What to say/do when girl says following things?

[sosumba]

Hey,
So a girl I am dating says that there are some stuff she doesn't like about her appearance/body and then mentions them. Like for example she could say she would love for her eyes to be higher up, lips be bigger or for her to be less fat or something like that.

What is the smart way of dealing with this once a girl starts talking about that? I feel like she is fishing for compliments and/or validation.

Is the best way maybe point out that she has a nice butt or something? Because if I would start saying like "no babe there is nothing wrong with you, you are nice just the way you are" isn't that like the highest level of validation right there?

 

[backseatjuan]

 

[AttackFormation]

Personally I like playing dumb in an obvious way and teasing her with it. That's not just because I don't want to habituate her with validation, I also just enjoy fvcking with her lol. I love frustrating their expectations of being pandered to. When they ask you to hold something for them and you say "okay, give it to me" but then you simply cross your arms, don't move a muscle and just grin at her, haha.. I love that.

"Oh yeah, I didn't notice how fvcked up your eyes are before" and look at her like you're inspecting her, then look in her actual eyes and grin at her.

When she gets angered but smiles and slaps or name calls you, you'll know you're giving her emotional fluctuations and showing proof of a spine. Those things are the things she really needs.

 

[AttackFormation]

Dont fall for it. Dont return compliment. Just kindly say find a way to accept your faults and quit focusing on them. Tell her to go see a therapist if it bothers her enough.
If she keeps doing it just limit your attention or change the subject.

The proper response is not to give energy to it. Same thing with the "headache" bs.

Man how can you bear to go through life so humorlessly, why not just fvck with her?

 

[backseatjuan]

OP you know what down the rabbit whole problem is? The reason you posted this?

It is your insecurity. It is hidden. I say simething wrong I fck it up, I will loose access to her vagina.

Stop fearing. Start always lokking for women, hotter and younger. Just because you have her available is no reason to settle. Find yourself second girl.

 

[AttackFormation]

Constantly fcking with her is counter productive. Better to sexualize it

Hehe, that comes after when she gives up. And when you sexualize it... if she's "angry" you go rough with her until she calms down and then you go fatherly, if she's "sad" you can go straight fatherly with her.

 

[lamath]

i like to turn stuff like this into a joke.
Agree and amplify.

 

[AttackFormation]

i like to turn stuff like this into a joke.
Agree and amplify.

100%

"OMG, how do your eyes look??? what about my appearance? you never give me any encouragement. You never pay attention to me! No you don't, you don't care about me!" man, I love play drama haha. I can do this all day.

 

[lamath]

100%

"OMG, how do your eyes look??? what about my appearance? you never give me any encouragement. You never pay attention to me! No you don't, you don't care about me!" man, I love play drama haha. I can do this all day.

lolll something like this indeed. Worrying where her eyes are is ridiculous.... so need to tell her it is in a playful way.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Hey,
So a girl I am dating says that there are some stuff she doesn't like about her appearance/body and then mentions them. Like for example she could say she would love for her eyes to be higher up, lips be bigger or for her to be less fat or something like that.

What is the smart way of dealing with this once a girl starts talking about that? I feel like she is fishing for compliments and/or validation.

Is the best way maybe point out that she has a nice butt or something? Because if I would start saying like "no babe there is nothing wrong with you, you are nice just the way you are" isn't that like the highest level of validation right there?

Don't participate in female logic.

The silent treatment ftw!

Chase excellence kid. No pandering with yiur thumb up your ass.

 

[sosumba]

So she is indeed fishing for validation and compliments. My option are now just ignore, amplify and even make fun of her in a jokingly sexual manner. I dont consider this girl a LTR material but you guys are right I feel scared to loose this girl since I dont have any other viable options at this point in time.

Thank you all for helping out!

 

[oldmanofthesea]

I’ve tried many things by accident in the past, from validating to teasing. Probably the most effective for me was when I simply responded by saying, “You know what turns me on about a girl the most? Confidence.” Some might consider this a d*ck move but honestly a girl who fishes for compliments and is insecure is a red flag and is disqualifying herself to me by doing that so I don’t care if my comment drives her away, and it’s really not that bad of a comment anyway. I am simply avoiding any good or bad statements about her body, and instead telling her that she can’t dump her insecurities on me and if she tries, I’m going to tell her it’s turning me off, but in a positive not negative way (I’m not saying her whining turns me off, I’m saying what turns me on, even though the implied meaning is obvious).

Before I knew better, I fell into the validation trap. It did not end well for me.

 

[Prettyboy Dee]

The old fishing for compliments huh? Lol, get used to it, most women will do this in some sort.

I'm not going to tell you what to do and nobody else should either, you can do whatever you like as long as its coming from the right frame.

Me personally, i always laugh to myself and just ignore it or act uninterested in her poor attempt to get a compliment/validation from me.

I also would use that as a opportunity to tease her a little.

The very rare times I decide to charm a woman is when they dont expect it, I dont reward attention/validation seeking behavior, it's not like it's a bad thing for her to do, just typical female sh!t, dont try to understand it, we are not females.

When a woman seeks a compliment and gets it from a man it holds no value.

When she gets some validation at random times, like if she mentions her body frame is ugly, you ignore it right then and there BUT remember it so you can later in the future compliment something about her body, this is how compliments and validation is suppose to work......

"Its not what you do it's how you do it"

 

[Glassguy]

if I would start saying like "no babe there is nothing wrong with you, you are nice just the way you are" isn't that like the highest level of validation right there?

You should never feed the attention wh0re in a woman (and they all have one).

You either ignore it OR......

I had a GF say once " my ass is getting so fat" I remained silent. A minute later she said "You're supposed to tell me it isn't , that it looks nice...." I replied "oh"

This ^^

Just remain neutral. Want to hook a woman in the mouth where she wont let go? Just remain neutral about everything.

Once did this to a woman and she finally said "I cant figure you out. You never give me a straight answer when I am complaining about myself".

My response- Stop complaining about yourself all the time.

The best approach is just dont play the game. I ignore all kinds of shyte women say or text me. If I dont want to respond or answer something, I dont.

That mentality works pretty well for me so far.