Do you think single mommies try to make the case with the men they are interested in that they are the better option?

[MatureDJ]

I was reading this, and it got me interested:

Why are so many men scared to date single mothers?

Answer (1 of 118): Scared of dating single mothers? You mean men are not dumb enough to date single mothers. Why would a man with no kids and a decent job decide to date a single mother? Nothing good can come out of that. As a man with no kids and born to a woman who is a single mother I saw firs...

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From personal experience, a single mother of a two-year-old boy really wanted a relationship with me.

She was pretty upfront that she was looking for a man to financially support her and to father more children with her.

I was surprised when she admitted that in her younger party days that she would’ve totally ignored a guy like me, but that now I was her type because I was kind, responsible, and had a good paying career, plus she thought that our kids would be really cute.

It was very clear to her when she told me what all of the benefits that she would receive by dating me. But there was not much that she brought to the table other than offering me sex.

I was kind of young at the time but luckily smart enough to know that it was not a good deal for me.

So I was not scared of dating her, but I did not see the upside for me.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Not sure if appreciating her honesty or taking it as an even worse red flag the fact that she doesnt even bother to lie.

Anyway men should also stop to give financial sanctuary to chads b00ty call and his bastard child, women have to KNOW that such mistake wont come without conseguences.

 

[Alvafe]

Not sure if appreciating her honesty or taking it as an even worse red flag the fact that she doesnt even bother to lie.

Anyway men should also stop to give financial sanctuary to chads b00ty call and his bastard child, women have to KNOW that such mistake wont come without conseguences.

meh more like a manipulation on showing she is better then most, its is a red flag, is not because she don't bother to lie, everyone lie, the main reason is shame, but there is also ego and control, from this you can undertand 3 things, she knows she bring nothing, she is not shamed by her behavior till now, and she understand a guy like him wouldn't waste time on her in a normal situation

the dude did show some good unrestanding about the whole she only can offer sex, but the worse is he still entretain such idea, any responsable men wouldn't even look at her, not even for sex, he would already have girl with him, so wasting time to put her up on rotation is a waste

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Well now that they are single moms they kind of have to. There´s this recently single mom in my orbit, she´s constantly posting on social media "pros" of dating a single mom, and I´ve met a lot of single moms like her. Would they post such things if they were childless? Of course not.

 

[RickTheToad]

Well, I can also state from experience that some single moms are looking for a dude to help her with her bills and life. I was downgraded from a exclusive relationship to a FWB, but I just moved on. It's not worth the headache when there are single ladies that aren't looking for a dude to be capt. save-a-ho. Something, I wouldn't do. I guess we all have to experience this once in our lives, sometimes twice just to get it out of our system. The sex was amazing though; I'll give her that.

 

[Robert28]

My experience is single moms are only looking for a temporary thing with guys that have their **** together, they always go back to the guy that is on drugs and no job and doesn’t have **** going for him. They’re hooked on those types of guys.

 

[RickTheToad]

My experience is single moms are only looking for a temporary thing with guys that have their **** together, they always go back to the guy that is on drugs and no job and doesn’t have **** going for him. They’re hooked on those types of guys.

Not always. Some don't know better. Some are just taught by their family and friends that they deserve better. The old saying rings true. If you tell yourself a lie enough times, you'll believe it.

 

[Sunnypoo]

I stay the fack away from single moms, I've never dated one, never wanted to. They just have absolute zero appeal to me, I don't care how hot they are.

 

[AJ84]

Haha. Seriously of all the demographics of women for a thread topic (college girls, strippers, good girls, virgins, models etc) no other demographic of women gets as many thread topics as the Single Mom. For a demographic that is so disliked and avoided by so many members here, who have had bad experiences with them, those same members sure love to make time commenting about them.

Don’t be with single moms. NOTED. Maybe start threads on how to get women you do want to date?

Lol.

 

[RickTheToad]

Haha. Seriously of all the demographics of women for a thread topic (college girls, strippers, good girls, virgins, models etc) no other demographic of women gets as many thread topics as the Single Mom. For a demographic that is so disliked and avoided by so many members here, who have had bad experiences with them, those same members sure love to make time commenting about them.

Don’t be with single moms. NOTED. Maybe start threads on how to get women you do want to date?

Lol.

Don't hate the playa, hate the game. You date one of your own and let us know how you turn out. Lesbian relationships have a higher failure rate then heterosexual ones. I doubt your hubby will mind. Heck, he may even join in if you pick a hot enough one...

 

[Robert28]

Haha. Seriously of all the demographics of women for a thread topic (college girls, strippers, good girls, virgins, models etc) no other demographic of women gets as many thread topics as the Single Mom. For a demographic that is so disliked and avoided by so many members here, who have had bad experiences with them, those same members sure love to make time commenting about them.

Don’t be with single moms. NOTED. Maybe start threads on how to get women you do want to date?

Lol.

That’s because 65% of women on the market these days ARE single moms. You avoid them and you cut your dating pool drastically. No one is saying wife them up but they’re impossible to avoid so you just have to learn how to deal with them and invest as little as possible compared to women that don’t have kids.

 

[AJ84]

Don't hate the playa, hate the game. You date one of your own and let us know how you turn out. Lesbian relationships have a higher failure rate then heterosexual ones. I doubt your hubby will mind. Heck, he may even join in if you pick a hot enough one...

Lol I don’t hate the player I just don’t get the the focus on women that you don’t want to date or you did date and it didn’t work out.

A single mom doesn’t fit one box of characteristics so ‘one of my own’ isn’t applicable. Is a single dad representative of all single dads? Is a lesbian representative of all lesbians?

Does seem like many of you have had experiences with a particlular group of single moms who are looking for providers, that sucks for sure, but you live, you learn, onwards and upwards no? Don’t date them, understood lol.

