How do I know if wife is BPD

[Epic Days]

thanks for replying - i have done something similar and i get rolled eyes, a look of disgust, and an audible dissent.

There’s your answer.

 

[xplt]

There’s your answer.

i dont get this...

 

[xplt]

Is her behavior vs her words sometimes paradox?
My ex disrespected me massively in the last weeks of our r/s and threw constant **** tests. But contrary to her behavior we had lots of sex and physical intimacy. When we were out together she sticked to me like glue and danced with me like nothing happened. She could argue agressively before bedtime but only fell asleep cuddling or holding hands. extreme confusing...

 

[Epic Days]

i dont get this...

How does a human being react if he/she is asked a question like this, knowing they haven’t done anything? How would you answer?
You would deny it. How would you do that?
Now compare it to how she reacted.

Ok, here is the deal. Take note of this as you can apply it across the board in your human interactions.
We will keep it in context for learning purposes.

Let’s say she is optimizing her options. She is either having thoughts about sleeping with another guy(s) or already is.
She knows this is wrong. Now she has to work backwards to now justify it in her own mind. She will literally start a fight that you can’t win because you think it’s about the subject being discussed and her purpose is undisclosed.

What is her purpose? She is baiting you to either go off on her or create a severe emotional response in you. Once you react and fight back, she now has her justification and can feel better about her actions.

There’s things going on that you are clueless about do to lack of experience. Never, ever, argue with a woman. It’s NEVER about what she is arguing about. Get that in your head. Right now. She will take you in circles without any resolution whatsoever. It will wreck your reality and pound you down into the mud.

You have a lot of work to do on yourself as a man. There is NO FUKKING SOLUTION to this situation. She doesn’t want it solved. She wants justifications!!!

 

[Late Bloomer]

How does a human being react if he/she is asked a question like this, knowing they haven’t done anything? How would you answer?
You would deny it. How would you do that?
Now compare it to how she reacted.

Ok, here is the deal. Take note of this as you can apply it across the board in your human interactions.
We will keep it in context for learning purposes.

Let’s say she is optimizing her options. She is either having thoughts about sleeping with another guy(s) or already is.
She knows this is wrong. Now she has to work backwards to now justify it in her own mind. She will literally start a fight that you can’t win because you think it’s about the subject being discussed and her purpose is undisclosed.

What is her purpose? She is baiting you to either go off on her or create a severe emotional response in you. Once you react and fight back, she now has her justification and can feel better about her actions.

There’s things going on that you are clueless about do to lack of experience. Never, ever, argue with a woman. It’s NEVER about what she is arguing about. Get that in your head. Right now. She will take you in circles without any resolution whatsoever. It will wreck your reality and pound you down into the mud.

You have a lot of work to do on yourself as a man. There is NO FUKKING SOLUTION to this situation. She doesn’t want it solved. She wants justifications!!!

Christ in heaven didn't think of it this way

 

[Epic Days]

Christ in heaven didn't think of it this way

You can take this one to the bank. She will forgive her fuk toys almost any grievous conduct under the sun. But you?
The point is that it’s what she’s done. Not what you’ve done. Set this in stone.

 

[soulforge]

She isn't a BDP

You became a spineless lil bich...

If a woman ever tried to touch me, slap me... I would grab her azz, put her over my shoulder and throw her azz out.. Serious!

Guys always claime she has a mental disorder, so they can avoid looking at where they goofed up.

When a woman treats you like shyte.. Its usually because she has last respect.

Probably because you let her get away with too much... You needed her puzzy too much.

 

[Late Bloomer]

She isn't a BDP

You became a spineless lil bich...

If a woman ever tried to touch me, slap me... I would grab her azz, put her over my shoulder and throw her azz out.. Serious!

Guys always claime she has a mental disorder, so they can avoid looking at where they goofed up.

When a woman treats you like shyte.. Its usually because she has last respect.

Probably because you let her get away with too much... You needed her puzzy too much.

Thanks soul forge - you certainly don't sugar coat your words

 

[user43770]

how do i separate baseline female insanity (BFI) from full blown BPD diagnostically speaking?

My wife:

1. blames me for all of her issues
2. screams at me about the tiniest things
3. no matter how much i do, its never even close to enough
4. wants me to suffer and "feel" her emotions
5. wants me to do her chores
6. has slapped in the face while arguing over nothing
7. curses at me while fighting (i never do this)
8. is disrespectful and unappreciative when i help out - which is too often (cooking, cleaning, kids chores, etc)
9. withholds sex (completely)
10. creates drama and strife every weekend out of frustration, makes whole house miserable

I was an ideal husband for years and years. patience, virtue, commitment, always being the bigger person.

Is she nuts? how does this stack up to your experiences?

my girlfriends never treat me this way.

NN. Well done, sir

 

[Spaz]

NN. Well done, sir

Could be.

 

[user43770]

Could be.

The Ninja is the best troll I've ever seen. He's one of my favorite posters.

 

[Spaz]

The Ninja is the best troll I've ever seen. He's one of my favorite posters.

I doubt anyone could ever beat Bigdave and I've heard he's been at it since his teens.

But they all have something in common.

Mental issues.

 

[user43770]

I doubt anyone could ever beat Bigdave and I've heard he's been at it since his teens.

But they all have something in common.

Mental issues.

Bigdave was a sperg. Same thing over and over. Just like biggoal, but different.

Naughty Ninja is witty and attempts to challenge conventional thinking.

Then again, they could all be the same person. Talk about a troll job...

 

[Spaz]

Bigdave was a sperg. Same thing over and over. Just like biggoal, but different.

Naughty Ninja is witty and attempts to challenge conventional thinking.

Then again, they could all be the same person. Talk about a troll job...

It doesn't matter why type they are, as far as I'm concerned they're all nut jobs.

The only difference is that the former is born with it and thus has no control whilst the latter made a choice and has control over it.

 

[soulforge]

Thanks soul forge - you certainly don't sugar coat your words

Sorry man, I don't Mean to be harsh.

However there should never be a point in your life when a woman lays a finger on you, and you let her get away with that shyte.

She must instinctivly know deep inside, that any type of disrespect will be dealt with ruthlessnes.

 

[Late Bloomer]

Sorry man, I don't Mean to be harsh.

However there should never be a point in your life when a woman lays a finger on you, and you let her get away with that shyte.

She must instinctivly know deep inside, that any type of disrespect will be dealt with ruthlessnes.

Ha no prob - life stings right? Appreciate your thoughts and I agree