Girl with boyfriend flirts but doesn't know who to pick

[MoMoses]

I have a question for all of you experienced suaves. I got myself in a bit of a situation I'd never thought I'd end up in.

I met this girl a couple of weeks ago and we hit it off right from the start. She was clearly very much attracted to me, but because she has a boyfriend and because she is 18 years younger than me I decided not to make a move and turned my attention to other women instead. However, we stayed in touch. She added me on Facebook, Instagram and she texted me daily. Good thing I didn't make a move too... turned out I know her boyfriend. He's about my age and works for the same company as I do. What are the odds? Sidenote: I never liked the guy. He tried to stop my promotion a couple of years ago and failed, so no, I don't feel guilty about his girlfriend hitting on me.

Anyhow, she kept flirting with me as if there was no tomorrow. Shamelessly I might even add. I fell for her.. hard. I mean, who wouldn't? A pretty 21 year old who aggressively pursues you? Man, you gotta be strong or gay not to fall for her.

She made it clear to me that she and her bf weren't exactly on the same page anymore so I decided to take her on a date. It was nearly perfect. We had a lot of fun and she was clearly feeling it. After just 30 minutes she started preening me (there was a bit of dust on my shirt), after an hour she started tapping my hand and arm during the conversation and by the end of the evening she was almost sitting in my lap stroking my leg and knee whenever she was laughing. And the conversation topics.. oh man.. she told me about her first time, what she likes in bed and stuff like that. And she made it very clear her relationship wasn't a happy one.

I've been on a lot of dates in my life. This is textbook material on how to know when a girl is ready to be kissed. However, seeing she was still in a relationship with that guy I know and because the bars close very early during these frickin corona times I decided not to make my move just yet.

The day after she texted me how awesome she thought our date was and that she was thinking about me all day. I decided to wait a few days before asking her out again, but she clearly couldn't wait. Only 2 days after our date she already asked me when she could see me again. She was going on a little holiday for a couple of days, but would like to meet up with me after that. We agreed on a date and I knew I was going to make my move at that point.

However, then something strange happened..

She texted me again that she was thinking about me at 5 am (!!), the day she went on her little holiday and by the end of that day, out of the blue, she posted a lot of pictures of her and her boyfriend kissing, holding hands including comments like "I love you so much"..

I mean what the??

Apparentely mister d**khead took her on a roadtrip through France for a few days, in an attempt to patch things up between him and her, and that most certainly worked. She went from ready to dump his ass and hooking up with me to being a devoted girlfriend in a matter of hours.

Now, I know young(er) girls tend to change their minds more quickly than older women and I also know that she made some emotional decisions here. Women being women. I get that. It still sucks though.

Naturally, I stopped pursuing her at this point (well, I only did 20% of the pursuing to begin with). I just walked away. She acted untrustworthy (to me and him) and I don't need that. She texted me again after her trip to France and I tried my best not to let her know she got to me, but let's be honest here... she god damn knows very well she hit me very hard with this. I didn't respond to her latest text and we haven't talked for 10 days now. Our date never happened. She texted me, informing she couldn't make it on saturday as agreed, but she wanted to meet me on wednesday or tuesday. I just told her I already had plans on those days and that was that.

What I want to know from you guys.. was this the right decision to make? I mean, by clinging on to her I would have positioned myself as being needy and desperate? Right? Now I just walked away and left her behind, wondering about where I am and who I am with. Mind you, we used to be in touch daily for weeks. I know I should just walk away, but she's running through my mind all day. The little blonde got under my skin. It's been a while since a woman managed to get me to this point.

Any thoughts?

 

[MoMoses]

You have to extract yourself from the situation or she will fvck you up bad. She is predatory. You're lucky that she didn't monkey branch to you because then you would really be in deep s***

Thanks for confirming! I need this feedback because it's driving me insane

 

[bat soup]

You might as well have just banged her when you had the chance, without getting emotionally involved. Then when she went back to her bf you wouldn't regret missing out on a bang (and she'd probably come back for a rerun occasionally).

