Why women and men resent each other

[andreihaha]

A while back I was reading something like this in a book: "In a couple, women often resent men because of their own insecurity".
I really thought about it and it was a big realisation for me. Sometimes it seems like women break up with you for petty reasons or for no reason at all. And sometimes you indeed haven't done anything wrong.

I remember a few years ago I was with a woman who kept pushing me into getting my driver's licence. She also didn't have one, but was hating this thing about me because of her own insecurity. I spoke to her recently and she still has no driver's licence. Another criticised me for not doing a lot of foreplay but she was an actual piece of wood in the sack. Just stood there. Again, blame thrown for her own insecurity of being boring in bed.

Men do the same thing. Resenting women for bad sex because of their own lack of experience or confidence. They can't get hard because they do no exercise and eat junk and don't sleep enough and work till late 6 days/week. But no, it's her fault for not being attractive.

Most of you dealt with this kind of situations or others you can think about when reading this.

I felt like is was important to share this.
Maybe it makes you think about something you're insecure about that's affecting your current relationship or dating/picking women up.
Blaming others won't solve your problems. But being a man about it and trying to improve where you feel you're most insecure can do wonders.

Burn that resentment and insecurity that stands between you and greatness and let it melt into a future filled with hot mentally stable women(also known as unicorns).

P.S. It's pretty easy to figure out what to do about your own insecurities. I'm curious what you think could be done about the other side of the glass: the woman resenting you for her own problems.

P.S.2 Hope this didn't sound too gay. Writing "insecurity" so much made me insecure about sounding gay. And I just did it 2 more times...uhh.

I'm sure I had some PS3/PS4 joke for this. I heard PS5 is comming out soon.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Your insecurity is one thing. The way women act is just a perpetual thing, that's never going to stop... ever. Define what you want out of life and target that, get it and be happy. Stop thinking so much about how you feel you do sound gay.

 

[andreihaha]

Your insecurity is one thing. The way women act is just a perpetual thing, that's never going to stop... ever. Define what you want out of life and target that, get it and be happy. Stop thinking so much about how you feel you do sound gay.

That part was a joke man. And you don't have to just take women behaviour as it is, they can be changed to your own benefit.

 

[Pandora]

Bro this is very true. Modern women were taught to compete with men. This is going to set up a situation where they compare themselves to you. Comparison naturally breeds insecurity.

We often talk about women wanting alphas. Thats not always the case. Many insecure women date dysfunctional guys becuase it makes them feel more security. Many girls wont date you becuase you make them feel too insecure.....its a real thing man.

 

[AttackFormation]

Bro this is very true. Modern women were taught to compete with men. This is going to set up a situation where they compare themselves to you. Comparison naturally breeds insecurity.

We often talk about women wanting alphas. Thats not always the case. Many insecure women date dysfunctional guys becuase it makes them feel more security. Many girls wont date you becuase you make them feel too insecure.....its a real thing man.

My mom said that my grandmother was set up by my great-grandmother on a skiing trip, to find one guy to date among a group of fit young guys who came from higher socioeconomic families. When I asked why my grandmother still didn't date any of them, my mom said grandma probably felt too insecure. Instead she later went with my grandfather, a man who came from a broken home and had no education beyond the rudimentary (but to be fair, grandma herself also came from separated parents and rudimentary education).

Grandma and grandpa got together when she was 19 or so and he was in his early 20s, and stayed together for life... but it certainly wasn't a black-and-white "hypergamy" that was the explanation behind it.

 

[Pandora]

My mom said that my grandmother was set up by my great-grandmother in a skiing trip, to find one guy to date among a group of fit young guys who came from higher socioeconomic families. When I asked why my grandmother still didn't date any of them, my mom said grandma probably felt too insecure. Instead she later went with my grandfather, a man who came from a broken home and had no education beyond the rudimentary (but to be fair, grandma herself also came from separated parents and rudimentary education).

Grandma and grandpa got together when she was 19 or so and he was in his early 20s, and stayed together for life... but it certainly wasn't a black-and-white "hypergamy" that was the explanation behind it.

Great story man perfect example. Within the RedPill community hypergamy is blamed for everything. Out in the real world its alot more complicated than that. Sometimes I wonder if some of these guys actually converse with real women.

 

[Pandora]

My mom said that my grandmother was set up by my great-grandmother in a skiing trip, to find one guy to date among a group of fit young guys who came from higher socioeconomic families. When I asked why my grandmother still didn't date any of them, my mom said grandma probably felt too insecure. Instead she later went with my grandfather, a man who came from a broken home and had no education beyond the rudimentary (but to be fair, grandma herself also came from separated parents and rudimentary education).

Grandma and grandpa got together when she was 19 or so and he was in his early 20s, and stayed together for life... but it certainly wasn't a black-and-white "hypergamy" that was the explanation behind it.

Your grandmother probably felt a mysterious comfort with your grandad. She could not explain it. That comfort was indiosyncratic to her based in her childhood. This is how women really make mating decisions.

 

[AttackFormation]

Your grandmother probably felt a mysterious comfort with your grandad. She could not explain it. That comfort was indiosyncratic to her based in her childhood. This is how women really make mating decisions.

Yeah, this whole quote nails it...



That's them in the mid-1950s. Not bad huh?

