Is baldness really that big of a deal?

[guru1000]

It is how attractive you look without hair, it’s your SMV.

SMV means shlt, when your vibe is off. Trust me on this one.

 

[zekko]

You can mix up 1000 different combinations of skin color, jaw angle, BF%, all of that...at the end of the day....for me....the VIBE a man radiates TRUMPS all of that!!

You're saying it's not how you look, it's who you are. There's some truth in that, but when you're talking about dating and SMV, a person generally has to pass a looks test before he can move on to other filters. Also, are you saying that it's all about vibe for men only, or do you think this applies to both men and women?

It would be nice to say that a person is as hot as he "owns his look", but life isn't all that fair. Fact is, some people look better than others. Head down to the local Wal-mart, look around, and compare if you don't believe me.

Now just because a guy isn't very attractive, that doesn't mean his life has no merit or that he can't ever get a date or a girlfriend or whatever. But if I had said someone doesn't look good in a certain shirt, or if some guy doesn't look good in a mustache or whatever, or if those glasses doesn't suit his face, no one would have batted an eye. But because I said I don't think I would look good bald, now it's all about vibe.

 

[zekko]

Now just because a guy isn't very attractive, that doesn't mean his life has no merit or that he can't ever get a date or a girlfriend or whatever. That was the point of my post!!! Bald men can still be incredibly HOT (even without hair)!!!!

Well, I don't think you have to be "incredibly HOT" to get a date, or have a girlfriend. I know some guys here think that way, with the hypergamy and the top 20% and all that.

But I never said a bald man couldn't be "incredibly HOT", nor did I ever think it. I said I don't think I would look good bald. While it's a very good look for some, I don't think every guy is going to look good bald, anymore than every guy is going to look that good in the first place. That said, if a guy is unattractive, for whatever reason, he really doesn't have any choice other than to "own it". As I said to BigDave, no matter what your circumstance, you'll probably do better with a positive attitude than a negative attitude. Even an ugly dog can be kind of cute, I guess.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Who cares what women think, the world doesn't revolve around them nor their opinions. Find some other outlets in your life this is depressing

 

[touma.akagi]

If your head isn't mis-shapen or dented, then being bald should be fine. That said though, most younger men on this site still have years before they need to worry about it

 

[Who Dares Win]

"its all in your head bro, the hair on your head make no difference on how you look if you dont let it affect you"

Looking like that "old man" or looking like a "mature businessman" has nothing do with that.

 

[MatureDJ]

Baldness is half way to incel-tier destiny, although some men can pull it off.

That said, "Jewish" baldness (i.e., just a hole at the top, hence the yarmulke) but with a strong, thick front can be OK.

 

[MatureDJ]

"its all in your head bro, the hair on your head make no difference on how you look if you dont let it affect you"

Looking like that "old man" or looking like a "mature businessman" has nothing do with that.

I remember when I was in my late 20s, dating a gal the same age, and Connery was picked to be "Sexist Man Alive" at age 62. This gal was fawning about how sexy he was, and it was the first time in my life that I realized that age is not so important in a man.

 

[zekko]

it was the first time in my life that I realized that age is not so important in a man.

I saw so many examples of this throughout my entire life, that I swore I would never let my age bother me when it came to women. And for the most part it never did, although I have to admit as I'm approaching 60, I've faltered a bit with my attitude.

We've seen 80 year old dudes with younger women, but by that point I'm not sure anyone is going to claim that it's a physical attraction. There's a line somewhere.

 

[Trump]

Granted, it helps that I'm 6'4"

Question asked. Question answered.

 

[Mike32ct]

Baldness is half way to incel-tier destiny, although some men can pull it off.

That said, "Jewish" baldness (i.e., just a hole at the top, hence the yarmulke) but with a strong, thick front can be OK.

I was under the impression that crown balding was worse than receding in the front. But not 100 percent sure.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I was under the impression that crown balding was worse than receding in the front. But not 100 percent sure.

