"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Asking Age Taboo

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It seems like it's taboo to ask people's age in some cultures. In other cultures, such as east asian cultures, it's pretty much one of the first things you ask about a person. In western cultures, it's often never asked. You just try to guess, based upon appearance, or maybe you'll ask in a roundabout way by asking what year they graduated from high school or college.

I have quite a few friends and an even larger pool of acquaintances who have NEVER asked my age and vice versa. Why is asking age such a taboo?

For women who are serious about dating me, some will ask, but many will NEVER ask. It's amazing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zekko

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Why is asking age such a taboo?
It's honestly a mystery to me. The only thing I can figure is that the culture in the US is so youth-based, that people are ashamed to be old, which sounds ridiculous to me.

I can understand why women might not want to be asked their age, youth is especially connected with attractiveness with women. But I don't know why a guy would be bothered by it. Most guys here say they will lie about their age or avoid the question entirely. Seems a little feminine to me, but eh whatever.
 

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It seems clear that being older is a source of discrimination in western cultures. I assume it used to be the other way around. Perhaps older people were respected as a source of knowledge and authority in previous generations.

Now, with everyone obsessed with youth and beauty and getting laid, you can't ever age past the age of 29 now.
 

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Another little culture shift in a way.
I remember as a kid, it was generally a rule that only applied to women who were clearly like 50+ (don't ask THEM their age)
But as time has changed, there's been a relentless shift towards 'youth = beauty'.
Not surprising considering what we now know of most of hollywood elite and their pedo preferences. Of course they'd push that concept lol.
And porn has shifted to where the most popular porn seems to be 'just turned 18' porn etc.
younger people are sexualised in media and super young girls dress more like porn stars with their heros' being Kylie Jenner instead of some Disney princess lol
so now it often seems rude to ask even a 22 year old! She's already getting self consious of losing her beauty. All girls want to be like 17 as that's the most attractive lol
 

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It seems like it's taboo to ask people's age in some cultures. In other cultures, such as east asian cultures, it's pretty much one of the first things you ask about a person. In western cultures, it's often never asked. You just try to guess, based upon appearance, or maybe you'll ask in a roundabout way by asking what year they graduated from high school or college.

I have quite a few friends and an even larger pool of acquaintances who have NEVER asked my age and vice versa. Why is asking age such a taboo?

For women who are serious about dating me, some will ask, but many will NEVER ask. It's amazing.
Western culture obsessed with juvenility because you judged by the accomplishments in your life while the goal of what is this thing that you need to accomplish is not certain
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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In Russian culture ‘you don’t ask woman her age’ because ‘women are always young’. It makes sense, you are talking to her you about to fck her why you need age for.

It even makes sence in terms of don juan practise, asking age is girlfriend/boyfriend type of question.
 

Who Dares Win

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As other users said, our culture is very youth oriented not only in terms of beauty but also in terms of "being interesting", generally things that we consider interesting through media are things young people do...add to that that dads are now the butt of the jokes in most movies unlike young guys hitting clubs and getting laid.

There is also the achievement side, apparently being an average person with an average job is not enough to be entitled to humand rights...you have to be a millionaire driving ferraris and living in a mansion while running a multi millions company, needless to say anyone beyond a certain age that didnt reach that point yet may feel uncomfortable.

Regarding women, they expire so early nowadays either physically or mentally, that its not even worth to think about their age...if they pass the boner test they are qualified for being pumped&dumped.

Ps. I dont lie about my age but I try to avoid the topic while dealing with young girls untill enough rapport is made, if you are 10 yrs older the following morning is no big deal while if you are the first 10secs of interaction there is a good chance she wont bother to talk to you.
 

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In Russian culture ‘you don’t ask woman her age’ because ‘women are always young’. It makes sense, you are talking to her you about to fck her why you need age for.

It even makes sence in terms of don juan practise, asking age is girlfriend/boyfriend type of question.
Where came the idea that you need to give girls flowers?
 

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If you ever give flowers make sure it’s odd number. Even is for funeral.

I don’t know, where does the idea of tipping come from? It’s retarded, you plan for x amount and then it’s more.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you ever give flowers make sure it’s odd number. Even is for funeral.

I don’t know, where does the idea of tipping come from? It’s retarded, you plan for x amount and then it’s more.
Odd number? lol
I dont know when u r joking and when u r for real

The idea of tipping I guess Hollywood.. you're a macho who wants to impress the girl with his kindness towards the simple ppl and your fat packets
 

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In Western culture, it's only taboo to ask a woman her age. Asking a man his age is just fine.

And no I absolutely do not agree with that double-standard.
 
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