Should I take a break?

[BJP1991]

Take a break from dating women?

I don’t seem to have issues getting dates, usually through OLD and some through social circles.

Lately, I’ve found when I go on a first or second date, I am mistakenly putting a lot of value in the outcome, when I know I should be indifferent.

For example, had a good first date a few days ago. Day after the date, got a thank you text from the girl. Exchanged 1-2 texts, then when she said she would “like to do it again”, I took that chance to ask her if she was available next week or weekend.

Nearly a day later, still no reply from the girl. For some reason it’s legitimately got me down, which makes me wonder if I should take a break from trying to date new women and focus on myself more for a few months.

I’d keep making dates with any girls I’ve already met or who show high interest, I just wouldn’t go out of my way to score dates with new chicks.

I have a good third date lined up tonight, which I’ve already hooked up with once, however my mind this morning is thinking about the girl from earlier this week, who still has not gotten back to me.


Thoughts/experiences?

 

[backseatjuan]

Yea.

Because your brain knows what’s best for you.

Take two weeks off. Approach with a different mindset. Meanwhile watch AMS, 3 videos daily https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0it1cu-mt_IcvLTQ4CWcHw

Seriously. Explain why? Because it’s easy to get lost on n btch’ uncertainty language. It’s good that you get dates. Problem appears the way you are. Cuz she decides if she wants to fck you in first half a minute, from then on you can only talk and act yourself out of it.

 

[Robert28]

Yes, for sure. Be fair to yourself though, what she did was pretty insane, feign interest just to get asked out on a second date just so she could ghost and reject you. I don't know if you ever have had to take care of mentally ill people but it is a very draining thing and it is very similar to the Non-Stop batshyt behavior of women in the dating scene.

You’d be surprised how many women feign interest to get stuff. Whether it be asked out on a second date so they can reject you or so they can ask you for favors later on down the road. It’s almost impossible to tell feigned interest from real interest too, that’s where you have to separate the two with one factor. Sex. It really is the only way to tell fake interest from real interest and even then it’s not always a clear sign.

 

[BJP1991]

You’d be surprised how many women feign interest to get stuff. Whether it be asked out on a second date so they can reject you or so they can ask you for favors later on down the road. It’s almost impossible to tell feigned interest from real interest too, that’s where you have to separate the two with one factor. Sex. It really is the only way to tell fake interest from real interest and even then it’s not always a clear sign.

God, what a kick in the balls. Why feign interest just to get asked for a second date, then ghost? Literally just for validation then move on? A metaphorical “pump n dump”?

 

[BJP1991]

Don't replay until you get a definite invite to meet her. 4th date she should be chasing hard.

Im not one to double text, so I won’t be hitting her up again.

Is there literally anything I did wrong? Or is she just fishing for validation and ghosting?

 

[Barrister]

Im not one to double text, so I won’t be hitting her up again.

Is there literally anything I did wrong? Or is she just fishing for validation and ghosting?

If she had HIGH interest she would have immediately taken you up on your offer to go out again. It is said here all the time and is true: chicks with high interest make it easy. What was the first date like?

 

[BJP1991]

Coincidentally she got back to me shortly ago. Saying she’s free any night, wide open availability

 

[backseatjuan]

It is said here all the time and is true: chicks with high interest make it easy.

Nah.

You say or act wrong and high nterest or whatever interest goes bottom.

This is why she might have thought I fck but them she decided no I won’t.

 

[BJP1991]

Gotta wait them out. How many days went by after asking?

just less than one day. Probably will hit her back in a few hrs

 

[Alvafe]

I find dealing with people tiring, so I do take breaks on dating pretty often, too often sometimes lol.

just relax and do waht you want, if asking the girl out again too soon is putting her of, well its her loss, possible her friend would be more willing, you do what you wanted asked her out if she want to play, play harder, ask someone else, and tell her when she get back you tell her you already made plans maybe next month or so now

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Bang her then take a break.

 

[BJP1991]

I texted her back 4-5 hours later (I was busy at work), with a plan for the date and a time. Also offered to pick her up since we live near one another.


Now today, 12+ hours later no response to that message either.

I’ve seen this a couple times before. Early on a girl takes many hours or even a full day to text back, but when they do, they seem happy to go along and accept the date and seem positive about it.


But, what gives? When a girl likes you, the usually make it easy for you. So I have to assume low interest.

Thoughts? Also, how to proceed? I assume I will hear back from her eventually, but the length it is taking tells me it’s not just someone being “busy” - a full day is either game playing or low/no interest. Likely the latter.

I have other dates lined up for this weekend and the coming week, so I do see other women

 

[BJP1991]

Personally if it were me i would say nothing. Wait her out. Don't text again. You put it out there. If you don't hear back then you know.
If she does then go from there.
She flaky? you get more flakey.
Does she work? What does she do? She said wide open right?

Works some regular 9-5 office job. I never buy into the “people are busy or forget” concept - this day-in-age, everyone is by their phone 24/7.

 

[Alvafe]

Works some regular 9-5 office job. I never buy into the “people are busy or forget” concept - this day-in-age, everyone is by their phone 24/7.

serious really she already saw the msg she is just bidding her time, she is playing games, only question is if she is doing so to pull you, or is bored out of you.

you tossed the ball now you need to wait her to return the ball, if she never then you move on.

I would recomend you try to do something with someone else in mean time so when she call back you had already made other plans, if she is interest that would toss on her face you have options and if she keep playing she will lose, and if she don't you will not even remember her