Unfriended, then refriended oneitis on FB. Does she know why I did it?

[Robert28]

Op, when a woman friend zone's you, take it out. Otherwise suggest she introduce you to her hotter younger friends or drop dead.

Girls like this don’t have hotter younger friends usually. If it’s anything, they’re fat weird girls cause she’s always got to be the hottest in the group.

 

[Robert28]

Did you not sense her slightly butthurt tone? "Oh so we're connected but you're not my friend anymore?" Etc

Women panic/react when you walk away- thats why its always the best option

The friendzone is for errand boys that might prove useful somehow, non-sexually

An alpha refuses this position, he walks away

I don’t unfriend on Facebook because I like keeping them around so they can see who I’m going out with that’s hotter. I know this because there will be a time these bitches will be sitting home alone, freshly dumped by a jackass and she will be on Facebook scrolling away only to come across freshly uploaded pics of the guy she dumped (you) with a girl that she knows she can’t compete with. Eats. Them. Alive. You want to kick a girl in the *****? Go out and get someone hotter after she dumps you. Yeah her new fling she left you for might be all bright and shiny now, but it won’t last and you’ll still be with the girl you upgraded to. I’ve done this, it works!

You get ALL your power back in one fell swoop. You’ve GOT to upgrade though, it won’t work if you date a girl that’s less than what dumped you.

 

[ghcortez]

Would it be alpha to get a can of spraypaint and draw a big red d*ck on the side of her 4Runner.

 

[backseatjuan]

I’d had a massive oneitis

Today it's one it is, tomorrow it's another one. You have some deep emotional issues within you, which turn women off. Obviously you're not a bad looking guy, as she did pursuing and initiating, but your soul is fcked up, once you get to know them you want to wife them. Serious bullsht, and you need to address that.

Would it be alpha to get a can of spraypaint and draw a big red d*ck on the side of her 4Runner.

You're not taking sht in your life seriously, and you have incorrect view of reality.

Interest level scale

100% -- She thinks of you as her one true love, and shows it in every way.

Now back in reality, this does not exist, and is as likely as having a HB that everyone in the world can agree is a perfect 10. This will never happen cause we all know Pook will not agree any girl is a 10, so that is not a 100% world population vote.

90-99% -- She is really hot for you, and your presence turns her on. She will jump at any opportunity to be with you, and is always happy when you are around. She thinks of you as her hero.

Good work fellow DJ! J

80-89% -- You are in the green zone. Everything is peachy, and things are going well. The relationship is good, and the sex is good. Disputes are rare, and often resolved quickly and easily. She enjoys your time, and has the deepest respect for you.

You can boost her interest level by being slightly more of a challenge, and doing more spontaneous things. You don’t want to let things get boring and predictable now do we?

70-79% -- This is the green/yellow zone for the DJ, but for our AFC, its still well in the green. With this amount of interest, the girl is well into you, and enjoys your company. However, she feels that in the back of her mind, she may be able to do better. Comparative psychology kicks in here, and her female logic may start up. She may throw some tests at you now and then at a subconscious level to see how manly you are.

At this point, DO NOT PUT HER ON A PETASTOOL UNDER ANY CIRCOMSTANCES!!! Some neg hits now and then may help. Be more ****y and funny, and keep phone conversations to a minimum and only to set up dates. Over the phone, you can’t display things like eye contact, kino, or body language to show you are an alpha male, and the longer you talk, the more AFC you look. Proximity plays a lot for attraction. Keep it short, sweet, and don’t try and impress her. She has to feel she has to impress you. Make sure at this point, you look out for number one, YOUR SELF! Act like you enjoy having her around, but she is not at the top of your lists on priorities. Remain challenging, don’t let anything she says get to you, bother, or phase you. Show social proof, be mysterious, spontaneous, and put your DJ skills to work.

