Getting tired of hook ups

[Romanemp22]

As time is getting on,im getting more and more annoyed of hook ups. For the last 10 months, ive been hooking up with aprx. 20+ girls which is since my last ltr. At the beginning it was great, i was in an toxic relationship with a bipolar chick so going on more dates and sleeping with different girls felt awesome at first. But as time progressed, it kinda became boring.Sex was great but there was no connection. To make things clear i am happy with myself and my life but right now i kinda want to have meaningfull relationship, where you actually click with a girl.
Also, whenever i was in ltr, i was never with a right girl, they were all full of red flags yet my colleages and friends have some really legit girlfriends. Im starting to guess it is because of my job and look. Im not bragging or anything but i look like some bad boy from movies with buffed body and shaved head so i somehow only attract slutz and crazy chicks. Legit girls just thinks im a player and doesnt want nothing to do with me. Also i have to mention, i work in police and in my country there is big stereotype that all police officers are big players and only want to hump and dump and many 'normal' girls avoid them.
Any advice and opinion will be appreaciated.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Nice work on the lays.

First, "meaningful relationships" for us men really is about finding a thoughtful, loyal, giving woman with healthy self esteem that you are physically attracted to. All that stuff about finding a woman that you guys like the same stuff or have perfectly complimentary personalities is a myth.

You're on a good path. Clearly you can pull. This is just a matter of screening. Learn how to spot red flags early. Pay closer attention to how she acts during the dating phase.

Does she bring you things unsolicited?
Does she ever offer to take you out on a date?
Does she initiate calls and texts?
How does she talk about her family and friends?

Etc etc.

 

[Romanemp22]

Agree with both of you, nice insights. I believe that most educated and girls with good family up bringing tend to be best gfs/wifes.

 

[bat soup]

Maybe if your image is getting you the wrong kind of girls, you could change it a bit. Or maybe find some new interests and hang out in different circles. I don't think bars and discos are the place to find women with long-term potential, for example.

 

[Romanemp22]

Maybe if your image is getting you the wrong kind of girls, you could change it a bit. Or maybe find some new interests and hang out in different circles. I don't think bars and discos are the place to find women with long-term potential, for example.

Yeah bars are the worst when it comes to meeting nice girls. I guess i just have to search a little bit more and look closely.