 

[Pandora]

Yeah, this whole quote nails it...

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That's them in the mid-1950s. Not bad huh?

Haha they look so innocent. Thats how you look when you have not been casually dating for half your life. Man our generation got screwed.

 

[Pandora]

Yeah, this whole quote nails it...

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That's them in the mid-1950s. Not bad huh?

Dude not to be weird but if your grandma was in todays dating market she would have had a million choices because she was attractive. The simpery for her would have been overwhelming and her ego would have been crazy. By 30 she would have been unmarried with cats and you would have never been born haha.

 

[AttackFormation]

Dude not to be weird but if your grandma was in todays dating market she would have had a million choices because she was attractive. The simpery for her would have been overwhelming and her ego would have been crazy. By 30 she would have been unmarried with cats and you would have never been born haha.

For sure dude. I was gonna say she looks like Snow White but then I googled snow white and my grandma looks better lol. My grandpa is pretty attractive too, but my grandma looking so attractive is the reason why I asked how comes she didn't get with any of those young, fit, well off, well educated guys as she certainly could have looking at her.

Anyway, as you say today there is no way you would have found a picture of her like that at 19 or 20 or so. At that age she would've looked like a humanoid freak with cosmetics, snapchat morphs and filters, and probably been idolizing some trashy pop icon of sexual self-objectification and narcissism while "twerking" it out on TikTok to trashy music. She would already be "done" from the multiple tens of men she would've seen one of one day and another the next, let treat her disposably, bragged about how many guys she's fvcked in how little time, openly talked about going on "hoe phases" and her chaotic mood imbalances and mental illness, and let guys gangbang her (all of those examples are from my experience). My grandma could've been a repulsive freak show like them and feeling she's "empowered" by degrading and psychologically damaging herself.

I don't say that gladly about these kinds of women today, I have no ill will toward them or any desire to prevent them from doing what they want with their lives, but I just can't see myself treating them as a cherished wife. I don't expect a woman who has never been touched by a man before, but I want to feel like she respects herself and isn't mentally ill.

 

[AttackFormation]

Dude not to be weird but if your grandma was in todays dating market she would have had a million choices because she was attractive. The simpery for her would have been overwhelming and her ego would have been crazy. By 30 she would have been unmarried with cats and you would have never been born haha.

You know what? I think most women instinctively know that this lifestyle, although it's easy and exciting and promises them the world, isn't really good for them. It's like The One Ring. But there is a disconnect between that and the way they're raised, cultural peer pressure, impulse control with the path of least difficulty (which for them is promiscuity rather than temperance), and the nefarious and intangible delay between their present behaviors and their future consequences (kind of like explaining tooth brushing or nutrition to an intransigent child). And you'll be a misogynist for suggesting potential consequences. When I've talked to women who are promiscuous (because they told me about it and/or I witnessed it), it seems like they still reflexively minimize or euphemize their promiscuity because they are uncomfortable with themselves, and that's with me who comes off as a completely laidback guy.

I say they should do what they want with their lives, but make informed choices. And if I had daughters I would be raising them in a way I believe would be better for them, and I think women would admit is certainly harder but better for them if they were honest. By the way... the bangladeshi girl who lives on my shared floor that I've mentioned, who doesn't use cosmetics as far as I can tell and wears a veil (with wonderful long natural hair, by the way...), man... what an experience it's been to encounter her. They're both women of course, but she's so utterly different from the women we've just described above, it's really incredible. She doesn't even react the same way to teases I make to gauge her about men.

Sorry for the longer posts but you got me to pour a lot out haha.

 

[Pandora]

You know what? I think most women instinctively know that this lifestyle, although it's easy and exciting and promises them the world, isn't really good for them. It's like The One Ring. But there is a disconnect between that and the way they're raised, cultural peer pressure, impulse control with the path of least difficulty (which for them is promiscuity rather than temperance), and the nefarious and intangible delay between their present behaviors and their future consequences (kind of like explaining tooth brushing or nutrition to an intransigent child). And you'll be a misogynist for suggesting potential consequences. When I've talked to women who are promiscuous (because they told me about it and/or I witnessed it), it seems like they still reflexively minimize or euphemize their promiscuity because they are uncomfortable with themselves, and that's with me who comes off as a completely laidback guy.

I say they should do what they want with their lives, but make informed choices. And if I had daughters I would be raising them in a way I believe would be better for them, and I think women would admit is certainly harder but better for them if they were honest. By the way... the bangladeshi girl who lives on my shared floor that I've mentioned, who doesn't use cosmetics as far as I can tell and wears a veil (with wonderful long natural hair, by the way...), man... what an experience it's been to encounter her. They're both women of course, but she's so utterly different from the women we've just described above, it's really incredible. She doesn't even react the same way to teases I make to gauge her about men.

Sorry for the longer posts but you got me to pour a lot out haha.

Thats a really articulate way to put it.

That Bangladeshi girl is refreshing isnt it? It gives you hope. It reminds you that femininity is actually beautiful. Conservative girls set off a protective mechanism in the male brain.

 

[derby1]

young girls in the Uk, are radicalised by their own mom, most single moms in the UK are jaded, i think we all know where they believe the blame resides.

imagine listening to that for 10 years from the age of 6