Hard to say, the crown is not critical if the rest is in place in terms of body shape while its a deadly blow if you are skinny fat or have a dad bod.

The receding hairline screws up the proportion in your face so again it takes a very masculine face to balance it, anyone with a delicate face suffers most of the damage.

In that case an average looking but manly guy gets struck less hard than a good looking guy with a delicate boy like face.

I believe hair problems when it comes of looks are the second biggest issue after being short.

 

[zekko]

I was under the impression that crown balding was worse than receding in the front. But not 100 percent sure.

I would think the receding front would be worse. Girls are shorter, so they look up at you. Half the time they probably wouldn't even see it if your crown was thinning. And you wouldn't see it in the mirror so it would be less likely to mess with your self esteem.

 

[Mike32ct]

I would think the receding front would be worse. Girls are shorter, so they look up at you. Half the time they probably wouldn't even see it if your crown was thinning. And you wouldn't see it in the mirror so it would be less likely to mess with your self esteem.

I only get self-conscious of the crown while seated at the bar (because it’s near eye-level). Not a big deal while standing.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I know bald dudes with dad bods getting ladies. Just get to low bf

 

[malz1]

A balding fat guy with game will get more a$$ than a chad too terrified to approach and hampered with self doubt issues.

Lmao. No...

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Lmao. No...

Funny he posted that last Thursday I went out with a chick I knew for her birthday. We went to a bar couple miles from where we stayed as we walked in I noticed this smoke show. She was sitting down so I only saw half her body. Her face was attractive, next to her was a bald fat guy in a suit who didn't even bother to shave his head. As we make our way around the bar me and the chick sit a few seats away from them. After 10 minutes or so the smoke show gets up and I was like wow. This chick had a perfect chest flat waist, curves one of the nicest feminine bodies I seen in awhile. This hot chick went to the bathroom I couldn't stop staring. When she walked back from the bathroom the chick I was with even checked her out. I tried not to stare but when she say down she was being affectionate with the bald fat dude hanging on his arm, head on his shoulder.... I was humbled they ending up leaving holding hands

 

[malz1]

Funny he posted that last Thursday I went out with a chick I knew for her birthday. We went to a bar couple miles from where we stayed as we walked in I noticed this smoke show. She was sitting down so I only saw half her body. Her face was attractive, next to her was a bald fat guy in a suit who didn't even bother to shave his head. As we make our way around the bar me and the chick sit a few seats away from them. After 10 minutes or so the smoke show gets up and I was like wow. This chick had a perfect chest flat waist, curves one of the nicest feminine bodies I seen in awhile. This hot chick went to the bathroom I couldn't stop staring. When she walked back from the bathroom the chick I was with even checked her out. I tried not to stare but when she say down she was being affectionate with the bald fat dude hanging on his arm, head on his shoulder.... I was humbled they ending up leaving holding hands

The fat balding guy is betabuxxing or statusmaxxed. This is moot anyhow as your anecdote doesn't support her choosing a fat balding guy over an insecure chad without other caveats involved.

As a 'chad,' I have daily perspective on what women want and don't want. Not just "that one time I saw this happen".

 

[casanova]

Exactly right. If it shakes his confidence, that’s not good and he’s not centered. Looks change as we age, it needs to be accepted …

Totally true, embrace it because its who you are. Changing your looks is extremely easy, botox, injections etc. Accept your flaws and make them your best part.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

The fat balding guy is betabuxxing or statusmaxxed. This is moot anyhow as your anecdote doesn't support her choosing a fat balding guy over an insecure chad without other caveats involved.

As a 'chad,' I have daily perspective on what women want and don't want. Not just "that one time I saw this happen".

Everything on here is an anecdote. You think I believe most of the stories or rankings on here? Beta bucks or not which you also can't prove is irrelevant. He's smashing some top poon and you're not