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And if gossips destroy your reputation for you with lies, then what? Your left with your confidence and self worth. Sometimes the pool or fabric you are part of can get corrupted or forced to dislodge you, no matter what a consistent high performance person you had been.
It's easier to maintain the reputation of the honest "a*shole" than the good guy, who has no flaws. If you're known for always telling the truth, even if it hurts you sometimes, the majority will believe you if you're being framed by baseless gossip.
I found the as$hole easier to uphold than the super clean higher morals guy too. They'll dirty that moral guy.
And if that matrix trashed my rep I'd find another pond to go live in while i still have self worth left.
Yes, a*shole is way easier and sustainable. You don't get caught up in lies and, what's more important, you don't forget your ideals. It's easy to be washed away by your own flexible lies.
For me it wasn't lies. But maybe doing a little more to appear more "conformed".... Doing that weakens my spirit and they can always point out something from a long time ago. Alot of folks image for you is at your absolute worse. Even if on avg your way better.
Most people also project their own characteristics onto you. They want you to be something they have in mind. Or even worse, they hate something about themselves and thus see that trait in you, much more intensely though.
On the other hand, if you tell them he's more like a player, will that make him seem more attractive?
A1 on catching their "projection". Trying to be too "good" while being harshly projected into will have your image getting trashed and stress you out. Where if your a solid azzhole you'll be a lot more resilient in the midst of their projections.
If several people talk about you like this behind your back, you can be damn sure it will make you more attractive. It takes authentic emotions to talk about someone behind their back. That's why it's always driven by a fact. Usually, when you have formidable skills or achievements, people will talk you down. If you're overly confident, they will call you arrogant. If you are extremely successful with women, you're a misogynist and a player.
If your solid in yourself, not scared and confident their bad talk can actually fuel you.
They will push you around and try to take advantage of you if you try to be too good. About 80% of the people won't even go near you if you're this honest a*shole. They will fear and respect you from afar. But the 20% that stay can and will be important and deep connections. You might even be able to apply Pareto's Law here in a slightly twisted way. You apply about 20% of your emotional investment, repel 80% of the people and, in turn, get to know 20% of the high quality people who are worth it.
Why do you write "your" instead of "you're"? Is it because your phone autocorrects and you leave it that way, or do you just not care about the difference?
Yes, but many people crumble under this pressure and revert to being nice and agreeable, unfortunately.
Phone and lazy to be perfect
Yes, the alternative is becoming a solid diamond or steel.
Correct. In fact my reputation has been under attack this summer. But people know the source and they know me. I tell the truth even when it’s the harder thing to do. People know my character. So people can gossip. But they look foolish in time compared to fact and in contrast to my behavior.
You've made frequent comments over the years about how you like players. I was wondering how you define "player"?
Also curious what she would define as a "Player".
