In my experience most married men in their 50s lie to their wifes to have reasons to stay away from home, not exactly the case of the loving supporting family you mention.
Of course they are lying to their wives, but it reflects a fault in the guy's character, not the wife. Just because a guy has a wife that loves him doesn't mean that he wants to stay home all the time. Guys who have a loving and supporting family can may like to stay away from home.
At the end of the day it's a man's convictions about what's right, and if he's really saved, that guides this type of thing. I have been in these escort boards years ago so I remember reading posts of what appears to be guys who have a healthy home life but do this thing as a hobby.
I think its disgusting. What I disagree with is the stigma attached that some sex-starved guys are using this because they can't get sex for free. It's weird that when something is morally reprehensible and disgusting then it is not an actual stigma, but when it is something out of need on some level, then it becomes a stigma. You are not a real man because you can't access sex for free and had to resort to that making one a loser. I really think it's the "happily married" guy doing this that's a loser because he can't appreciate what he has enough to go there.
Who Dares Win said:
However I dont believe that those hitting escorts are only men looking for variety, there is a strong portion of sex starved men that dont qualify to access sex unless they decide to take a post wall woman and as we all know nowadays is the crappiest deal possible.
I did not mention MTGOWS, but this board is likely populated disproportionately with guys who may feel this way. I can see there is a stigma attached because this board will likely view MTGOWS as losers or "incels-in-denial" or if they are dating for sex, they would get it for free right? So, I would't get the impression that there is a large MTGOW group visiting hookers, but one can get this impression by this board because of the type of people this board tends to attract.
If you are a MTGOW then there is no such thing as free sex anyway. A hooker is just another type of arrangement, no different than any other woman. In fact, those types, MTGOW, may see the exchange is more fair based on the ROI than a postwall woman, or even way cheaper to the point that it "feels" like its free compared to dealing with a postwall woman or betabuxxing a wife.
Even if you had "free sex" there is always a legal risk that a woman could turn on you and cry rape, so it's not really free if there is such a risk. She can stalk you afterwards, think you are her boyfriend and you can't get rid of her, show up at your job, etc.... There is always a risk.
I guess at the end of the day is two questions which I guess is why I threw a wrench into this:
1) Is there such a real thing as "free sex"
2) Is there a stigma attached that only losers visit hookers, or is it regular guys from all walks of life?