Paper Crane
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After reading quite a bit this year about the dating game and talking to people more about their dynamics with women, I've realized there are some dudes who want to know more about being an ethnic dude gaming women in America. One example being this dude I met from Canada who relocated to the states for work. He's done very well for himself in Canada but says he feels like women in America are more shallow. There are also dudes in my city who happen to be Mexican who have also found some difficulties in dating outside of their race.
I want to say, I'm a mixed race Latino/Asian person who's got tan/brown skin. I haven't had too many problems dating women of other races or might have never noticed it throughout my life. I've seen more white dudes need help with women than any other race, but to be fair, they also make up a way bigger fraction of the population (majority)
I also happen to be 5'9 and skinny/smaller. When I say smaller, I got a smaller head, smaller hands, smaller frame overall. I will admittedly say that I noticed that this can be a disadvantage with women as women usually go for taller dudes, and dudes who are overall "bigger", more muscular, or wider frame/broader shoulders, big hands. Women notice all these things in men.
But, with a body count in the 20's, and having slept with some super hot chicks off Tinder this year ..and having some hot ass plates, I can offer advice.
Whatever questions or concerns you have, or if you need advice, feel free to post it here, or pm me. I'm down to talk, zoom call, skype (i dont use skype anymore but can download it), you name it.
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Now, for some practical advice / points:
-90% of your game is your personality.
-Within that 90% of personality, its important to understand that no one knows your personality off bat. Thus, women rely on visual, auditory and social cues to understand your personality better.
- Everything you say to a women upon meeting her is analyzed. But not with a magnifying glass. It's more or less second nature for women to hear and decode what you said to some meaning before storing it in their mind. That being if they're interested in you visually. If not, most of the info you put out won't even be saved in their memory. So if you're not cool, it will show within seconds.
- When gaming, a girl notices your eyes first, lips second, overall facial symmetry, hair and your body. Most of these elements are viewed simultaneously. Your style tells her exactly where you fit in , to what social clique, and what your personality represents about you.
-CONFIDENCE is everything.
-DATING APPS ARE SUPERFICIAL. - If a girl is hot, its likely she will be superficial. If she's not, or if she's a more "worldly" person, it won't matter, because she'll not discriminate superficially.
- Yes you need to be ATTRACTIVE. But, attraction is a very subjective thing. We as men might perceive someone as ugly , but that same guy might exhibit a "cute smile' to women. this goes hand in hand with confidence.
-One of these dudes who I met who I thought looked ugly af, actually has over 700 + matches a day on apps like Tinder, bumble, Hinge, etc. Why do I think this is? 1) physically, he looks like an athlete 2) pearly white teeth and smiles in all his photos 3) makes good money which adds to his confidence level 4) displays a lot of elements of fun and sophisticated.
-Now that you know these things, women who don't really rely much on apps, basically women in the real world don't care about your race or too much about your height. Now if you're super short or scrawny, your personality can make up for it..
-Lastly, gaming is not for everyone. Some are best off finding the right girl where they can and settling down.
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I want to say, I'm a mixed race Latino/Asian person who's got tan/brown skin. I haven't had too many problems dating women of other races or might have never noticed it throughout my life. I've seen more white dudes need help with women than any other race, but to be fair, they also make up a way bigger fraction of the population (majority)
I also happen to be 5'9 and skinny/smaller. When I say smaller, I got a smaller head, smaller hands, smaller frame overall. I will admittedly say that I noticed that this can be a disadvantage with women as women usually go for taller dudes, and dudes who are overall "bigger", more muscular, or wider frame/broader shoulders, big hands. Women notice all these things in men.
But, with a body count in the 20's, and having slept with some super hot chicks off Tinder this year ..and having some hot ass plates, I can offer advice.
Whatever questions or concerns you have, or if you need advice, feel free to post it here, or pm me. I'm down to talk, zoom call, skype (i dont use skype anymore but can download it), you name it.
-----------------
Now, for some practical advice / points:
-90% of your game is your personality.
-Within that 90% of personality, its important to understand that no one knows your personality off bat. Thus, women rely on visual, auditory and social cues to understand your personality better.
- Everything you say to a women upon meeting her is analyzed. But not with a magnifying glass. It's more or less second nature for women to hear and decode what you said to some meaning before storing it in their mind. That being if they're interested in you visually. If not, most of the info you put out won't even be saved in their memory. So if you're not cool, it will show within seconds.
- When gaming, a girl notices your eyes first, lips second, overall facial symmetry, hair and your body. Most of these elements are viewed simultaneously. Your style tells her exactly where you fit in , to what social clique, and what your personality represents about you.
-CONFIDENCE is everything.
-DATING APPS ARE SUPERFICIAL. - If a girl is hot, its likely she will be superficial. If she's not, or if she's a more "worldly" person, it won't matter, because she'll not discriminate superficially.
- Yes you need to be ATTRACTIVE. But, attraction is a very subjective thing. We as men might perceive someone as ugly , but that same guy might exhibit a "cute smile' to women. this goes hand in hand with confidence.
-One of these dudes who I met who I thought looked ugly af, actually has over 700 + matches a day on apps like Tinder, bumble, Hinge, etc. Why do I think this is? 1) physically, he looks like an athlete 2) pearly white teeth and smiles in all his photos 3) makes good money which adds to his confidence level 4) displays a lot of elements of fun and sophisticated.
-Now that you know these things, women who don't really rely much on apps, basically women in the real world don't care about your race or too much about your height. Now if you're super short or scrawny, your personality can make up for it..
-Lastly, gaming is not for everyone. Some are best off finding the right girl where they can and settling down.
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