Beware of the the relationship **** test, the most failed **** test by men

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

This happened to a couple of my friends recently, but they would meet a girl and hit it off for like a month or two maybe and the girl would bring up the relationship question. On paper this sounds like she's highly interested and a lot of guys fall for this trap pretty easily. However, the first time she asks you is to test whether or not you are more valuable than her or are you just faking it until she asks you.

Friend A) He was hitting it off with a girl for like a month and he thought he had won the golden ticket when she dropped the "what are we" bomb on him. Needless to say, this girl CHEATED on him the following week on a planned spring break trip to Miami. BUT BUT High Interest indicator dude. **** High interest indicators because they don't apply to Gen Z and late millennial women period.

Bottom-line guys, if you are going to be in a relationship, make sure you are her FIRST choice, not her SECOND or THIRD for some buffer relationship decision. When you are her FIRST choice, she will either beg you for a relationship on her knees or just covertly put you in one without asking you. In addition, do not get in a relationship with a girl before 6 months periodddd. Don't fall for the early high interest bait, it's all bull shvt lol. If she can maintain reasonable interest in you for that long then you should be in the clear. The vague "What are we" or :where do you see this going" are shvt tests, so don't fall for them. It's 2021 yall, we cannot even afford to give women a centimeter because they will stretch it to a mile.

 

[Lookatu]

Aren't you the one that has a "GF" after one month?

 

[2Rocky]

you have no credibility Jakey....

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Aren't you the one that has a "GF" after one month?

Nope

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

1 month is not long enough to date, if they ask for exclusivity that fast its either cluster B or because she wants you on the hook just prior to planned cheating like in this story. I've had this happen, and I was like "uhhh are you SURE you want to be exclusive before spring break?" lol. Of course she pretended like she was all worried about me and my behavior, but she had planned to cheat the whole time.

A lot of men blow their hands at the first hint of a relationship lol. A lot of women don't even deserve a relationship, but most guys just measure rather not she's putting out as the barometer lol.

 

[Lookatu]

Nope

I smell bull$hit...

Should I validate my gf this early in the relationship

I really don't like validating women until she has real skin in the game. However, my family is coming to town and visit and they have been bugging to see her. Should I make up some bs that she can't make it or invite her and let them know that I'm not rotting alone in a big city :) TBH, I...

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[Robert28]

You will NEVER know if you are her first choice.

 

[RickTheToad]

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I smell bull$hit...

Should I validate my gf this early in the relationship

I really don't like validating women until she has real skin in the game. However, my family is coming to town and visit and they have been bugging to see her. Should I make up some bs that she can't make it or invite her and let them know that I'm not rotting alone in a big city :) TBH, I...

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Just because I refer to her as my GF on this site for simpler terms doesn't mean I I call her my gf or treat her like one hence why the topic was made. Does dating for a month really mean I started talking to her for an exact month? Look at the post where I called out your friend FYI.

 

[Lookatu]

Just because I refer to her as my GF on this site for simpler terms doesn't mean I I call her my gf or treat her like one hence why the topic was made. Does dating for a month really mean I started talking to her for an exact month? Look at the post where I called out your friend FYI.

This doesn't make any sense man, just like half of your posts.

 

[spikeanut]

Women will always bring this up; the critical variable is what is their true intent. Regardless of whether it was brought up from a cluster B woman who's love bombing, or one who genuinely desires a relationship with you, an affirmative response would be a crucial error by any standard. Not only does it place you in their frame and allowing them to dictate the flow of the "relationship", but it also doesn't allow you to determine their true motive for that question.

A response that's worked for me, which also takes back the control, is indicating you are still getting to know one another but continuing down the path towards a relationship. There is still vetting to be done to determine whether a relationship will work. Not only does this type of response address their question from your frame, but it also sells them the dream that a potential relationship is in the works as long as you continue to get what you like from them. Selling the dream is a must... it gives them hope there is a light at the tunnel (winning you over into a relationship), and will encourage them to be on their best behavior to win you over.

This response will also help weed out those cluster B women. If they push back and continue to maneuver the discussion into their frame and timeline, then this is a clear sign you are merely being manipulated by a woman who is in her masculine frame and feels like she has the upper hand in the relationship and also only views it as a means to an end without any real feelings of affection towards you. Both of which are tell tale signs the relationship will fail because she does not respect you as the leader and man in the relationship.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

This doesn't make any sense man, just like half of your posts.

Then block me instead of trolling my topics.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Most of this OP is just wrong. Women bring up exclusivity when they really like you. They do not even consider it otherwise.

Ive outlined how to negotiate a relationship in other threads. Basically, she has to bring it up and you have to shvt test her about social media and other men. Only agree to exclusivity if she has healthy social media habits and completely drops all her male orbiters. No exes or male friends in the picture.

 

[spikeanut]

Women kind of put us in a sh1tty position when they push for exclusivity quickly. Rejecting their offer gives them carte blanche to do what they were going to do anyway, while the offer itself sows doubt and makes them seem better than other women at the most literal level

That's not rejecting; that's indicating the rational and reasonable logic that it's too soon but may be possible in the future. Additionally, it also shows that you are not afraid to lose them if it doesn't continue to work out..such as them disrespecting you. As far as giving them carte blanche; you must always assume a women is talking to other men. Unless she is your GF or you've addressed exclusivity, then it's no harm, no foul.

 

[spikeanut]

Most of this OP is just wrong. Women bring up exclusivity when they really like you. They do not even consider it otherwise.

Ive outlined how to negotiate a relationship in other threads. Basically, she has to bring it up and you have to shvt test her about social media and other men. Only agree to exclusivity if she has healthy social media habits and completely drops all her male orbiters. No exes or male friends in the picture.

Yes, this is also the perfect time to bring about boundaries. My responses at this stage also go along the lines of: I don't think you're ready for a serious relationship yet...which leads right into the discussion of boundaries or things you actually want her to change. If a woman is into you and genuinely is pursuing a relationship, this allows you to dictate the terms of what's needed to get into a relationship with you. However, I do agree with OP in the sense that some women, especially if this is extremely early on in dating, do use this as their love bombing tactic. These type of women will likely be in their masculine state, but will be easy to spot because they will push back hard on the boundaries and the items you want them to change.

 

[EyeBRollin]

These type of women will likely be in their masculine state, but will be easy to spot because they will push back hard on the boundaries and the items you want them to change.

This is an astute observation. Though I’ve never encountered a woman bringing up exclusivity while she wasn’t in her feminine. They are natural plate spinners; you are already number one if they are asking you to be exclusive.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Most of this OP is just wrong. Women bring up exclusivity when they really like you. They do not even consider it otherwise.

Ive outlined how to negotiate a relationship in other threads. Basically, she has to bring it up and you have to shvt test her about social media and other men. Only agree to exclusivity if she has healthy social media habits and completely drops all her male orbiters. No exes or male friends in the picture.

Good luck doing this to a girl below the age of 28

 

[EyeBRollin]

Good luck doing this to a girl below the age of 28

We don’t need luck. She either gets on my program or I move on.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

We don’t need luck. She either gets on my program or I move on.

We all have different standards & boundaries lol. I'm not scared of orbiters or exes.

 

[spikeanut]

in her mind, trust me its a rejection and she will redouble her efforts to exact revenge to the extent she is able. It doesn't matter at the end of the day because, that early on, she will be dating and talking to others with "exclusivity" or without.

You and I are ultimately saying the same thing. However, accepting their offer, especially after a month, is a far worse fate.