 

[Stoic]

Maybe I'm shameless, but I would have 100 percent escalated on the date. You dont even like the other guy. A lot of times theres just a small window to score and if you dont take it, it's gone forever.

 

[HyenaPrince]

You might as well have just banged her when you had the chance, without getting emotionally involved. Then when she went back to her bf you wouldn't regret missing out on a bang (and she'd probably come back for a rerun occasionally).

This.

 

[Tilex]

She was dropping hints all over the place that she wanted sex with you.
This is how women monkey branch and break up with guys towards the end of a relationship.
You missed a window of opportunity there because it sounded like she really wanted some D so she can move on from her bf.
But since she got that D from her boyfriend over the holiday, she forgot all about you.

If you had sex with her before that trip, I guarantee you she wouldn't have gone on vacation with him.
From the way it sounded, she was eager to have sex with you so she could ditch her bf.

 

[Focal core]

Never commit to a girl talking bad about their current/past boyfriends, next it could be you in that shyte positions, its freakin red flags, you just dodge a bullet like @LARaiders85 said shes predatory and untrustworthy. Plate material only.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Never commit to a girl talking bad about their current/past boyfriends, next it could be you in that shyte positions, its freakin red flags, you just dodge a bullet like @LARaiders85 said shes predatory and untrustworthy. Plate material only.

For some of them it's their default style.. They get a boyfriend, hook him, proceed to tear him down. Cheat on him repeatedly, treat just about anyone else better while bad talking the well intending boyfriend. The best position is to be one of the dudes on the side or a friend.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

For some of them it's their default style.. They get a boyfriend, hook him, proceed to tear him down. Cheat on him repeatedly, treat just about anyone else better while bad talking the well intending boyfriend. The best position is to be one of the dudes on the side or a friend.

Double note, is she's a "demon". She likely talks about you harshly behind your back too, even though she uses you to issue lashes to her current boyfriend.

 

[Focal core]

Double note, is she's a "demon". She likely talks about you harshly behind your back too, even though she uses you to issue lashes to her current boyfriend.

Theres a lot girl like these in this attempt to fill the void that resulting from modern era and feminisme. Creating vastly attention seekers, more and more women doesnt has the necessary capacity to reciprocate and then theres no shortage of full throttle simps in long queue waiting to be slaughtered. Its like mantis in mating, the female ate his head off while letting his focking her.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Theres a lot girl like these in this attempt to fill the void that resulting from modern era and feminisme. Creating vastly attention seekers, more and more women doesnt has the necessary capacity to reciprocate and then theres no shortage of full throttle simps in long queue waiting to be slaughtered. Its like mantis in mating, the female ate his head off while letting his focking her.

Yes they built them this way. Almost like windows updates they recieve the code from the environment and culture. She will get control, devalue the man and cheat on him. He's now her slave as long as he stays.

 

[MoMoses]

You might as well have just banged her when you had the chance, without getting emotionally involved. Then when she went back to her bf you wouldn't regret missing out on a bang (and she'd probably come back for a rerun occasionally).

Ow I know.. I goddamn know.

Who says I won't get the chance later?

I walked away without showing any neediness. I know women. I'll be hearing from her again in 2 weeks, maybe a month or even a year but I'd be very surprised if I never hear from her again.

I've been there before. You walk away from a girl who's in a relationship, but you do it in a confident way and a few months later your cell phone lights up.. PING.. and guess who's back?

You made a good point though. I let myself get emotionally involved. If that hadn't happened the story would have gone completely different. This has always been my weak spot.

 

[MoMoses]

Double note, is she's a "demon". She likely talks about you harshly behind your back too, even though she uses you to issue lashes to her current boyfriend.

I get what you are saying but I know for a fact that this isn't true. Our mutual friends have picked up on our 'connection' and told me how she always seems to drag my name into conversations. In a positive way that is.

