Another one of those should I persist posts

[JimiZ]

So about 2 months ago, I took this girl out on a few dates. First was just drinks, second was a picnic in a beach. She definitely liked me- gum quite sure of that. She initiated spending the next day with me before she went back to her uni. This all happened in the period of 6 days. Next day I got a LJBF text- “both at different times of our lives and I’m a great guy, blah blah.” Haven’t contacted her since.

I’ve been seeing other girls in the mean time. Tinder girls mostly. And have been dating, but I just want true internet’s opinions on whether I should even bother with her again. I liked her. Took the rejection quite badly.
However. Im not a victim of oneitus. Just want to challenge myself to see if I can actually turn things around with her. Anyone ever managed to turn one of these around? I see a lot of desperate posts like this and the usual response is “Stop being a beta and go **** other girls.” Which I think sounds more “beta” than actually trying to find a connection.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

You already tried to find the connection. It didn't happen. It could be no fault of your own. The reason she gave you is among the top 5 generic excuses women use to let you down easy when they just aren't into you. You may not be her type. She may have been talking to another guy or guys and one of them was more interesting to her. You may have said or done something to blow it. Who knows. Doesn't matter now because you'll never find out so move on.

Absolutely, try to find a connection. But do it with other girls. You must realize that chasing never works. Chasing is when a girl dumps you, blows you off, tells you she isn't interested, etc, and yet you still pursue her IN ANY WAY. When a girl says she doesn't want you, you walk away and never look back. This means no "likes" on social media, no birthday txts or emails..... Zero contact) interaction of any kind. If you reach out, it will only lower your value in her eyes more than it already has because she will view you as a guy who is desperate and clearly has no options with women. She will not feel special from your pursuit. She will instead feel disgust, even more so than she may already be feeling for you now.

 

[backseatjuan]

Dude bra bro mother fcker. Picnic beach is what boyfriend and girlfriend do. You fcked up. Women want sex, not long term relationships. learn from it.

Absolutely anything you do to initiate, tells her you want long term relationship, and automatic no.

So let yourself loose with this new information, go fck them.

 

[JimiZ]

You already tried to find the connection. It didn't happen. It could be no fault of your own. The reason she gave you is among the top 5 generic excuses women use to let you down easy when they just aren't into you. You may not be her type. She may have been talking to another guy or guys and one of them was more interesting to her. You may have said or done something to blow it. Who knows. Doesn't matter now because you'll never find out so move on.

Absolutely, try to find a connection. But do it with other girls. You must realize that chasing never works. Chasing is when a girl dumps you, blows you off, tells you she isn't interested, etc, and yet you still pursue her IN ANY WAY. When a girl says she doesn't want you, you walk away and never look back. This means no "likes" on social media, no birthday txts or emails..... Zero contact) interaction of any kind. If you reach out, it will only lower your value in her eyes more than it already has because she will view you as a guy who is desperate and clearly has no options with women. She will not feel special from your pursuit. She will instead feel disgust, even more so than she may already be feeling for you now.

Yeah, I completely agree with everything you said, however she had just come out of a 4 year relationship (they broke up 4 months before we met). So she obviously didn't want anything serious, so I think that we really were at different times- I made it quite clear I was interested in a relationship with her- I came on strong (Yup, big mistake). I was also the first guy she had been on a date with since her ex. She obviously wasn't over the relationship yet, and me making it so clear that I wanted a relationship with her most likely scared her off.

 

[JimiZ]

Dude bra bro mother fcker. Picnic beach is what boyfriend and girlfriend do. You fcked up. Women want sex, not long term relationships. learn from it.

Absolutely anything you do to initiate, tells her you want long term relationship, and automatic no.

So let yourself loose with this new information, go fck them.

This guy

 

[jaymbrs]

If you reach out, nothing will come from it. She told you she's not interested. The only way to get out of the "LJBF" zone is if she reaches out to you.