Giving me only small time slots? WTF

[mercutio1976]

So I matched this woman on a dating website a few days ago. She seemed totally into me. SHE was one pursuing me and taking the initiative with emails. After a few back and forth I tell her I'm not that into email but text me so we can have a first phone conversation. I also mention to her to text me a full body shot since her online profile only had 2 pictures of her head. She texts me early this afternoon just as I asked with a nice body shot and a nice message. I reply asking if she can phone talk sometime today. And this is where it goes south. She replies, "I can talk tomorrow morning before 10am (Saturday). Are you available in the morning? or Sunday morning?" WTF? Really? That really rubbed me the wrong way. I never replied. I kind of feel like she is now de-prioritizing me and de-valueing me. I never really pursue women that don't put me first and prioritize me. Granted I think she has a kid so may have him around, but still. She can't talk all day today or tonight or anytime this weekend but a couple small slots in the early morning before 10am? How would you all handle that? I kind of want to just cut her off for good but now having second thoughts that maybe I should reply with something. How would you handle it? Should I move on?

 

[MillionBillionaire]

So your hung up on a chick you haven't even met yet?

 

[mercutio1976]

So your hung up on a chick you haven't even met yet?

NO not "hung up" on her. Just asking advice. Should I even reply to a woman that gives me these small time slots for a first call. Just seems like she has better things to do. Total turn off.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I'll give you a hint...

The title of your post is "Blah blah blah... WTF?"

Whenever a woman has you guessing WTF? Your in for disappointment and dissatisfaction.

Seems like you knew that just needed someone to wake you up.

 

[lamath]

I'll give you a hint...

The title of your post is "Blah blah blah... WTF?"

Whenever a woman has you guessing WTF? Your in for disappointment and dissatisfaction.

Seems like you knew that just needed someone to wake you up.

Wise word

 

[Igetit!]

Dude....you're WEIRD.

What makes you think a STRANGER.......someone you've NEVER MET before should make you a priority in THEIR life?

How many strangers,people who you don't know do you currently have prioritized in YOUR life right now?

Should I even reply to a woman that gives me these small time slots for a first call.

Ok,help me out here.........

You asked her if she could speak to you today........she then said she'd be available to talk tomorrow instead.

And that was a problem why?

Just seems like she has better things to do.

I guess I can see your point. She has a kid.....a child that requires tending to,but why focus on taking care of her baby when she could instead be talking on the phone to some stranger she met on the internet. Boy....that chick has some nerve....

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I'll give you a hint...

The title of your post is "Blah blah blah... WTF?"

Whenever a woman has you guessing WTF? Your in for disappointment and dissatisfaction.

Seems like you knew that just needed someone to wake you up.

Just want to make my post clear a Woman should make her interest clear... She has a kid around? She will say so... she busy at this very moment? She will actually call you right back.

I think the op wanted her to declare her undying love to him right away. Witch will never happen.

But if a woman is actually interested she will make things easy.

 

[RickTheToad]

@mercutio1976 Dude... One word. N-E-X-T.

Why do you dudes make things so complicated? I think dudes are the best people who complicate their own lives with little effort. STOP.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

A normal, healthy person will never prioritize someone they just met. Kudos to her for not dropping everything to accommodate a random dude.

 

[Spaz]

Typical mommy boy syndrome.

Cry a bit and mommy comes running.

Unfortunately, other women aren't ur mommy, act accordingly.

 

[DariusTheBartender]

The medium is the message. Listen to her actions not her words. Not worth your time and energy.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

How are your jimmies so rustled?

So I matched this woman on a dating website a few days ago. She seemed totally into me. SHE was one pursuing me and taking the initiative with emails. After a few back and forth I tell her I'm not that into email but text me so we can have a first phone conversation. I also mention to her to text me a full body shot since her online profile only had 2 pictures of her head. She texts me early this afternoon just as I asked with a nice body shot and a nice message. I reply asking if she can phone talk sometime today. And this is where it goes south. She replies, "I can talk tomorrow morning before 10am (Saturday). Are you available in the morning? or Sunday morning?" WTF? Really? That really rubbed me the wrong way. I never replied. I kind of feel like she is now de-prioritizing me and de-valueing me. I never really pursue women that don't put me first and prioritize me. Granted I think she has a kid so may have him around, but still. She can't talk all day today or tonight or anytime this weekend but a couple small slots in the early morning before 10am? How would you all handle that? I kind of want to just cut her off for good but now having second thoughts that maybe I should reply with something. How would you handle it? Should I move on?

OP sounds like you want a psycho. If a woman shows extremely high interest before she even knows me then it demonstrates her low value and triggers natural aversion. She would only be a hookup, never anything more. I'd rather date a girl that's realistic and not putting up a facade or resenting me from the get go. That girl is more sane than you OP lol.

The very fact that you're phased and bothered by her behavior shows a lack of mental stability. I'm not trying to put you down but if she can't even give you a counter offer to have your first phone conversation ever the following morning without you getting upset then how are you cut out for a relationship?

The only way you're going to get anywhere with any woman is by not letting her actions get to you. If you feel she's being disrespectful then make it known and attempt to talk it out or leave. Getting upset or emotional does absolutely nothing for you, in fact it works against you. Learn to observe your emotions and thoughts without identifying with them.

 

[AJ84]

Dude....you're WEIRD.

What makes you think a STRANGER.......someone you've NEVER MET before should make you a priority in THEIR life?

How many strangers,people who you don't know do you currently have prioritized in YOUR life right now?



Ok,help me out here.........

You asked her if she could speak to you today........she then said she'd be available to talk tomorrow instead.

And that was a problem why?



I guess I can see your point. She has a kid.....a child that requires tending to,but why focus on taking care of her baby when she could instead be talking on the phone to some stranger she met on the internet. Boy....that chick has some nerve....

A normal, healthy person will never prioritize someone they just met. Kudos to her for not dropping everything to accommodate a random dude.

If the thread was about a random girl who expected him to put her as a priority above everything else she would be called an entitled princess who he should only have as a plate of course.

 

[sazc]

If the thread was about a random girl who expected him to put her as a priority above everything else she would be called an entitled princess who he should only have as a plate of course.

Haha they don't care about their double standards, good catch tho

 

[AttackFormation]

OP you're making this a way bigger deal than it is, and it honestly sounds like you have your own psychological issues from the way you are blowing up about it. And most of all don't deny that you did, you would not have considered cutting her off and felt she devalues you and made a thread about it on SS otherwise. I would recommend just taking a step back and talking to her some other time, introspecting over your feelings and response about this for your own sake, and personally I think there's no need to talk over the phone... just suggest to meet in a public place.

 

[RickTheToad]

A normal, healthy person will never prioritize someone they just met. Kudos to her for not dropping everything to accommodate a random dude.

Depends.