Why do women waste their youth being Fat?

[bob2007]

Something that's crossed my mind lately...

Why do women waste their youth being Fat?
Friends of mine looked great after losing their weight but now they are in their 30s.
If the girls looked great in their 20s they would've had 10X more quality guys hitting on them.

Information age, nowadays it should be easy to get the knowledge.
Process, gym memberships are cheap.

I think number one is their mind set.
Low self esteem, they've probably been fat most of their lives they don't even know how they look skinny.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Food is a drug to anyone who is fat. It temporarily relieves emotional pain.

 

[zekko]

Some people don't choose to be fat, it's just that they're not good at self discipline and self denial. They have deeply ingrained habits which can be hard to break. Add in some depression, and that can sap their will power.

Also, some people are more genetically predisposed to being fat than others. There are different body types. When I was that age, I could eat anything and it didn't matter, I wasn't going to get fat, my metabolism was sky high. Women's bodies also have less muscle than men, so it's more difficult for them to burn calories.

 

[DelayedGratification]

The actual question is: why do people waste their youth being fat?

I was never in shape during my youth, and continually swung between being flabby to slightly heavy. For me, I simply couldn't fathom the notion that I had what it took to escape that rut. I can't imagine what I would have been like in the current environment of serious food overabundance. Or perhaps I can, as I try to help my youngest son through his continuing battle with obesity.

It wasn't until after college that I had easy access to a gym and started to use it that I saw some results. Ironically it was during that time when I also briefly grew a pair, so between being in semi-decent shape and having an air of assertiveness that I was able to attract the woman who became my ex decades later.

But it ain't just women.

 

[touma.akagi]

Because years and years of fat shaming never has the exact same effect on someone's body. Some people simply grow out of being too fat, some people go lose the weight with exercise, some people turn to "fat acceptance" to band-aid their situation and simply choose to continue living with it. The Fat Acceptance movement, much like third-wave feminism on the whole, preys on these womens' desire to belong without changing. That is why "plus size models" are being made such a big deal.

 

[RickTheToad]

Could also be from metabolic disorders or side effects of meds they are taking. Or, it could be just that their family is fat and they have fat genes.

 

[RickTheToad]

Because years and years of fat shaming never has the exact same effect on someone's body. Some people simply grow out of being too fat, some people go lose the weight with exercise, some people turn to "fat acceptance" to band-aid their situation and simply choose to continue living with it. The Fat Acceptance movement, much like third-wave feminism on the whole, preys on these womens' desire to belong without changing. That is why "plus size models" are being made such a big deal.

Plus size and models in the same sentence is oxymoronic.

 

[Mbuckets82]

Nope. Most get by on their cute face and think they’ll always be attractive. Laziness then creeps in and they become complacent. A couple girls Im talking to I tell them my workouts and how I enjoy it. Kind of hoping like hey maybe I should workout since he enjoys it so much. Hahaha.
I also believe it bleeds into other areas of their lives. If you don’t take care of yourself how do you take care of anything else?????

 

[zekko]

Also could be ignorance, maybe they don't know enough about nutrition to make a good plan. Like maybe they heard nuts were healthy so they load up on nuts, but nuts are high in calories.

When I was growing up, people thought eating fats made you fat, so diet foods were high in carbs and sugar. Now they (supposedly) know better, but people are fatter now than then.

Everyone keeps talking about working out, but I really believe losing weight is more about diet. Exercise often increases your appetite.

 

[DelayedGratification]

Everyone keeps talking about working out, but I really believe losing weight is more about diet. Exercise often increases your appetite.

Absolutely true, unless you have enormous discipline (like pairing exercise with 16/8 intermittent fasting), and even then your body fights back hard.

Exercise, in casual-minded people, has a rebound with both mental and physical components. The mental component is the tendency to use food as a reward for the effort spent exercising. The physical component is the very real increase in appetite that often triggers calorie consumption in excess of what the exercise burned off.

I've been through the rounds of dietitians for my son, and have a sister with a PhD in this topic. My rule of thumb is "Exercise is great! It makes you stronger, healthier, and makes you feel better! But it's an absolute loser as a weight loss strategy." I've yet to have a single person with expertise in the field disagree with that general assessment (emphasis on general).