 

[AJ84]

That’s because 65% of women on the market these days ARE single moms. You avoid them and you cut your dating pool drastically. No one is saying wife them up but they’re impossible to avoid so you just have to learn how to deal with them and invest as little as possible compared to women that don’t have kids.

Gotta screen for the ones who have just as little interest in investing in you. The wealthier ones looking for a hot guy to unleash her sexual drive onto but doesn’t want to deal with a boyfriend. There must be websites just for causal arragments no?

 

[lamath]

Lol I don’t hate the player I just don’t get the the focus on women that you don’t want to date or you did date and it didn’t work out.

A single mom doesn’t fit one box of characteristics so ‘one of my own’ isn’t applicable. Is a single dad representative of all single dads? Is a lesbian representative of all lesbians?

Does seem like many of you have had experiences with a particlular group of single moms who are looking for providers, that sucks for sure, but you live, you learn, onwards and upwards no? Don’t date them, understood lol.

Imo
Most of the time single mom are single for a reason. Not saying all single.mom are single because becoming a mother changed the way they treat thier BF/husband a relationship.
But ino many are and prob where all thos dont date single Mom come from.


I am not agaist dating single mom, but ill keep my eyes very open if it happens.
Lots of women change once they have a kid and sometime its not good for a relationship

 

[RickTheToad]

Lol I don’t hate the player I just don’t get the the focus on women that you don’t want to date or you did date and it didn’t work out.

A single mom doesn’t fit one box of characteristics so ‘one of my own’ isn’t applicable. Is a single dad representative of all single dads? Is a lesbian representative of all lesbians?

Does seem like many of you have had experiences with a particlular group of single moms who are looking for providers, that sucks for sure, but you live, you learn, onwards and upwards no? Don’t date them, understood lol.

Just warning the others here about what to watch out for. Notice, as I always say, it's the majority, not all. Obviously, if the mom is a widow or something, that's completely different than your standard single mom. Most ladies don't mind single dad's, as they are usually more in control of their situation; as apposed to many single moms.

 

[backseatjuan]

That’s because 65% of women on the market these days ARE single moms.

This. I don't know how you come up with % number, but it's up there. A lot of women have kids.

 

[AJ84]

Just warning the others here about what to watch out for. Notice, as I always say, it's the majority, not all. Obviously, if the mom is a widow or something, that's completely different than your standard single mom. Most ladies don't mind single dad's, as they are usually more in control of their situation; as apposed to many single moms.

I know women who don’t want to date single dads. Sorry but for the attractive man or woman in their 20s with options, they prefer to date single people with no kids. It is what it is.

I also don’t blame anyone for being weary of dating single parents because it can be more complicated, but I don’t paint everyone with the same brush and like I said before in another thread, usually, it’s the character of the single mom, not the fact that she’s a single mom, that’s the issue. A girl looking for a provider and some guy to use will amp that up if she’s a single parent, but she was likely looking for a guy to use before having a kid, and would continue to do that even if she didn’t have a kid. A girl who dates aholes because she’s attracted to them may end up having a kid with one, but having the kid doesn’t change the fact that she was attracted to aholes.

Get what I’m saying? If she got herself knocked up from bad choices, she’s someone who makes bad choices, kid or no kid.

Yes, some single moms for a demographic of women that should be avoided kids or no kids.

But there are lots of single moms who don’t.

There are also lots of deadbeat dads out there but also lots of amazing single dads.

If single moms are not your first choice then don’t fall for them, see if they are fine with something casual and if not move on. Some guys try to game single moms then get bent when she hits him with sh*t tests because she wants more. Not saying that’s your case.

If a guy doesn’t want more from a single mom then next as soon as she starts pushing that or some other red flags, no matter how good the sex is it how hot she is.

 

[AJ84]

Imo
Most of the time single mom are single for a reason. Not saying all single.mom are single because becoming a mother changed the way they treat thier BF/husband a relationship.
But ino many are and prob where all thos dont date single Mom come from.


I am not agaist dating single mom, but ill keep my eyes very open if it happens.
Lots of women change once they have a kid and sometime its not good for a relationship

Everyone becomes single for a reason.

One of the problems some women have is that they marry a man thinking he will change once they are married or have a kid.

Some men are more likely to accept a woman as is simply because she’s hot or the sex is good.

Both are problematic imo.

But yeah being mindful when dating single moms, I agree it’s important because the situation can be more complicated than with a childless woman.

I get why it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

 

[Robert28]

Everyone becomes single for a reason.

One of the problems some women have is that they marry a man thinking he will change once they are married or have a kid.

Some men are more likely to accept a woman as is simply because she’s hot or the sex is good.

Both are problematic imo.

But yeah being mindful when dating single moms, I agree it’s important because the situation can be more complicated than with a childless woman.

I get why it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

Single moms aren’t my cup of tea simply because the ones I know, I know the types of guys they are attracted to and I don’t want to be that type of guy. If she wants to date bums and get knocked up by them, more power to her. She will sit on Facebook with her new man hater friend who made the same bad decisions she did and post memes all day about how “badass she is and how she ain’t got no time for no man” because in reality the men worth a **** don’t want her and the couple she dated for a short while she kicked to the curb for another bum.

 

[AJ84]

Single moms aren’t my cup of tea simply because the ones I know, I know the types of guys they are attracted to and I don’t want to be that type of guy. If she wants to date bums and get knocked up by them, more power to her. She will sit on Facebook with her new man hater friend who made the same bad decisions she did and post memes all day about how “badass she is and how she ain’t got no time for no man” because in reality the men worth a **** don’t want her and the couple she dated for a short while she kicked to the curb for another bum.

Good for you for not willing to be less than who you are to date women. That probably helps attract decent women and helps screen out the ones not worth your time.