But yeah, if I were her man there's a good chance she'd do that to me too.

 

[MoMoses]

I wanna thank everybody who commented in this thread. I needed some time to think things through and the objective opinion of others helps to see the bigger picture here. When you're smack down in the middle of this it can be hard to see the ugly truth.

She's monkey branching and talks bad behind her man's back so she isn't girlfriend material. Period.

Time to roll back my emotional involvement.

Still wanna bang her though.

 

[bat soup]

I wanna thank everybody who commented in this thread. I needed some time to think things through and the objective opinion of others helps to see the bigger picture here. When you're smack down in the middle of this it can be hard to see the ugly truth.

She's monkey branching and talks bad behind her man's back so she isn't girlfriend material. Period.

Time to roll back my emotional involvement.

Still wanna bang her though.

Good luck , hopefully you'll get the bang. But don't give her too much importance as you already know her character.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Withdraw your social contract, date agelessly in law abiding way... Don't be a Gentleman, be selfish, throw social stigma to the curb and take whats yours, again, in a law abiding way.

 

[MoMoses]

Withdraw your social contract, date agelessly in law abiding way... Don't be a Gentleman, be selfish, throw social stigma to the curb and take whats yours, again, in a law abiding way.

English isn't my native language.. what does that mean? Date agelessly in law abiding way? Don't do underaged girls? I'm not

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

English isn't my native language.. what does that mean? Date agelessly in law abiding way? Don't do underaged girls? I'm not

Caveat more for others than yourself, don't want to be taken literally.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I get what you are saying but I know for a fact that this isn't true. Our mutual friends have picked up on our 'connection' and told me how she always seems to drag my name into conversations. In a positive way that is.

But yeah, if I were her man there's a good chance she'd do that to me too.

You don't know what she does behind you alls back. But in your face you have a good interaction, thats great.

Every woman is in the process of getting into a relationship, out of a relationship, or juggling multiple relationships.

Relationships is their number 1 game. And in every game, people seek an advantage. Nobody likes to follow rules. Everyone wants the cheat code.

Meanwhile some men Follow rules and expect loyalty like a bunch of dumb@sses.

Ever since I was 14, I’ve seen even the most well meaning girl open to cheating Or playing multiple guys, or even have them go against each other. She’s an imperfect human being, not an angel from the sky.

Romance is a man made invention. A self delusion. The real game has no rules and women are the real game players.

Romance starts within a man. It's his passion. Doesn't necessarily have to have women involved.

 

[MoMoses]

Update: Little missy is trying to get back in. To be being honest.. I'm enjoying watching her being all crafty in all of this.

Friday: a mutual friend said she asked him to say hi to me. Odd. She could just call or text me herself.

Saturday: I went to a restaurant with a few friends and one of them tagged us (myself included) on Facebook. All of a sudden that friend received a phone call from her, asking her if she knows a good place to have her nails done. When she hung up that friend looked at us and said.. "This is odd. She has never called me before. I don't even know her that well"

She knew I was there. Crafty way to keep herself on the radar. I tell you.. women. They are far better at this than us.

Sunday: She responded to that Facebook post. Asking my friend if the restaurant was any good. I'm tagged in that one, so yeah, she knows I'd get a notification.

I could feel her building up to contacting me again. I predicted I'd be hearing from her within the week

Monday: Nope. Not a week. She texted me. She send me a whatsapp message. A little inside joke we had. A bird shyt on my head a couple of weeks ago and she send me a video of a reporter who got shyt on during a live report.

She's testing how I would react.

Whatsapp has this wonderful feature where people can see if you read their message or not. I read her message and didn't reply for 12 hours. This had her crawling up the walls hehe

I answered her message because I don't wanna come across as being childish or worse.. emotionally impacted, but I did not reply her follow up question (which I received seconds after she got my reply).

I know you guys have zero connection to all of this, but I wanted to share this update nevertheless.

Women always seem to operate in these indirect ways. Especially when you offer a challenge.