You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
His verified or most suspicious cheating was 16 years ago before marriage. Since then he just know she lies, but shes putting out 3-4 x a week, really good sessions. He's doing better than most single men in that circumstance especially if she pays some bills and does some chores.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
We didnt have joint accounts. Were not married...
Fvcked her good?
I know... obviously she denied it....
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes. Put together the rest of the picture. You'll be good with or without. I just don't get the female archetype that plays games to keep her man small. Competing agsinst him. Why not just do that shyt to other people?
You know... and she says... "i left bc you were mean. It was horrible...." i told her. Its never ok to leave. Not unless u want to call it quits...
Wait, she's a mean person to you, and she said these words "i left bc you were mean. It was horrible...." ? WTF
Bc we got in a fight... she blames me for us being upset.. about her possibly bringing covid into the house.
But over the duration of the relationship, she tends to remain on the "mean" side of the spectrum?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes. I think so. With the manipulation and lies and turning behavior over on a dime. From being cold.... to sweet.. like now... the last week to 2 weeks...
Thanks. Really.
For the single life your doing good. Keep fvcking her and just do more things away from her.
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