You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I've had some bouts of despair but that quickly goes and I feel positive again. I just needed to vent. I have lots to get working for myself.
5 days is not long at all, I could have easily taken the easy route and settle down/kids/marriage and probably been quite happy. But I had something tugging at me telling me better is out there and I can be happier than this. I tried to control the whole situation to work in my favour so I thought I would feel better than this. I realise now break up are tough even if it's you doing the breaking up.
Now you've made the experience. You'll grow from it. Knowing that you have to let someone go without them wanting to, is a powerful thing. You don't have to cut her off, but you choose to do so. That takes resolve.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Yeah I started feeling that way at the beginning of the summer. I've been working on my cars, paddleboarding, windsurfing, camping, working out, hanging with friends and have put women dead last on my priority list.