60-69% -- Yellow zone! At this point, the girl thinks of you with potential, but her interest level is iffy. She will do lots of things to test what kind of a man you are, and see how you handle situations. Girls with this much interest seem flaky quite often, but are actually more sinister. Girls with this interest, or show this amount of interest quite often get AFCs on a string. She will flirt with you, and think sexually about you. However, don’t expect her to call you up, and always want you to hang around her.

She feels the man still has to prove himself to her (by not proving yourself to her, and making her feel she has to prove herself to you). Female logic at its best! (but she won’t admit that, so don’t ask girls for advice on what they want.) Lots of girls seem to start around this interest level when you meet them provided you did your DJing well when you met. Some higher, some lower, but you get the idea. You don’t want your relationship to be stuck here though. Lots of AFCs that get into relationships are eternally stuck here at best. The girl will feel she could do better, and you are the back up. The trick is to not be around her all the time. Show you have a life, and are able to take care of yourself. You don’t need her, but if she is with you, she will see what you are about. You are a man, a positive, outgoing strong individual that will enrich her world. Man do the picking, but women do the choosing.

50-59% -- RED ZONE!!! Its still salvageable, but you have to play your cards right. She feels attracted to you, but has doubts in her mind, and isn’t sure where it will go. When you see her, she may be happy to see you, and you get along great. Heavy flirting and even sex may happen. Although, she seems to have to take off early sometimes, or something came up. The time you spend together seems enjoyable, but she isn’t as available as she SHOULD be. Random things come up now and then, and although she doesn‘t have time for you, she has time for her friends.

Don’t take anything personally at this point. A girl like this will attract AFCs well because it quite often toys with their hopes. STOP CALLING HER 10 TIMES A DAY OR YOU WILL MESS THIS UP!!! The trick here is make yourself less available. Give her less attention, and give other girls more attention. Toss a few neg hits, and be more ****y, and for gods sakes, READ THE DJ BIBLE! Don’t call her for a week or two, and don’t act depressed or desperate. DO NOT TELL HER HOW SPECIAL SHE IS OR HOW WONDERFUL SHE MAKES YOU FEEL!! That is total BS and you know it. She is not making you feel good. If you are an AFC, she is toying with your emotions and hopes. If you are a DJ, it’s a more challenging situation to put your skills to the test, and see if you can get her interest level up. Besides who needs her? There are over 3 billion other girls out there. The most important part if her IL is this high (and some girls you meet will start with this much interest) is make sure you don’t look desperate. They can smell it a mile away, and they think it stinks. Desperation = creepy dude, get away. Aloft = I wonder if I can get his attention?

40-49% -- Point of no return AKA friends zone. At this point, the wise thing to do is next her. The sexual energy isn’t there, or is gone. At best, she thinks of you as a friend, but doesn’t think of you in a romantic way. She may still call you up to help her move her couch, borrow money, or be the sympathetic crying shoulder (emotional tampon) when her X con X boyfriend dumped her. If you are still around her, you are nothing more then an ego boost, and its not healthy for you. Lots of AFCs waste years of their lives in this zone. They don’t get any action other then the occasional hug, cuddle on the couch, or peck on the cheek.

If all you want with this girl is just to be friends, that’s cool. However realize that that is all you are, and don’t get hopeful of anything else coming out of it. Don’t do nice things for her hoping that she will think you are sweet, and feel more romantically for you. That is not how things work. If she is a friend, treat her like one. If she was a guy with the personality she has, would you want her as a friend? AFCs have a habit of letting friends with p*ssys push them around more, even if they won’t take sh!it from a 300 pound psycho killer.

30-39% -- This is what I call the “Why are you still putting up with this chick?” zone. At this point, the girl will porously go out of her way to avoid you.

You should have already picked up all the signs and moved on. She is probably referring to you as “this annoying guy that won’t leave me alone”. She won’t say it to your face though. The reason for that is not because she is “to nice to do something like that” as she would say, but rather she is to disrespectful to be honest and say it straight out. If the worst case scenario comes up, you are always an ego boost to her.

