I would very much like to read your opinions and recommendations, my friends. Thanks a lot.
My friend! I've been in the exact same position a few weeks ago. I got that girl out on a date and we "sealed the deal" yesterday night. I googled a lot of information when I approached this girl. Never gamed a girl on FB before this one.
My advice (by personal experience and helpful info I found on the web): find the goldielock zone between being perceived as a creep and being perceived as a "friendly" dude. Both won't get you anywhere.
Now, first look at the girl's profile. If she's someone with 1000+ friends then she's a friend collector and she adding you don't mean a thing. You can try and talk to her, but your chances aren't really high. You never know ofcourse.
If she doesn't have a lot of FB-friends or you have friends in common, your chances rise imo. These girls don't add just anyone. If you have friends in common and she likes those people you're in a pretty good spot. She'll trust you more because of that mutual connection.
How to start? This is how I did it. So no quarantee it will work on your girl(s)
Adknowledge the fact that it is a bit weird to approach a girl on Facebook. This will defuse the situation a bit. You can say something like:
"Hey, I know adding girls on FB is creepy as hell, but FB suggested we might know eachother. We don't, but you look like a fun person so hell yeah I wanna get to know you"
> The first part lets her know you know goddamn well only creeps do this, and you obviously aren't one
> Do not complement her appearance. Things like "You're hot" or "Do you have a boyfriend" are not to be used
> By suggesting she's fun she will feel the need to act as fun
Not all girls will react well I guess. Some might ignore you. Mine was very happy with the way I approached her (although I must add, I met her once)
Than show her your fun side. Joke around a little bit. Use something you saw on her profile or whatever. She must sense that you'd be fun to go on a date with.
Do not like her pictures. If you really want to, like her latest profile pic but don't go deep liking all of her pictures. That's creepy.
Don't overtext. Let her answer before you send another message and don't reply immediately. You've got a life. Keep in mind, when you don't answer but she sees you're online all the time it loses its power and will backfire.
If possible, talk about something more serious at some point so she sees you're not all jokes and on a high note send her this:
"I really like talking to you over Facebook, so I have a feeling I'd like talking to you even more in person. Let's go for a drink! How is your agenda looking the next few weeks?"
You can gauge her interest at this point and act accordingly. Don't turn into a spammer/stalker and know when to cut your losses.
Good luck and please, keep me posted
