Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Look @ his chin length, makes Jay Leno have a chin inferiority complex.Turns out the meme is actually based on a real person. He's a Russian dude.
I lol'd hard watching this video.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
People talk about this misterious man who happens to have girls writing first on tinder.^^The minimum requirement to score in 2023
How the fvck is it possible that I couldnt get anything on OLD here except a few girls who are so unattractive to me that i wouldnt have sex with them for money, while guys on this forum with worse physical traits than me claim to be fvcking many new girls every year through OLD in New York.People talk about this misterious man who happens to have girls writing first on tinder.
Yo my man, I recall seeing your pic in Cola's thread, and my honest assessment is that you're a good-looking dude.How the fvck is it possible that I couldnt get anything on OLD here except a few girls who are so unattractive to me that i wouldnt have sex with them for money, while guys on this forum with worse physical traits than me claim to be fvcking many new girls every year through OLD in New York.
Sorry it's just a rant... Just don't know how i am supposed to meet women. I thought university would be it but the fvcking campus is shut down until spring at least. And i don't want to keep fvcking my fwb who can barely even make me hard.... Then it's still a month until i move into My student accommodation, and who knows whether that will even help.
I am introverted and have male-dominated interests too. This means i don't have any social circles, let alone with any young single girls in them. I could try to find some group of girls that do artsy stuff as i want to start doing that too...
I am sick of this... Feeling powerless. And if this is what i feel despite objectively having some good physical assets then what the fvck are guys doing who don't even have that?
Maybe it's that i need to change location? I got a surprising amount of likes once when i set fake gps to Indonesia by mistake. I don't fvcking know.
Again sorry, sometimes the experience of scarcity just becomes too much and you need to let the steam out.
Will it ever be my turn to have it some fvcking easier? God damnit.

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If he accepts you as a friend, your test levels raise 5x.
1)Dont listen to what users of this board say, half of them cant tell the difference from a fat woman and a curvy one and very likely aint banging any....1/3 of western men are sex starved and I find it very unlikely that the winners happens to be all here.How the fvck is it possible that I couldnt get anything on OLD here except a few girls who are so unattractive to me that i wouldnt have sex with them for money, while guys on this forum with worse physical traits than me claim to be fvcking many new girls every year through OLD in New York.
Sorry it's just a rant... Just don't know how i am supposed to meet women. I thought university would be it but the fvcking campus is shut down until spring at least. And i don't want to keep fvcking my fwb who can barely even make me hard.... Then it's still a month until i move into My student accommodation, and who knows whether that will even help.
I am introverted and have male-dominated interests too. This means i don't have any social circles, let alone with any young single girls in them. I could try to find some group of girls that do artsy stuff as i want to start doing that too...
I am sick of this... Feeling powerless. And if this is what i feel despite objectively having some good physical assets then what the fvck are guys doing who don't even have that?
Maybe it's that i need to change location? I got a surprising amount of likes once when i set fake gps to Indonesia by mistake. I don't fvcking know.
Again sorry, sometimes the experience of scarcity just becomes too much and you need to let the steam out.
Will it ever be my turn to have it some fvcking easier? God damnit.
If I go on exchange study to USA I can go to San Diego, North Carolina (Chapel Hill) or Oklahoma (Norman). I can go to other places too but theyre too far north, too cold (the most southern after those 3 was New Jersey). I was wanting to go to Australia or New Zealand... But im not sure about that, don't want to go somewhere else where id just live like this.Yo my man, I recall seeing your pic in Cola's thread, and my honest assessment is that you're a good-looking dude.
You kinda got that Kid n' Play look going on.
But the problem is that OLD is a wasteland for ethniks and mixed race guys so you really can't expect much luck there.
Sorry to say it, but you're gonna have to wait for things to open back up again because your best option is to meet women face-to-face because it's the only way to get past the race filter on OLD.
And you know what's really ironic: you would be slaying in conservative Texas and probably get dissed in liberal San Francisco.
Perhaps when things open up again it's time to consider a relocation.
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If I go on exchange study to USA I can go to San Diego, North Carolina (Chapel Hill) or Oklahoma (Norman). I can go to other places too but theyre too far north, too cold (the most southern after those 3 was New Jersey). I was wanting to go to Australia or New Zealand... But im not sure about that, don't want to go somewhere else where id just live like this.
