What to do??

[Visionist]

Never sleep in a girl's house you aren't fvcking.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

I understand. Thanks for the reply’s bro. But I can’t help to feel like I’ll be doing all this as a ploy to try to win her back. Deep in my mind I’ll be hoping that all this NC and acting cold will hopefully get her to be attracted to me again. It’s a twisted mind game I’m having with myself

you seem to be forgetting the first part where we say FORGET HER. none of this is for her, it's for YOU. your spirit is so crushed you can't think straight. it's not a game, you're just pretending you don't have any self respect and we're trying to drill it into your head that you are worth something and that you SHOULD have self respect, and that you'll never get ANY women worth having until you cultivate that self respect.

do you realize what's happening? we're telling you to focus on yourself and you can't even fathom it. you STILL think we're giving you some kind of plan to get her back. you're scared to death of the idea of life without her, THAT is the problem you need to fix.

where do you draw the line with a woman? when do you say "I'M DONE" ? you're acting like a junkie and she's your drug. you'd probably blow a guy in an alley just to touch her tits or something. the healthy thing is to go through withdrawal and move on. learn from your mistakes and cut your losses before you flush the rest of your life down the toilet.

codependence < independence < interdependence.
You're in the first toxic stage, now graduate to independence and learn to enjoy yourself, there are countless women that will treat you better. only after you master independence will you be ready for interdependence.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

you seem to be forgetting the first part where we say FORGET HER. none of this is for her, it's for YOU. your spirit is so crushed you can't think straight. it's not a game, you're just pretending you don't have any self respect and we're trying to drill it into your head that you are worth something and that you SHOULD have self respect, and that you'll never get ANY women worth having until you cultivate that self respect.

do you realize what's happening? we're telling you to focus on yourself and you can't even fathom it. you STILL think we're giving you some kind of plan to get her back. you're scared to death of the idea of life without her, THAT is the problem you need to fix.

where do you draw the line with a woman? when do you say "I'M DONE" ? you're acting like a junkie and she's your drug. you'd probably blow a guy in an alley just to touch her tits or something. the healthy thing is to go through withdrawal and move on. learn from your mistakes and cut your losses before you flush the rest of your life down the toilet.

codependence < independence < interdependence.
You're in the first toxic stage, now graduate to independence and learn to enjoy yourself, there are countless women that will treat you better. only after you master independence will you be ready for interdependence.

Is it possible to build your self respect when you keep taking actions that a disrespectful to yourself?

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Is it possible to build your self respect when you keep taking actions that a disrespectful to yourself?

They're polar opposites in definition. You can't go up by going down.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

They're polar opposites in definition. You can't go up by going down.

Great analogy. Once a mans self respect is great enough he won't tolerate bad positions or bad behavior.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Great analogy. Once a mans self respect is great enough he won't tolerate bad positions or bad behavior.

He won't even flinch, it's a no brainer for him. He spends more energy pushing out a fart.

@Headmaestro
Workout hard every day to this,

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

They're polar opposites in definition. You can't go up by going down.

To expand on this, it's inevitable to make dips and go down. No ones perfect, everyone makes mistakes. As long you have the brains to self correct you'll learn from your mistakes and continue a zig zag pattern upwards.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

To expand on this, it's inevitable to make dips and go down. No ones perfect, everyone makes mistakes. As long you have the brains to self correct you'll learn from your mistakes and continue a zig zag pattern upwards.

But once a man has enough self respect he won't willingly be stupid.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

But once a man has enough self respect he won't willingly be stupid.

Of course not willingly, but there's no shortage of things to learn and mistakes to be made. The most self respecting man won't make obvious mistakes but can still meet a girl that causes him to make one. Then it just comes down to owning the living shiit out of that mistake and everything that comes of it to teach yourself a lesson. Even that eventually becomes effortless.

@Headmaestro you need to own your emotions, your situation, be accountable, and take control of your life.

 

[CopperHead]

@Headmaestro you need to own your emotions, your situation, be accountable, and take control of your life.

This statement sums up everything you need to do. Improve your career, improve your social life, improve your living conditions. Get some goals together and start taking steps towards achieving them. If you aren't going to do it for yourself, do it for your son. Teach your son what it means to be a man, so he doesn't become another poster here complaining that his blue pilled cuck of a father never taught him what masculinity was.

 

[jaymbrs]

You know she's getting hammered by those 3 other guys. You can tell by the way she texts them. Now let me ask you this, why would you want this type of woman back in your life, to raise a happy little family with? She's a skank dude. Sorry she's the mother of your kid but this is what she is now. That alone would get me to snap out of it.