20-29% -- This level of interest is only achievable if you are either forced to be together through marriage, work, school, or other places/situations of that nature. She is repelled by you, and being in the same room makes her sick.

She will find things purposely just to put you down. She can only think of the bad things you did, and has little to no respect for you. She can tolerate being with you only because of work, kids, friends or parental influences. Gold diggers may actually stick around to this level, feign sexual interest, and still say nothing provided they are getting lots of cash and nice gifts, but if they could divorce with half your estate, they are gone!

10-19% -- If you have sunk this low, you are a work of art and a dying, yet sick breed. The girl you are still lingering around or stalking thinks of you as a joke, and an absolute loser. If ever she speaks about you ever, she insults you, and says what a creep you are. You are a true women repellant.

Have some dignity, get a life, leave that poor girl alone, and don’t act so sickeningly depressed. Stop stalking her, and giving her freaky looks. The only way you have a chance with any women is if you get your act together.

0-9% -- if you managed this, you are a very very bad man… You must have done something extremely terrible to her, or someone she cared about. She is frightened of you, and hates you with a cold agonizing fire. You have caused her much suffering and pain.

Most in this category end up in jails for murders, rapes, or other terrorist acts. Most women never hate guys this much.

Hope this info helped to clear up any questions on female interests.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Girls like this don’t have hotter younger friends usually. If it’s anything, they’re fat weird girls cause she’s always got to be the hottest in the group.

So, why readd someone who rejected you? Offers no value. None.

Either she's swallowing my proteins or sending hot friends my way. Useless otherwise. Next her.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I don’t unfriend on Facebook because I like keeping them around so they can see who I’m going out with that’s hotter. I know this because there will be a time these bitches will be sitting home alone, freshly dumped by a jackass and she will be on Facebook scrolling away only to come across freshly uploaded pics of the guy she dumped (you) with a girl that she knows she can’t compete with. Eats. Them. Alive. You want to kick a girl in the *****? Go out and get someone hotter after she dumps you. Yeah her new fling she left you for might be all bright and shiny now, but it won’t last and you’ll still be with the girl you upgraded to. I’ve done this, it works!

You get ALL your power back in one fell swoop. You’ve GOT to upgrade though, it won’t work if you date a girl that’s less than what dumped you.

I never do. I did however forget to remove a skank. My buddy and I took a run at her a decade ago. He struck out. I put work in. Chilled 1x. Never saw her again.

Saw her e raging. Present day single fat as ****kkk white mom. She literally gained 300lbs. Looks like a **** lifestyle, devils triangle, and donuts caught up with her lulz

I had a field day seeing that.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yeah thats a trainwreck

You need to walk away and never look back

She wants you in her life as errand boy

Why cause yourself this pain?

She dont care. She only cares about herself

End it bro, end her hold on you

I know its real hard but walk away!

When we allow positions like this it sets our expectations for the rest of your life. Dont block your blessings with foolishness.

 

[soulforge]

I found this post difficult to read.

Serious cringe!

I'm guessing op is quite young.. He will eventually learn.. More than likely the hard way.

 

[sosousage]

I dated a woman for five weeks. She initiated everything, but lost interest and friendzoned me. I’d had a massive oneitis crush on her all year, and her rejection cut deep. Like worst pain I’ve ever felt deep. I tried to play it off like I was unbothered and made the huge mistake of trying to stay friends, but couldn’t handle it when she became intimate with someone else a few weeks later. One morning I decided the pain was too much and I needed to delete her from my life, so I unfriended her on FB. A few hours later, I regretted it, backtracked, and sent a new friend request along with an apology. The following cringey text exchange followed:

me: Sorry!

her: for what

me: I knee-jerked into unfriending you this morning, then regretted it and sent you a friend request with the msg "sorry!" to try to play it off like an accident. I don't want to talk about it, just undo it.

her: So you do or don't want to be my friend?

me: I just want to stay connected on FB

her: wow ok not friends just connected

me: I can't answer these questions I just wish I hadn't done that

her: Next time you do any jerking in the morning, make sure it doesn't involve ending friendships.
her: P.S. you can text any time just to say "hi"

me: I'm sorry I dropped you. I don't have anything else worth saying.

her: Have a good day Brian.

