"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you think that as women cross The Wall event horizon, they severely drop their Sexual Market requirements?

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
I have a hunch that this gal was in demand during her early years, and the utter horror at the realization that her complexion was fading has made her an exhibitionist, which is really a way that woman basically announce "I will let anyone do me". I also remember a while back the once-very-hot actress Marisa Tomei was a well-clothed prude that after age 35 or so seemed to *only* do movies in which there was ample raw T & A scenes.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
I have a hunch that this gal was in demand during her early years, and the utter horror at the realization that her complexion was fading has made her an exhibitionist, which is really a way that woman basically announce "I will let anyone do me". I also remember a while back the once-very-hot actress Marisa Tomei was a well-clothed prude that after age 35 or so seemed to *only* do movies in which there was ample raw T & A scenes.
She is not right in her head. Thought there are tonnes of horndogs so a woman's sexual value is always at the roof since everything is a sausage fest with online dating. She may not get Chads or Chadlited. Unless that theory is wrong.
 

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I was reading this, and it got me interested:
I have a hunch that this gal was in demand during her early years, and the utter horror at the realization that her complexion was fading has made her an exhibitionist, which is really a way that woman basically announce "I will let anyone do me".
Your hunch seems really self-centered to try and soothe some pain or difficulty you have from a woman or the lack of a woman.

People have real problems in life. This woman has real problems. She has no "utter horror at the realization that her complexion was fading..." - where did you get that from? Not from her story. I think that's coming from inside your own head.

She might be homeless, might be a drug addict, might have seen loved ones suffer or even die in illness, might have had her children taken away, might have PTSD from military service or other trauma, might just be hopeless - who knows. She just couldn't cope with reality at this moment in her life, but I don't see anything in the article that would suggest she is focused on her inability to get the man of her dreams. I think she's just messed up.

Think of her as a human first, and not a video game character whose pattern of movement you are trying to predict. It's sad.
 
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