You got any recommendation or maybe those destinations are all shyt? Haha. I like my girls big. I actually spent some days in Saint Louis years ago, first time in my life that I felt like I clearly got hit on in public twice. Barely saw anyone though since it's a car-based city and it was winter on top of that.
Im not dead set on using OLD at all, i just feel like i have no choice both because of the culture here, that i dislike clubs, that there are very few girls here who are my type, and that i don't use any substances.
What are you studying in University?
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your problem is that you are a liberal nice guy and many women can tell just by a guys photo whether he has the ability to RAIL her or not. Think Jeremy Meeks mugshotHow the fvck is it possible that I couldnt get anything on OLD here except a few girls who are so unattractive to me that i wouldnt have sex with them for money, while guys on this forum with worse physical traits than me claim to be fvcking many new girls every year through OLD in New York.
Sorry it's just a rant... Just don't know how i am supposed to meet women. I thought university would be it but the fvcking campus is shut down until spring at least. And i don't want to keep fvcking my fwb who can barely even make me hard.... Then it's still a month until i move into My student accommodation, and who knows whether that will even help.
I am introverted and have male-dominated interests too. This means i don't have any social circles, let alone with any young single girls in them. I could try to find some group of girls that do artsy stuff as i want to start doing that too...
I am sick of this... Feeling powerless. And if this is what i feel despite objectively having some good physical assets then what the fvck are guys doing who don't even have that?
Maybe it's that i need to change location? I got a surprising amount of likes once when i set fake gps to Indonesia by mistake. I don't fvcking know.
Again sorry, sometimes the experience of scarcity just becomes too much and you need to let the steam out.
Will it ever be my turn to have it some fvcking easier? God damnit.
Because what you study will generally be a good indicator of the type of women you'll be around. For example, I also majored in mathematics and the women I was around weren't particularly attractive.HLFMK - Stockholms universitet
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Then im aiming for a master of mathematics (something related to mathematical modeling). Why?
Thats true, being woke does wonder to be liked but its a curse if you wanna have sex.Your problem is that you are a liberal nice guy and many women can tell just by a guys photo whether he has the ability to RAIL her or not. Think Jeremy Meeks mugshot
You have alluded many times that you struggle to make moves and women will know this, again, just from one simple photograph
I know women that reject handsome mommys boys on Tinder for the same reason. They just don't give off "that" vibe.
They have a sixth sense for it
Actually the hottest girls I saw where in the business and law departments...those were the tall well made hotties coming from a rich chad of a father and a hottie mother.Because what you study will generally be a good indicator of the type of women you'll be around. For example, I also majored in mathematics and the women I was around weren't particularly attractive.
The hotter girls were in the psychology, sociology, business departments. I suppose you could hang around those departments and try to spark up conversation, but this is difficult to do if you aren't studying the same topic.
You could be right, I don't have the presentation or poses of a thug or something like that. No tattoos, no arrogant or "dangerous" or criminogenic poses.Your problem is that you are a liberal nice guy and many women can tell just by a guys photo whether he has the ability to RAIL her or not. Think Jeremy Meeks mugshot
You have alluded many times that you struggle to make moves and women will know this, again, just from one simple photograph
I know women that reject handsome mommys boys on Tinder for the same reason. They just don't give off "that" vibe.
They have a sixth sense for it
Ill just talk to whoever i come across in my student accommodation.. then ill just talk to whoever i find on campus.Because what you study will generally be a good indicator of the type of women you'll be around. For example, I also majored in mathematics and the women I was around weren't particularly attractive.
The hotter girls were in the psychology, sociology, business departments. I suppose you could hang around those departments and try to spark up conversation, but this is difficult to do if you aren't studying the same topic.
I don't want to do something again just for women, especially not if it's expensive, that's how i got my worst burn so far when i travelled to see a woman. But if im going on exchange anyway... Id rather go somewhere it's easier to meet and have sex with women.But anyways, of those three cities, San Diego is your best bet.
San Diego has awesome whether, friendly women and people generally chill. They're classical liberals (like myself) and not this new breed of woke neo-liberals that are closeted authoritarians.
Plus, since it's on the border with Mexico, there's a diversity of women available. If you're into thick women, there's thick Latinas and thick PAWGs....
But just keep in mind San Diego is expensive. You really should assess if you want to get deep into debt just to be around women.
University is about getting your degree and getting out ASAP.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.