My question is, did my actions expose my true level of butthurt over her rejection? Does she know why I did it?

wtf bro last time i said sorry to girl was when i was 17 and virgin

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I found this post difficult to read.

Serious cringe!

I'm guessing op is quite young.. He will eventually learn.. More than likely the hard way.

Then he will be able to teach on it.

 

[dustmuffin]

The last time I was friend zoned was with a woman I had been dating 6 months or so. She had a big house and wanted me to move in and share expenses. I have my own house paid for. I didn't want to move in with her. So one day I get the friend zone text. I just ignored it and cut contact. I met her about a year later at a concert. I have two women about twenty years younger than her with me. She ran away from me. It was comical the look on her face. I was dating one of the women.

 

[ghcortez]

wtf bro last time i said sorry to girl was when i was 17 and virgin

If I ever see her again I’m gonna be the biggest **** ever

 

[GrowingPains]

If I ever see her again I’m gonna be the biggest **** ever

And that would be even more cringy.

Just ignore her entirely. She gone man, she goooooone. Men shouldn't be friends with women they wanna fvck and this is a prime example.

Who cares if she knows why you did it, which btw... She does because you made it clear af for her in that fb convo, just erase her from your memory.

But keep the lessons. So you don't do more cringy sh!t gahdamn.

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

@ghcortez I'm in a similar situation except I'm the bad a.s.s and the other guy is being the emotional tampon lol

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

@soulforge cringe? I.felt like I was gonna spew from the tension in my stomach after reading that all I can say is ****ing ouch lol

 

[Robert28]

@ghcortez I'm in a similar situation except I'm the bad a.s.s and the other guy is being the emotional tampon lol

This one girl broke it off with me because she thought I was too much of a nice guy (she didn’t say that but I know it’s why she did). Damn if she didn’t come running back when she realized other guys out there were WAY too clingy and needy and she could be fine with my version of “nice”. Too bad I’d already moved on though.

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

@Robert28 well wasn't that a winning scenario? I got the issue of being a a.s.s hole to the girl I'm seeing and she gives a white knight her number so he can listen to her problems about me. Harsh world lol

 

[Robert28]

@Robert28 well wasn't that a winning scenario? I got the issue of being a a.s.s hole to the girl I'm seeing and she gives a white knight her number so he can listen to her problems about me. Harsh world lol

Well I admit I am a nice guy, I habe good morals and all. I’m basically Oz from American Pie. What I’m not is some emotional tampon and I know how to walk away when a girl dumps me. This throws tons of girls for a loop because they expect me to piss and moan and cry in front of them and beg them back. Instead I’m 1,000 miles down the road before they can process what just happened.

I had a new girl in 4 days after she dumped me. She didn’t think “nice guys” were in such demand but she was wrong. Needy whiny bitches aren’t in demand, but guys with good morals are. I love when women realize they’ve made a mistake letting me go and realize it when it’s too late. It’s like a drug to me because I made them want to find someone else like me but they never can.

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

@Robert28 wow! That was a very good piece of info +1. I will admit I'm a good guy I only become the a.s.s hole when they play stupid games and try to get me to submit. I don't care that this girl is a HB9 her personality and mindset is one of a 0. And since she gave her number to another guy after promising she wouldn't do such a thing just lowers her self worth even more.. I'm the prize not her she is now a HB 0- in my eyes

 

[niceguytoalphamale]

@Robert28 like what the **** is she playing At? She's only gonna hurt her self not me.