Three years ago we started talking again and we met up like twice or so, had s3x both times from what I can remember. We were supposed to meet up again after that but she kept getting “busy” with the three jobs she had. She was always saying she was exhausted. I became annoyed and didn’t like the flakiness. I ended up sending a long text wishing her well. She never responded.
“Hi flowtheory, tomorrow afternoon is not going to work for me to walk with you at *forest location* I’m sorry. I have now too many things to complete that I need to prioritize. Would you be interested in moving our walk to next week?”
Agree and let her do all the planning?
There's this saying. A person will continue to waste your time as long as you let them. People don't change much (in meaningful ways).
Nah. I am quite detached from it. Made the thread because I don’t know if it goes against my self value or respect to open the door for her again. Was looking for perspectives on it.
I came to the conclusion that it would impinge upon my self-respect if I didn’t feel good about it at all, but still went. Or if I allowed her to violate my boundaries again and continue with it.
I see where you're coming from. For me personally, if i've to ask someone for advice and stray away from my head and gut. I know from experience that it wasn't an ideal situation where my boundaries were crossed and self-respect taken a hit.
It's your call but whatever you do, don't expect her to by ANY different from a couple of years ago. She will be "busy" and re-arrange alot.
I see the benefit of some casual sex after a serious relationship has ended, just be sure to invest zero effort.
