"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Among the sosuave forum options, there's one called "Anything Else." If certain discussions are locked down, then is this really a place to discuss "anything else?"
All Forum sections are moderated according to Forum Rules. It’s not difficult to understand.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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All Forum sections are moderated according to Forum Rules. It’s not difficult to understand.
Unfortunately, I'm having "difficulty" understanding, the priorities here. Since you are a mod and are stepping up the plate, I ask you....
why would mods rather lock a thread between older members (that can take it from one another) than to discourage older members from insulting, belittling denigrating new or newer members?

In fact, I've even called out a couple of newly promoted mods for putting down new members (rather than offering constructive advice).

Again, you are a mod and you stepped up to the plate and so I ask; Is the above behavior less important than some old time members having a p!ssing contest?

We are supposed to believe that it's not about discouraging or censoring certain topics and instead... it's about maintaining good behavior.
However, as stated above, I'm just not seeing the mods reinforcing good behavior when it's toward new members.

Actions speak louder than words. Right? Therefor, I'm judging you by yours and not your words.
 
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Unfortunately, I'm having "difficulty" understanding, the priorities here. Since you are a mod and are stepping up the plate, I ask you....
why would mods rather lock a thread between older members (that can take it from one another) than to discourage older members from insulting, belittling denigrating new or newer members?

In fact, I've even called out a couple of newly promoted mods for putting down new members (rather than offering constructive advice).

Again, you are a mod and you stepped up to the plate and so I ask; Is the above behavior less important than some old time members having a p!ssing contest?
Good point. New members being insulted might need further moderation with the older member that did it being penalized, but if the newer member started the krapfest, then it’s on him….
Always read the rules first new guys…
Two older members insulting each other though, both will be penalized as they should know better after having that much time beforehand to Read the Forum Rules.
 

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Good point. New members being insulted might need further moderation with the older member that did it being penalized, but if the newer member started the krapfest, then it’s on him….
Always read the rules first new guys…
Two older members insulting each other though, both will be penalized as they should know better after having that much time beforehand to Read the Forum Rules.
My current comment here isn't expressed with the intention of providing a hostile behavioral environment .. but it sure begs the question. I'm confident that other members are thinking the same thing and so I'll openly say it.

You've been a member here since 2013 and you are known for locking more threads than other mods... and you are just now getting 'religion' about some of the old timers chest-thumping toward new members?

99% of the new members are walking wounded and not instigating bad behavior. I don't wish to come across as hostile, but if you weren't so busy looking for threads to lock, you'd probably already know this.
 
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My current comment here isn't expressed with the intention of providing a hostile behavioral environment .. but it sure begs the question. I'm confident that other members are thinking the same thing and so I'll openly say it.

You've been a member here since 2013 and you are known for locking more threads than other mods... and you are just now getting 'religion' about some of the old timers chest-thumping toward new members?

99% of the new members are walking wounded and not instigating bad behavior. I don't wish to come across as hostile, but if you weren't so busy looking for threads to lock, you'd probably already know this.
I like the cut of your jib.

I will say that a lot of times, new posters aren't just innocent guys looking for help.

Threads getting locked has a lot to do with who you're arguing with. Some people like to hit the report button... i.e. women
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I like the cut of your jib.

I will say that a lot of times, new posters aren't just innocent guys looking for help.

Threads getting locked has a lot to do with who you're arguing with. Some people like to hit the report button... i.e. women
I've always been in favor of not allowing women on this forum.
 

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Political and religious discussion has not been allowed on the forum for longer than most of us has been here, because it has proven to create too many problems between members. This isn't a new rule and isn't just a result of the current political climate, allowing political discussion hasn't worked on this forum for two decades.

The closest you'll get to a limited access "forum" is by starting a private conversation with multiple members of your choosing in it. Members can also be invited after the conversation is started and they can choose to leave it at any time.
 
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Political and religious discussion has not been allowed on the forum for longer than most of us has been here, because it has proven to create too many problems between members. This isn't a new rule and isn't just a result of the current political climate, allowing political discussion hasn't worked on this forum for two decades.

The closest you'll get to a limited access "forum" is by starting a private conversation with multiple members of your choosing in it. Members can also be invited after the conversation is started and they can choose to leave it at any time.
Political discussions were never an issue back in the day, but times have changed.

The red pill has changed
 

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Political discussions were never an issue back in the day, but times have changed.

The red pill has changed
From what I can dig up political discussion hasn't been allowed since 2003. At times the mods have been soft about enforcing it, but civil discussion never lasts for long. It has been tried multiple times throughout the lifetime of this forum and every time it fails.

Times haven't changed, the problem is the same today as it was back then.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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From what I can dig up political discussion hasn't been allowed since 2003. At times the mods have been soft about enforcing it, but civil discussion never lasts for long. It has been tried multiple times throughout the lifetime of this forum and every time it fails.

Times haven't changed, the problem is the same today as it was back then.
Religion and politics. Always hot topics.

But just look at the guys that were the forerunners of game. What are they up to now?

They all got old and political.
 

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Here's the irony:

Mods expend more energy toward policing discussions (locking threads) that they deem 'offensive' ...
than they do expending that same energy toward policing the offensive (chest-thumping) remarks given to many of the new members that join up.

If this was really about keeping this forum sanitized, the mods would focus more on providing a more friendly and welcoming environment for new members. But they don't. And this is quite telling.

"Actions speak louder than words" ... and so, in view of the above actions (and also lack thereof) it's clear that there's a different motive than simply "cleaning up the bad behavior."
 
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Here's the irony:

Mods expend more energy toward policing discussions (locking threads) that they deem 'offensive' ...
than they do expending that same energy toward policing the offensive (chest-thumping) remarks given to many of the new members that join up.

If this was really about keeping this forum sanitized, the mods would focus more on providing a more friendly and welcoming environment for new members. But they don't. And this is quite telling.

"Actions speak louder than words" ... and so, in view of the above actions (and also lack thereof) it's clear that there's a different motive than simply "cleaning up the bad behavior."
This board is to make money through traffic and revenues, which means that being shadow banned or delisted from search engines or worse yet being closed, is the worst outcome ever.

This is why any sensitive topic (aka not approved from the current PC settings) is locked, while new members that decide not to stick around are a lesser problem.

I'm not mad at mods, I perfectly understand what they are doing (which I would so the same in their place) and why it makes perfect sense given the current environment, this is the reason why I suggested a private sandbox accessible only from trusted users...something that appears "restricted" to common users for the reason of "privacy matters".

Its not the admin's fault, let alone the mod yet we can find a solution for all of us.
 

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Thing is, nothing online is private. The mods would have to use the same discretion as on the regular boards. Anything published "privately" can be screen shot, cached, hacked, etc.
Sure thats true which is why being admitted in such area requires a certain amount of posts and time, that alone would avoid social justice warriors to read or link any thread in other platforms.

I find it every unlikely to have someone post here for 6 months, throw 1000 posts only to get inside the "lions den".
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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