 

[EyeBRollin]

Some people don't choose to be fat, it's just that they're not good at self discipline and self denial. They have deeply ingrained habits which can be hard to break. Add in some depression, and that can sap their will power.

Also, some people are more genetically predisposed to being fat than others. There are different body types. When I was that age, I could eat anything and it didn't matter, I wasn't going to get fat, my metabolism was sky high. Women's bodies also have less muscle than men, so it's more difficult for them to burn calories.

Bullshvt. Fat is a choice. It’s a highly America / Western choice.

 

[Trump]

Why do women waste their youth being Fat?

The same way men waste their youth watching porn.

If the girls looked great in their 20s they would've had 10X more quality guys hitting on them.

If the guys looked great in their 20s they would've had 10X more quality girls hitting on them.

I think number one is their mind set.
Low self esteem, they've probably been fat most of their lives they don't even know how they look skinny.

Guys have probably watched porn and played video games all their lives. They don’t know how to seduce.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Why do people waste their life being fat is the larger question that should spill over into this discussion like the love handle blubber of a fatty in a seat build for one.

 

[zekko]

Fat is a choice. It’s a highly America / Western choice.

First world problems.

 

[Kotaix]

Bullshvt. Fat is a choice. It’s a highly America / Western choice.

The world is not black and white.

Fat is not always a choice. Metabolisms are different from person to person. If a child has parents who are fat lazy slobs, the child will be a fat lazy slob. The child has about as much say in the matter as it does what religion it's going to follow. Children do whatever they're dragged into by their parents. And once you go fat, it's hard to go back.

But fat shaming should still exist, it's only natural to want to date and procreate with healthy women. It's the same reason men find women with short hair unattractive, long hair is an indicator of long term health (and that very much includes mental health). I find it to be almost reptilian in nature and feminism isn't going to beat evolution.

 

[EyeBRollin]

The world is not black and white.

Fat is not always a choice. Metabolisms are different from person to person. If a child has parents who are fat lazy slobs, the child will be a fat lazy slob. The child has about as much say in the matter as it does what religion it's going to follow. Children do whatever they're dragged into by their parents. And once you go fat, it's hard to go back.

But fat shaming should still exist, it's only natural to want to date and procreate with healthy women. It's the same reason men find women with short hair unattractive, long hair is an indicator of long term health (and that very much includes mental health). I find it to be almost reptilian in nature and feminism isn't going to beat evolution.

Don’t deflect. We aren’t talking about fat children with irresponsible parents. Child obesity should be considered child abuse. For adult human beings, fat is a choice. Obesity is a first world, Western epidemic. There is no excuse to be fat, period.

 

[EyeBRollin]

While I agree there is little excuse for being fat, I have seen some real fat@sses in 3rd world India.

Hardly any in China until just a couple of years ago though.

Not entirely a 1st world problem.

One can find “expectations” to everything. The point is what it is... eat less and move more. Don’t be fat.

 

[RedSamurai]

most fat young girls have fat parents and also they are feed foods that cause them to be fat even if they don't want to be. Yes they could change their lives by improving their diet and exercising, but when they are bombarded with false information about how fat is ok or your beautiful as you are and feed poisonous process foods and are raised by parents that have also been feed this false information. then you are asking them to do what is almost impossible. Only the strongest individuals are capable of rising above such a massive social handicap and children, teenagers, and young adults lack the strength of character that only years of hardship can develop.

 

[Kotaix]

Don’t deflect. We aren’t talking about fat children with irresponsible parents. Child obesity should be considered child abuse. For adult human beings, fat is a choice. Obesity is a first world, Western epidemic. There is no excuse to be fat, period.

The fatties don't want to lose weight, they've already ruined their skin and they'll never be hot unless they're really lucky. This is why they have their fat acceptance movement and the reason they make up all the excuses in the world.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Simply because the negative feedbacks of being fat dont match the positive feedbacks of that candy bar and all you can eat life style.

If being fat would make them being unable to get likes on facebook and instagram while being virtually invisbile to any man in their everyday life they would at least make an effort.

Its no wonder they try to change their life style only once they are approaching the wall.

People do uncomfortable things when they are necessary to achieve a goal or to relieve pressure, think of guys wasting time and money on dates or night venues when they would rather stay home playing videogames.