on how you want to frame it.

One bank teller was referring to me with her colleagues as "that Wrestler looking dude" . You don't see wrestlers in a bunch, no they are there in the ring alone mano a mano...

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Boyos, let us segue into a new topic in the Loner Male genre....

As I mentioned in my Loner Male thread HERE, there is absolutely no shame for a man to become a loner once he enters adulthood - it's the natural course of life as friends and family go their separate ways.

But we have to address the question: what strategies can a loner male employ to increase his probably of sparking up conversation with other people - specifically females.

On this subject, I'm gonna have to give credit to the PUA goons because they absolutely were right that Peac0cking does have its usefulness.

It's useful because:

1) It catches people's attention
2) It creates a topic of discussion
3) It can attract the attention of people with similar tastes, life experiences, hobbies etc.

EX: In my 20s, I used to ride sportbikes. My favorite motorcycle gear brand was Alpinestar. If I walked around with an Alpinestar t-shirt I would occasionally have random guys come up and ask me what kind of bike I ride. And occasionally, some females would be aware of the brand and ask me what kind of bike I ride as well.

These days, I don't ride anymore. But I still use clothing to send a particular message about my lifestyle. And the way I dress also opens up opportunities for people to spark up conversation with me if they get curious about my attire.

When I'm going about town, I dress similar to this: I wear basketball shorts over brightly colored compression pants, basketball shoes, and a t-shirt.
It gives women to the opportunity to ask me about my clothes, or ask me what gym I go to, or ask me where I buy my clothing.

If they find my facial aesthetics attractive, then my clothing gives them an excuse to spark up conversation.

I'm also contemplating putting aside my dislike of Apple and buying an iPhone because iPhones are great conversational accessories.

Also, if you've got the disposable income, then a Tesla is always a great accessory when it comes to attracting attention for conversation.

You can attract women who find Tesla classy, or you can attract women who are leftist Climate Change activist types, or you can attract women who are gold diggers, etc....

Tesla is another one of those brands that are great conversational pieces.

And of course, there's always dog game. If you have a dog, it's a great way to attract female attention.

Hm I like your intention here, but I am unsure about all that. You should only buy things you need. The fast track to becoming and staying poor is buying things you do not need. And even worse, buying things to get attention.

Now buying things you strictly need can be a bit extreme from some, but if you are going to buy something it should at least be something/brand/company/etc you truly believe in and personally follow/support then let the rest come. Especially if it's something expensive and out of your budget.

If you guys like Podcasts and have Spotify you should listen to this Episode of The Art Of Manliness about this very topic which I personally found pretty rad.


Modern Man Advice

 

[2Rocky]

AoM has some pretty good advice. Kinda "stuff your Dad should have taught you".

 

[Poonstra]

If you're truly not a dog enthusiast, I would recommend dog sitting instead as it's a big commitment and you will be tied down. Great way to dog sit, get paid, and flash it as an accessory to meet women, and give it back after a period of time.

Or go to the local shelter and take one of their dogs for a walk. Most of them love are more than happy with the attention.