Should I invite her?

[B0redandl0nely]

So I texted the chick from last night telling her I had a good time to which she replied "Me too! what time is your game?"I told her "2:30 on the soccer field" but I think I should have followed up with something like "you wanna come and watch?" I'm a little clumsy on the field and I don't get the ball passed to me very much because of my condition so I was worried that it might not look good. Am I better off asking anyway? I play flag football for a recreational league at my college.

 

[sazc]

Ah. So she showed....?
All that anxiety, wasted.
Work on your IDGAF mindset, eh?

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Ah. So she showed....?
All that anxiety, wasted.
Work on your IDGAF mindset, eh?

Yup

 

[GrowingPains]

I mean... inviting her doesn't really do anything for you. It's not like you're going to talk to her at the game. It sounds like it's only going to make you play worse if she's there - added pressure. Just play and enjoy yourself.

Tell her when/where it is and that she's welcome to come if she wants. Don't ask her if she wants to come though. You shouldn't care if she does/doesn't show up. You're there to play a game either way.

 

[Robert28]

What you should be doing is asking her to meet up after your game. “Hey, lets get together after my game and go do so and so”.

 

[Glassguy]

So is boredandlonely Richard the Frog????

 

[Atom Smasher]

@B0redandl0nely
What is your condition? I think perhaps we can help you more if we know what it is you're facing.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

@B0redandl0nely
What is your condition? I think perhaps we can help you more if we know what it is you're facing.

Aspergers, anxiety, depression, ocd

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Well we "hung out" and she wasn't even in the mood to kiss me at the end. She kept asking me hard questions, and told me to "be honest with myself" at the end of the date. I don't know what's going on

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I said some stupid things. I'm thinking about apoligizing to her for what I said

 

[Atom Smasher]

Your problems seem to distill down to a severe lack of confidence socially.

I used to be the most awkward person on the planet, never knowing what to say. Here's how I fixed myself:

I decided to engage in small-talk with strangers every single day. Nothing works better to calibrate yourself socially. Talk to men and women alike. Keep that up and you'll start seeing your confidence growing. Just ask people how they are, what time it is, how do they like the weather, simple things. 75% of people will respond to you favorably, 23% will be neutral, and about 2% will seem unfriendly.

You need to stop reacting to how people treat you and instead PROVIDE something to them. Be friendly and chat.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

At the end of the date she told me to "be honest with myself." What could that mean?

 

[B0redandl0nely]

She ignored my apology text. Now I can't sleep...

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I shouldn't have sent that text. It made me look weak...

 

[B0redandl0nely]

She still hasn't responded and I can't stop thinking about it. I have a job interview at 1:30 and I can't even get myself in the shower. I just keep reading Doc Love articles. I'm so sick over this. It's all my fault

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Ok so nobody's gonna say anything else to me?

 

[Murk]

Ok so nobody's gonna say anything else to me?

Get the fvck in the shower and go to your interview, worry about this sh*t later