Do woman want intimacy and emotional connection?

[BadBoy89]

Woman say they need intimacy, need to be desired and emotionally connected to their partner for sex. If this is true, then why are all these young decent looking women on these hook up apps? There is no connection, there is no intimacy, there is no kissing or loving. Its just wam bam thank you ma’am.

So women are full of it when they say they want emotional connection and intimacy. They say it for image and money, not because they care about it.

Thoughts?

 

[AttackFormation]

They want it but it isn't their primary goal. Some don't want it and some sabotage it when they find it.

What's the primary goal?

 

[AttackFormation]

Woman say they need intimacy, need to be desired and emotionally connected to their partner for sex. If this is true, then why are all these young decent looking women on these hook up apps? There is no connection, there is no intimacy, there is no kissing or loving. Its just wam bam thank you ma’am.

So women are full of it when they say they want emotional connection and intimacy. They say it for image and money, not because they care about it.

Thoughts?

Basically, I think you are doing the common mistake of underestimating how poor womens' selfesteem in particular but also mental health is, and the consequences of that in their actions. You could make a case for impulse control too. You then try to force your own logical constraints on them as if they were malfunctioning computer scripts, when what's really the case is turbulent emotional impulses.

That, plus what LA85 said - it's not a life or death matter all the time or with every guy, they like to fvck too.

 

[rjc149]

Woman say they need intimacy, need to be desired and emotionally connected to their partner for sex.

The answer in bold underlined italics.

They're usually not on Tinder looking for a partner. They're looking for, in the following order, validation, a quick fling, and perhaps a partner if the fling develops into that.

Remember that female mating strategy is dual-faceted. They mate with "alphas" for superior genetics, and nest with "betas" for long-term stability and provisioning abilities to ensure survival of the offspring.

Hence why the optimally attractive man is both -- the alpha provider. The strong, wealthy, dominant man who can also be emotionally nurturing.

 

[TheProspect]

Because first comes sex, then comes emotional connection.

Men who reverse the order get played.

I agree.

People in general often tend to value a thing in proportion to their investment of it. For most girls, sex is a big investment into someone, which is usually followed by the emotional connection.

A lot of guys invest wayyyyy too much time and energy into a girl they haven't even had sex with. Of course a girl isn't going to value such a guy who is obviously needy when she hasn't invested anything substantial (sex) into him.

 

[rjc149]

A lot of "hookup culture" is a social construct under which modern women feel pressure to conform. Post-feminist attitudes dictate that a woman can be just like a man -- be strong, independent, and sexually liberated.

The reality is, women aren't wired to be promiscuous and "spread their seed" the way men are. Years of promiscuity can be emotionally damaging to many women, and of course, makes them far less desirable as long-term prospects for top-tier men.

 

[KindredSpiritzz]

least in my age bracket most of the womens profiles will say not looking for a hook up or FWB.
Course if they find you attractive on that first date you'll probably get some. I think they want to have sex cause their horny but they also want to have sex and build an emotional connection. I doubt most would sleep with a guy if he said up front this is a one time thing.